More and more children are being diagnosed with disorders such as ADHD and autism. Dr. Gabor Maté of Canada says that the root cause is that the nurturing environment necessary for proper child development has collapsed in America, leading to children who are emotionally detached and have difficulty controlling their impulses. This 60-minute interview is fascinating—be sure to watch it all.
Or, to save time, just scroll down below the video options to read the transcript. (Thanks to Skylar for the suggestion.)
Dr. Gabor Maté on ADHD, bullying and the destruction of American childhood, on DemocracyNow.org.
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awesome article. I read the transcript below in about 10 minutes, you don’t have to spend 60 minutes watching it.
Thanks Donna.
Skylar – Read this thanks, some interesting points.
One thing I noticed about my spath was that he stood back, weighed up what reaction he would get.
He had obviously learnt to weigh up his mother’s reaction/mood before he approached her.
Going back to the first time we met, he stood at the bottom of the escalator waiting for me to go down.
When he met new people he stood back, said nothing, again judging their attitude.
When I sent him packing he would come back, stand across the road, waiting.
Once he had worked out the person he would jump in as Mr Nice Guy, full of charm, chat (yuk)
He hated it if I walked away from him (rejection) chased after me to make amends.
Just these little things which I have thought about since I threw him out.
It makes a little more ‘sense’ since I read this article.
What a concept, raising and loving your children. Who would have thought this a good idea? sarcasm to the ninth degree.
I have been telling folks this for years. NONO they need to interact with children. BS and BS. Again this goes back to the fact that we have become lacks in our duties and have passed the buck to teachers and schools and then complain because “they” who ever “they” are can’t control their classroom and teach. What a crock. If you are not part of the solution YOU are the problem. This is my pet peeve. Trying not to get worked up over this—-but then again it needs to be shouted to the roof tops until everyone and I mean EVERYONE gives a damn.
This is an awesome read. Thanks again for providing me with good brain food.
Common Sense just isn’t as common as it use to be.
Will print this off and give to my children.
Sometimes I think we are preaching to the choir.
Night all—need to get to sleep.
SeeingClearly,
I hear ya!
But here’s the clincher. It’s not WHAT you tell people, it’s WHEN you tell them. They have to be in a state of disintegration. This is the moment you experienced every time you had a WTF? moment. Even more, the day you discovered you had lived with a SOCIOPATH. Whenever you come to the realization that your perception of the world was clearly WRONG, (THE MATRIX MOMENT) that is a state of disintegration and it is the moment when you are open to a new reality. The spaths use this on us with their lies. But we can use it to show others the TRUTH. Watch for those moments, when people have had their world turned upside down. And yes, children do have that happen more often, especially around age 12 as they are experiencing a quickening of growth.
I hope more people read this transcript, it was really great and helped me move forward a lot. Bump.
Skylar,
Of course that is the paradim shift we have talked about. In order to recieve the MESSAGE one must awaken from the Sleeping Beauty Syndrome.
Let me state that the S I encountered did not get the opportunity to scam me, I realize after reading many article both here and elsewhere, how lucky I am to have come out with very little residual damage. B/C of my cogitative thinking, which clued me in, even though I had many WTF moments; helped me. Is he charming and cute, funny YES! but the childessness and lack of deeper conversations clued me in to his lack of connection.
I learned a long long time ago that engaging in a shouting match is a lose lose situtation–it fustrated him to the maxs and he even accused me of gas lighting him! Enough is enough is enough. I accept and embrace my part in this relationship, it has opened up other doors of learning.
When my grandchild acts up he’s not being mean or disobient, he’s trying to tell me in non-verbal language, HEY YOU, I NEED SOME ATTENTION HERE, PLEASE PLAY WITH ME.
That dosen’t mean I give him my undivided attention for hours on end but I do stop whatever I’m doing and pay attention to him. Sometimes it’s only 5 min sometimes longer, until he has the fulfilment he needs to feel loved and secure. We must plug in and stay plugged in. It’s the laziness of parents to dimiss their children and then have the audacity to lay blame and accusations on a “broken” system for the child’s misconduct. I always say look at the trees first and there in lies the problem and the solution. All you have to do is watch SUper Nanny to get it. Herein lies the underlining problems THE PARENTS are probably rearing their children in the same manner as they were or even worse. The skill is not there. It’s work to rear children, hard work. Most do not want to or refuse to put the energy toward the process—it will interfer with their nighty TV show or girls/boys night out.
I’m stopping here—I’m ranting I know!! Sorry, I mean no harm. As I said it is a pet peeve and child abuse of any form will set me reeling.
Thank you for listening and posting. Have a Blessed day all!
Stay Strong Stay Safe Stay Sane
Seeing clearly, I worka full time job as Nanny to my two youngest GK’s and it is a job. One is three, and the other turns two this month. He is full on into the terrible two’s. Talk about entitlement! Demands! Temper tantrums! But it’s a normal part of his development.
But he is 2, not 22, 32, or 42. It is so amazing how like 2 year olds spaths are. It really brings to light the truth about their arrested development.
Excellent post Seeing!
Seeing Clearly,
You do see clearly!
According to the article the children are raising each other and not having contact with their parents. In addition, the parents are so infantile themselves that it might be more detrimental. I’ve met some very mature 16 year olds that I wish were my mom!
This is just another reason why poverty is so destructive in that it distracts people from the essential acts of nurturing their children and even if they climb out of it, the damage to the children is done and can persist from generation to generation.
It’s why psychopaths are trying to destroy our economy. They want to see more suffering and more creatures like themselves being made.
It’s essential that we pull back the curtain and break the spell.
Expose the red flags and teach everyone how to recognize infantile/psychopathic behavior.
Hi Kim,
It’s amazing how LF allows us to talk about things until they are clear. Was it you who introduced the concept of “voicelessness”? I think so.
That idea has stayed with me and I realized that a child has no words to express what he feels, he can only rage cry or charm. Even as he gets older, he doesn’t have too many words. So he acts out, literally acting like he feels inside. He desperately is trying to communicate his emotions so that you will help him “fix” them. The psychopath has that same problem because he is stuck with emotional retardation. When he acts out, it is with much more violence and with the cunning of an adult mind, but still the same root emotional retardation.
Furthermore, depending on the cause of his psychopathy (it could be from brain damage to the frontal lobes), there might not be enough love and attention in the whole world to ever “fix” his emotions, anyway.