More and more children are being diagnosed with disorders such as ADHD and autism. Dr. Gabor Maté of Canada says that the root cause is that the nurturing environment necessary for proper child development has collapsed in America, leading to children who are emotionally detached and have difficulty controlling their impulses. This 60-minute interview is fascinating—be sure to watch it all.
Or, to save time, just scroll down below the video options to read the transcript. (Thanks to Skylar for the suggestion.)
Dr. Gabor Maté on ADHD, bullying and the destruction of American childhood, on DemocracyNow.org.
Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader.
Skylar, the word, “infant,” literally means, “without speech” and because we humans enter into the symbolic order at about the same time we learn to walk, we call the service men that go into combat on foot, the infantry.
They also say that there is no language that adequately expresses trauma, and according to Freud and other psychoanalists, the first trauma experienced by all humans is pre linguistic…It is when we recognize ourselves as seperate from the mother…It is because of this trauma that we learn to talk…it is a kind of boobey prize for having to give up the illusion that we are one with her body, and will always have all our needs magically known and immediatly responded to. Once we recognize our seperation, we learn to speak to bridge the gap. But we can never return to the perfect womb
and connection, ever again.
This is what religion is about…we seek unity with God as an answer to our lost connection.
Did you know the words Sacrid, and Sacrililiac have the same root? This again harkens back to the idea that religions started being developed about the time we humans began walking upright. That is also when language became possible, and also when, for the sake of community, humanity instilled the incest taboo. It’s fascinating stuff.
You can read more about it by googling Jaque Lacan.
I guess you could call that the Psychoanalitical theory of Literature.
Kim,
Fascinating! thanks
Fascinating and to some degree probably right on target about what our children need… What I disagree with is the slam at capitalism. We have not had real capitalism in this country for some time – we have a completely different situation. In socialism and marxism the goal is to break the family unit up in order to get the kids into public or government run care – childcare and then school – in order to indoctrinate them. In fact – it has been published that Gloria Steinem and her MS. Magazine was funded in par by government operatives with a goal of getting more women in the work force in order to have more people that taxes could be collected from and in order to increase the need for the government to raise our children. This I am totally opposed to – it takes the nurturing and love our babies need and leaves them at the mercy of people who are not psychologically or emotionally bonded to them. I work for myself – I could make a lot more money if i worked more and was with my kids less but i chose to be self supporting – my babies went to work strapped to my chest in a baby Bjorn or playing in my office for the first year of their lives. I did not want my kids raised by someone else and after they were one year they rarely spent longer than 5 hours in any childcare setting and quite much less until it came time for Kindergarten and I sent them to half day. Yes there are financial repercussions for me and them but we have a relationship I don;t see many of their friends Mom’s having with their kids…
Breckgirl, You are my kinda woman. I am clapping my hands for you. Did the same thing and both my children are good citizens standing on their own two feet. They use to say “I hate you for_____(fill in blanK) I would say that’s ok I still love you and it is my responsibility to keep you safe. Now my adult children call me everyday and always say I love you Mom that is worth all the money in the bank. How can it not be. All that hard work and worrying has paid off. I know they will be ok. How awesome is that. Break the Cycle, Break the Cycle, Break the freaking crazy Cycle.
breckgirl,
You think there was a conspiracy theory behind the publication of Ms. Mag? I don’t believe it for a minute. The feminist movement is not a socialist or marxist movement.
If we have anything to fear in the US, it’s the FASCISM of people like W.
One and Breck,
I was worried that this conversation would take a political tone. Lots of people blame the feminist movement for the destruction of the family, and liberal values and marxism or capitalism or religion or a particular religion, or how about a race? lots to choose from! there are 2 sexual orientations we can blame.
None of it holds water. In the end any kind of economic theory would work IF THERE WERE NO PSYCHOPATHS!
They infiltrate even the most well intentioned groups of people and they infect it. My spath did this to the water association of all things. When I left we had law suits flying.
Jesus’ message of Christianity is even infected by sicko’s who pervert his message.
They do this in a couple of ways.
1) they attack the group with slander and false accusations or
2) they join the group but behave so scandalously that it gives the entire group a bad name.
George Sorros comes to mind.
but anyway
Sott.net has a good understanding on just how psychopaths are operating around the world. As you yourself have experienced, they con just for the love of the con.
http://www.sott.net/articles/show/219946-Bloody-Trophies
nice job sky. truly truly, what you say is the truth.
I was too. usually don’t voice my opinion about political statements on lf . this time I made an exception. and i have said all i intend to.
I have been involved in a number of political movements in my life, and I now that my generation of ______insert label here_____wouldn’t be in as good a shape as we are if i hadn’t been involved and if i hadn’t stood with thousands of others, or they hadn’t come before me and done a lot of heavy lifting. Yes, there are draw backs to any social change – but, you are correct in seeing the greatest systemic issue: pyscopathy.
what I have noticed is that they love conflict. especially race or gender based. Nothing gets you hotter under the collar than being hated for something that you are and can’t help being. They want to seed shame in us because they are so filled with their own shame. Shame is a deep seated feeling of not being good enough. They know that hook.
Entitlement is another hook. That’s why political arguements works so well to get people angry. It pits us against people who have something we don’t or vice-versa, “hey, how is that fair? they have x and I only have y!” it ties right in with envy.
I love that the spath taught me to look at the emotional tones of an argument instead of being distracted by details.
Now that I have a template on how the spaths work on us, I can see it in every interaction that creates DDDDDRRRRRAAAAAAMMMMMMMAAAAA!
Skylar, The feminist movement is and always has been about empowering women. To free women from the false bonds that many were held in check by. I worked before during and after I had children. My husband KNEW I could and would make it without him if I needed to. It’s like anything else—a choice. Not right or wrong which divides women. I know there are many women who are the sole support of their family. I have seen what it does to women to be alone and struggle. My heart and prayer go out to them on many levels—the whole of the issue is not to go against women but to strengthen them to preserve the family. Bond them for the common good of all.
Bond them not in a sick PS way, bond in a loving and caring community way. It really does take a village.
A family, a community, a state, a nation is only as strong as it’s weakest link. It is up to each of us not only to rebuild ourselves, our children but also our neighbors children. A kind word or deed however small may make a difference in what a child preception of the world is and how she will participate in it.
Good Night—-