How can a run-in with a sociopath be a spiritual journey?

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My first book is entitled, Love Fraud how marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan.

 I imagine that for many of you, your reaction to this title is, “Huh?”

God is good, right? The Universe is supposed to support us, right? So how can there possibly be anything spiritual about having your life trampled by a sociopath?

Believe me, as I was in the midst of the struggle, I asked those questions. Except in my pleadings with my Higher Power, I wasn’t so polite.

As you can see from my wedding video, I was well and truly duped into marrying James Montgomery. He presented himself as a man who was smitten with me, who thought the world of me, who would offer me an opportunity to “live in the lap of luxury.”

Love Fraud tells the story of my seduction.

From the very beginning, I had doubts. I thought the involvement was moving too fast. I noticed that his stories weren’t always adding up. I panicked when Montgomery asked me for money (“for our future,” of course).

But every time I sought advice about what to do from spiritual sources, whom I refer to in the book as “Guidance,” the answer was always to hang in there. So I did.

Well, Montgomery was a sociopath, and we all know what happens when we tangle with sociopaths. It all fell apart.

The more my world collapsed, the more I sought answers from Guidance. I asked so often, and so fervently, that I actually became quite good at channeling their responses.

The method I used was automatic writing. I asked a question, and I wrote the answer that formed in my head, kind of like taking dictation. I know that I wasn’t just talking to myself, because the ideas and the phrasing were not mine. The answers came from another dimension.

I include a lot of the channeling in the book I think these are the coolest, and most revealing passages. That’s where you can see the spiritual purpose of the experience.

Because the end of the marriage to James Montgomery was not the end of the journey.

The sociopath came into my life as a catalyst for major change. Now, I by no means excuse him for his treachery his actions against me and the other women he deceived were despicable. But because of the experience, I was able to break down internal walls that were holding me back in my own life.

And that’s how my own spiritual plan was fulfilled.

My marriage to a sociopath gave me a new mission in life which is also part of my spiritual plan. My mission is to shine a bright light on the evil that lurks among us, and to help all of you who encounter it to recover.

Love Fraud is part of the healing. It will validate your experience, and show that after a sociopath, you can find love and happiness.

As my gift to you, Love Fraud is available at special savings this holiday season. For more information, please visit the Lovefraud Store.



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I believe everything in our lives is part of our spiritual journey. However, in order to wake up to the fact that we are in fact on a journey, it often takes a very jarring and traumatic experience. For me, it was my abusive childhood. It ultimately led me to a career in Psychology which led me to a spiritually-focused graduate school where I went on a 10-day meditation retreat. That is where I became spiritually awakened for the first time. My parents were soul sucking narcissists with no spiritual path. I am very grateful for this, because I grew up without any religious abuse. When I became spiritual, it had nothing to do with religion. Sometimes it is hard to see the path, and I’ve gone off of it for months and even years since then. But like money in the bank, it’s always there when I’m ready. Everything that’s ever happened to me in my life is just grist for the mill, so to speak. But it doesn’t always feel good when I’m in the middle of something painful.


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