Ever since Lovefraud launched in 2005, my goal has been to educate people about the dangers of sociopaths—preferably before their lives are shredded. One effort in that direction is the Lovefraud high school education program—I’ll be doing my first three classes next month.
Another effort is my next book—tentatively called Red Flags of Love Fraud—Signs that you’re dating a sociopath. It will identify behavior that may indicate a prospective romantic partner is not all that he or she claims to be, and explain how what seems to be expressions of love may, in fact, be strategies of manipulation and control.
We’ve discussed our experiences here on Lovefraud, and through the telling, identified many behaviors that all seem to “come from the same playbook.” However, I’d like to collect that information in a more structured way so that I can use it in the book. Therefore, I invite you to participate in the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey.
Most of the questions are multiple choice, but there are a few places where you can write out your observations. It would probably be best to do the survey when you have about 20 minutes of free time.
Thank you for your contributions. To start the survey, click the following link:
Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey
Ox Drover
Dear Nolarn,
It sounds to me like that no matter what you do that they will FIND SOMETHING to zing you with, I suggest that you get the heck out of doge before they get your license too. In the high stress and high risk area you are working in there is NO WAY you can go for very long without them finding something to hang your arse with.
I hate to tell you to cut and run, but if you don’t, I have a feeling that you will be hung, drawn and quartered. They may be pretending to sweep the other thing under the rug, but I think they are laying for you as a “trouble maker.”
To me, no job is worth the risk of a situation like that, much less the STRESS of knowing that they are “out to get you.”
Just remember, “just because you are paranoid doesn’t mean someone isn’t out to get you.” I finally learned that a high stress job like that is not worth it no matter what the pay is….(((hugs))) and good luck.
super chic
2bcop, is this a common practice for nurses to report each other to management?
Or do you all usually watch each other’s back?
Why on earth would she lie and say you actually did this?
You are probably right that
Oxy will completely understand this!!!
I am sorry to hear that they sent you home and that
you are now under investigation.
KatyDid
Petite,
Apply the definition of spath and answer your own question.
ErinBrock
Star…..
Some days my LIFE is a comedy show……I crack myself up too!
YIKES!
Ox Drover
Chic,
Nurses eat their young! I have never seen such a group of professional biatches as nurses in my life, and nurses who work in hospitals are the worst of all! BACK STABBING biatches! There are times I want to pull my coat over my head and crawl away and hope no one knows I am a nurse I am so ashamed of how nurses act!
Back in 1984 I was at a state-wide nursing convention and I saw people with PhDs in nursing up on the stage HISSING AND BOOING at each other like 10 year olds. I really did want to crawl out of the theater.
super chic
Oxy, I had no idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ugh!
I have spent time wishing I hd been an RN!
super chic
Star… you wrote:
“Sex is very meaningful for me when it is with another person.”
Is that as opposed to having it by yourself? LOL!!!!!
KatyDid
NolaRn,
I’m with Oxy. The handwriting is on the wall. Your case is typical of how these units get rid of someone. You thought it was over. No. They lost the first round. They’ll just watch you so close that eventually you’ll be imperfect and then zap, they gotcha.
Best to get away asap b/c if you don’t, it will cost you your license.
So tragic b/c sometimes rules (protocol) get in the way of saving someone’s life. I remember many a code where the nurse was so adamant about titrating dopamine and I yelled at her to pull that bag loose and squeeze it as hard as she could, that we’d worry about titration if/when the patient regained a bp.
hens
I am sensitive. And not typical. I have comittment issues and intimacy issues. I have huge wall’s around me. I let them down with X, I was ready to commit for life. I am not waiting on matrimony to get laid, just want to enjoy a conversation and time out of bed together as well..Star there are good men out there… I mean I like sex and all that but I want comradere and companionship. I want to laugh with a guy. So much of sex for me is between the ears…the mind…chemistry..compatability…
Stargazer
SC, Hi! Yes, as a matter of fact I did mean as opposed to sex by myself. Then I can fantasize about all kinds of images that aren’t real or meaningful. XOXO