Ever since Lovefraud launched in 2005, my goal has been to educate people about the dangers of sociopaths—preferably before their lives are shredded. One effort in that direction is the Lovefraud high school education program—I’ll be doing my first three classes next month.
Another effort is my next book—tentatively called Red Flags of Love Fraud—Signs that you’re dating a sociopath. It will identify behavior that may indicate a prospective romantic partner is not all that he or she claims to be, and explain how what seems to be expressions of love may, in fact, be strategies of manipulation and control.
We’ve discussed our experiences here on Lovefraud, and through the telling, identified many behaviors that all seem to “come from the same playbook.” However, I’d like to collect that information in a more structured way so that I can use it in the book. Therefore, I invite you to participate in the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey.
Most of the questions are multiple choice, but there are a few places where you can write out your observations. It would probably be best to do the survey when you have about 20 minutes of free time.
Thank you for your contributions. To start the survey, click the following link:
Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey
petite
Katy,
his therapist said he was a narcissist and i do know that Narcisissism and sociopath PDs have a lot in common and overlap.
based on what I know of narcisissm – yes, it is true.
the narciss does not think there is anything wrong with his own behaviour.
at times, I think, maybe he will find some woman who can accept his Nism and make him happy and she will get my dream, but then I think, I would never have been able to accept his deceit and lack of empathy, so my wounded heart had to let him go.
your thoughts.
Katy – I like your advice a lot, thanks.
petite
Stargazer
Henry, you said so much of sex is between the ears. Come again????
ha ha ha ha, I really cracked myself up on that one!!!!
hens
hi shabby how r u tonite?
super chic
I actually went to a club last night with a gf from work. A male friend of hers was there because he knew someone in the band… one of his friends was there… and he and I danced a couple of times and talked for awhile, he asked for my phone number and wants to take me out to dinner, but FIRST he tried to get me to go over to his friend’s house who wasn’t home (it was almost 1am) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then he told me he has had a prior DUI that’s why he had only had 2 beers while at this club, and if he goes to a friends house and drinks he tells them he has to spend the night.
So now I am really thinking the whole thing sounds like crap.
ElizabethBennett
Oxy-I have applied to two jobs within my same corporation at two different hospitals that will unfortunately require me to commute 2 hrs to go to work. There aren’t any jobs in my city right now. I keep applying for everything I see that I am qualified for and I get the email back saying, “we just filled that position, we are impressed with your qualifications and we will keep you in mind if other positions come up for your qualifications. I also found two more jobs that are an hour away. I am trying to avoid giving up my home cuz it is the only bit of happiness that I have in my life right now. It’s my dream home.
When they stopped the initial investigation and made it a dead issue, they did that, so that I wouldn’t know that I only had 7 days to file a grievance for what they did the first time. They knew that I was scared and they used intimidation tactics because they knew how important it was for me to protect my spotless reputation. Depending on what happens on Monday, I will file a grievance over this. My dad said to try to get them to agree to settle and drop it as long as I get another job at another place in the system. If they refuse to drop it, do not resign, but allow them to fire me instead, to make sure that I get unemployment. I am going back to the hospital police on Monday to give them an update and if I am requested back in the VPs office for another meeting, I am going to see if one of them can go with me. I feel like I need some kind of person with me due to the intimidation, but it doesn’t need to be an attorney yet. My cousin does know an attorney if I need one. I have never seen so many people with sociopathic tendencies in one department at one time-it’s like they put an add out looking for them. I’m angry that I’ve tried to be supportive of this woman all along who lost her son in Iraq and she’s gonna turn around and try to make me lose me license. I have done NOTHING to her but be nice. I have learned from this that I feel real bad for the guys who come on here that have been taken by female psychopaths. I know that there aren’t as many of them, but I can tell you that THEY ARE NOTHIN NICE!!!!!!!
super chic
Star, oh yes, I know EXACTLY what you mean! LOL
super chic
Hi hens, I am ok, really relating to some of the things you wrote!
It feels good that finally I don’t really give a shiat whether this guy calls or not,
I don’t have my self worth wrapped up in it anymore!
super chic
Oh, then the guy texted me today and said
sorry for trying to make you stay the nite,
“no excuses, guilty as charged, looking forward to our date”
Normally, I would never give my number to someone I just met in a bar,
but I thought since it was my friend’s friend… that is was ok. ?
Stargazer
Wow, SC, I missed out on that story. About your date. Sounds very interesting. A guy pressured you for sex? What else is new? Can you tell I’m very jaded about men?
ElizabethBennett
Katy-exactly-you do understand what I’m talking about!
Shabby-nurses will throw each other under the bus at the drop of a hat but I’ve never seen it EVER as bad as I have at this job. Usually it’s just complaining about someone else. Here it’s fabrications and boldface lies!
People need to realize what kind of profession this is. This is why I am desperately trying to get out. When I see those Johnson & Johnson commercials about BE A NURSE, the vomit literally starts coming up! And the nursing care that’s given by the news coming out of school is disgusting. The ICU care I have seen recently is nasty and substandard where I work! For God Sake, the nurse only has two patients!!