Ever since Lovefraud launched in 2005, my goal has been to educate people about the dangers of sociopaths—preferably before their lives are shredded. One effort in that direction is the Lovefraud high school education program—I’ll be doing my first three classes next month.
Another effort is my next book—tentatively called Red Flags of Love Fraud—Signs that you’re dating a sociopath. It will identify behavior that may indicate a prospective romantic partner is not all that he or she claims to be, and explain how what seems to be expressions of love may, in fact, be strategies of manipulation and control.
We’ve discussed our experiences here on Lovefraud, and through the telling, identified many behaviors that all seem to “come from the same playbook.” However, I’d like to collect that information in a more structured way so that I can use it in the book. Therefore, I invite you to participate in the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey.
Most of the questions are multiple choice, but there are a few places where you can write out your observations. It would probably be best to do the survey when you have about 20 minutes of free time.
Thank you for your contributions. To start the survey, click the following link:
Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey
ErinBrock
Chic;
you know your boundaries…..if you have to ask the ‘question’…..it’s not right for you.
I’m glad you got out with your gf……how fun for you……
Good going girl!
We sure ain’t gonna meet anyone hibernating…..continue to get your butt out!
super chic
Yeah, I guess I should be flattered someone still wants to have sex with me.
I’ve never been this old and going out to clubs,
it’s a new experience, that’s for sure!!
All age groups and different types of people at this place,
at least i wasn’t the oldest person there, lol.
ErinBrock
Hens…..
OH MY!
KatyDid
Okay Petite,
I will follow up with SAME advice. Apply the def of narcissist. Only a disordered person can make a narcissist “happy”. I say happy in quotes b/c it is not a happiness that any normal person would define as happy.
TRUTH: NOTHING happened with that jerk that wouldn’t have happened sooner or later, except that by behaving as a responsible adult, you are free to have YOUR DREAM with someone who is available to share it with you.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
EB – mud pack? Oh girl, probably the first time i have said this here, TMI!
(and were you so inexperienced that you didn’t know it shouldn’t feel like that?)
ElizabethBennett
ErinB-how did you get all that mud out the pocketbook?
super chic
2bcop, I think your Dad had a great idea,
about try to get them to settle and give you another job.
Yay Dad!!!
I had no idea nurses were so mean.
Thank goodness you have the law enforcement option!!
To be able to work at a job one loves, that would be heaven.
Just watch out for spaths there too!
I don’t tell anybody at work anything about myself anymore…
just this one gf I made, and I kinda wish I hadn’t said so much to her!
Stargazer
SC, I know we’ve discussed this before….age does not seem to be a deterrent for a horny guy. It’s nice to know that you are still attractive to men, though, isn’t it? There are some men that specifically like older women, too. But it seems to be mainly about the sex. Ugh. I hate the way men are.
super chic
EB, I’m going to keep this piece of info about the mud baths
tucked away in a corner of my mind!! I never imagined…
I have some insane comments I’d like to make, but….
ElizabethBennett
Shabby-you know what’s funny? The nurse who lied about me used to be a cop years ago on the same police department where I’m going to be working and her husband is a sargeant there. She switched from that to nursing. If she is dishonest and unethical enough to do what she’s doing to me, she probably couldn’t hack it, or she did a pretty shitty job, or cracked under the pressure. I made the mistake of holding her to a higher standard, so I know that there are some spaths in that field too. I’m just a lot better at recognizing them now. It’s just one more lesson for me.