Ever since Lovefraud launched in 2005, my goal has been to educate people about the dangers of sociopaths—preferably before their lives are shredded. One effort in that direction is the Lovefraud high school education program—I’ll be doing my first three classes next month.
Another effort is my next book—tentatively called Red Flags of Love Fraud—Signs that you’re dating a sociopath. It will identify behavior that may indicate a prospective romantic partner is not all that he or she claims to be, and explain how what seems to be expressions of love may, in fact, be strategies of manipulation and control.
We’ve discussed our experiences here on Lovefraud, and through the telling, identified many behaviors that all seem to “come from the same playbook.” However, I’d like to collect that information in a more structured way so that I can use it in the book. Therefore, I invite you to participate in the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey.
Most of the questions are multiple choice, but there are a few places where you can write out your observations. It would probably be best to do the survey when you have about 20 minutes of free time.
Thank you for your contributions. To start the survey, click the following link:
Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey
lesson learned
HOLY SHIAT!!
This thread is like a soap opera!! WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m saying that half in jest and half not MY GOD, the world of spath and it’s effects.
EB, your story of mud “impact” is horrifying. One of the reason I swore of tampons and thank GOD more now for the onset of menopause.
2cop, Nurses can be some of the BIGGEST BIATCHES on the planet, cut your losses and run before you run the risk of losing your damned license. NOTHING is worth any of that. There WILL be a place that will respect your gifts, where you’re at is NOT it. You are putting yourself at further risk. DO NOT waste your gifts upon a bunch of ingrates who obviously wish to scapegoat you, thus interfering with what it means to be a nurse in the damned first place: QUALITY PATIENT CARE!!!
Petitie: I will disagree with katy on one level. The spath is NOT just his ex or current (whichever it is right now) menace he is SOCIETIES MENACE altogether. DO NOT take on what is NOT yours. If it’s not you, IT WILL BE SOMEONE ELSE……..he is a MENACE TO SOCIETY, his wife, his children, you and God knows who else will be his witting or unwitting accomplices. Accept what is yours, but DO NOT what isn’t. HE IS A MENACE TO SOCIETY, Petitie and he will do this shit to whomever he CAN. It isn’t just about you OR his wife, or God knows how many other women. Not only JUST the women he screws, but also his children, his colleagues and anyone else in his path. DO NOT BELIEVE FOR ONE MINUTE THAT YOU WERE THE MENACE, TAKE YOUR RESPONSIBILITY BUT THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH IS THAT HE IS THE MENACE TO SOCIETY….and if it’s not YOU anymore, it will BE someone else that the wife has to deal with BECAUSE OF HIM……ANYONE in a spaths path is a VICTIM OF HIS MENACING……..YOUR JOB is to find out WHY you were vulnerable to him and why you bought the machinations JUST LIKE HIS WIFE AND EVERY SINGLE OTHER WOMAN IN HIS LIFE WHICH ARE GUARANTEED TO BE MANY!!!!!!!!!!! MANY!!!!!
DO NOT BUY THAT YOU”RE THE ONLY REASON. I’ve been on BOTH sides of the fence Petitie. IT DOESN”T MATTER TO THEM!! THEY COULD CARE LESS WHETHER YOU’RE THE WIFE OR OW…………TO THEM IT”S ALL THE SAME……..the WIFE AND THE OW ARE JUST ANOTHER NOTCH IN HIS BED POST. ONE MORE ELABORATE THAN THE OTHER AND THAT”S ALL AND THERE WILL BE MANY MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your job is just about you, now. To AVOID this ever EVER happening to you again!!!! To ever allowing it.
But don’t you allow what this dick face did to you to DEFINE YOU AS THE MENACE WHILE HE WAS NOT!
RB
Stargazer
Wow, SC, maybe there really is something about musicians. For all the rhythm this guy has with the guitar, he cannot dance to save his life. I had to show him how to slow dance. And then he was groping me and trying to undress me the whole time! What are we in high school? And yet he’s educated, intelligent, and gorgeous. I don’t get it. When I reconnected with him in October after the CR trip, he told me he hadn’t been with anyone since he’d been with me in June. And he was very sincere about it. I could believe it, too, given all the trouble I had to go through to get close to him. Jeez, you’d think he’d be knocking on my door every night just to get laid. But it’s like this dude needs to be jumpstarted every few months.
I still like him. I don’t know why. But it’s not an obsession, which is good, considering he’s my neighbor. He would be very easy to stalk.
super chic
OK, this is good, I was listening to Tim Conway Jr. (he has a radio show, he’s hilarious, KFI 640 AM it’s on the web too)
One evening earlier this week ole Timmy boy was playing a tape of a conversation
Charlie Sheen had with another radio personality here in the city where I live.
After listening to Charlie, who sounds like a 13 year old, Tim makes this statement that: People who smoke pot….
whenever they started smoking it, that’s the age
they are stuck in the rest of their lives!!
Makes sense to me.
ElizabethBennett
Katy-I probably will do that. I guess I will ask my cousin this weekend. I just need to be able to work peacefully somewhere until I can go back to the career that I want. They will be hiring next year. Once I get out of this stress, I can really focus on my fitness level because that is extremely important to this cause. Once I get to a new job, NO ONE will know anything about my life outside of work except maybe that I read a lot and that I’m kind of a geek=nothing that can be used against me. I can just take care of patients and go home and not be on call and not have mandatory overtime.
super chic
hens, love love love your dirt story!!!
What a scream!!!!!!!!!!!!!
super chic
we don’t call you RockStargazer for nothin!!
Stargazer
SC, I think you’re right. It’s the pot. It has made this guy undatable! ha ha. He told me he has health issues – diverticulitis and kidney stones. He has a lot of pain and that’s why he smokes it. He quit for 2 years and then started again. I think he’s having a love affair with pot. He told me his idea of a vacation is to go to Las Vegas, rent an entire suite in a fancy hotel, and just play his guitar and smoke weed. WTF?
For Xmas, I gave him a book about intestinal health. I bought the same book for myself (even though I don’t have any health problems). I’ve been on the diet. I would love to do the diet with him. I think it would help him. Too bad we’re not talking. ha ha ha He probably doesn’t even remember he was supposed to call me.
Stargazer
RockStargazer? LOL You know, I once WAS the lead singer in a rock band. Seriously. And I played really bad guitar. I mean “bad” in the literal sense.
lesson learned
Katy
ROFLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ain’t THAT the effin truth!! LOL!!!
HILARIOUS!!!
hens………..you’ll find the love of your life, chica. And you WILL because you’re humor and intelligence are attractive and SCREAM to all of us with love through this blog!!
YOU and your wieners are a blessing!
lesson learned
Star,
ex POS was a musician **yawn**
Nuff said.