Ever since Lovefraud launched in 2005, my goal has been to educate people about the dangers of sociopaths—preferably before their lives are shredded. One effort in that direction is the Lovefraud high school education program—I’ll be doing my first three classes next month.
Another effort is my next book—tentatively called Red Flags of Love Fraud—Signs that you’re dating a sociopath. It will identify behavior that may indicate a prospective romantic partner is not all that he or she claims to be, and explain how what seems to be expressions of love may, in fact, be strategies of manipulation and control.
We’ve discussed our experiences here on Lovefraud, and through the telling, identified many behaviors that all seem to “come from the same playbook.” However, I’d like to collect that information in a more structured way so that I can use it in the book. Therefore, I invite you to participate in the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey.
Most of the questions are multiple choice, but there are a few places where you can write out your observations. It would probably be best to do the survey when you have about 20 minutes of free time.
Thank you for your contributions. To start the survey, click the following link:
Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey
super chic
Katy, you have inspired me to think about, and write down,
perfect moments in my life.
ErinBrock
Katy;
I LOVE that post……the life memories…..sounds wonderful and keep holding them dear.
ya’ll…..not feeling so swell tonight…..had dinner at a friends and her hubby is sick…..UGH.
It’s been fun….
Off to bed.
Night all.
Mr.Iscrewedup
Hey all. That was fun. The e-mail said it wanted males so I did a survey on my past Socio….
I shouldnt say it was fun. Thats not right. But I sure like skimming through all these comments from you peoples.
I’m so damn sick of these predators I’m starting to get a little giddy, and not quite taking this shit too seriously anymore. I will not allow this to happen again, and I wish the same for you folks. Please, be strong, and prevail. I should take my own advice at times. God bless, and Good luck.
lesson learned
Star,
I would have willingly had a double mastectomy to be at the Vatican for midnight mass. WOW. Someday, I hope you share that experience.
EB, I Hope you’re going to be okay! UGH, food poisoning or a very contagious, air borne stomach flu? Feel better!
Katy, you’re all that.
Good night ya all.
Peace, or “deuces” as my kids say.
RB
Stargazer
Roses: Oddly, I didn’t enjoy that night that I went to midnight mass at the Vatican for many reasons. It was 30 years ago. I remember that I went but it was not one of my magical moments like it was for Katy. Katy, I’d love to hear some of the stories behind your magical moments.
I think my most memorable time was the bus ride from Puntarenas (Costa Rica) to Santa Cruz, Costa Rica. It was about 2 or 3 hours. I sat next to Raymond, the guy I met. We made out and cuddled the entire way, all the while looking out at the beautiful Costa Rican countryside. It was so magical. I remember being so happy I was crying. Life was so wonderful for those few hours. I don’t know if I’ll ever have another experience like that again, or ever meet another guy like him. 🙁 It’s funny how memories can be bittersweet. They are sweet but sad in that they are only memories.
Another memorable moment was when I auditioned for that band in the keyboard player’s basement. I started playing on my little guitar and singing a Cheryl Crow song. Up until then, I’d only played in my living room. Though they had never heard the song, they were SO talented, they all started playing their instruments to back me up. I felt like a professional singer. When they said to me, “See you next week” (meaning I’d gotten the gig), it was one of the most exciting moments of my life. None of the rehearsals or bar gigs we did over the next 6 months could compare to that initial high of the audition.
I love this idea of talking about happy times in our lives!!! I know we’ve all had them and will have many more to come!
lesson learned
Star,
YOU are a very interesting person!! What neat experiences!
Katy? I missed that you’d been to the vatican for a mass? Is that post on this thread? I’ll have to look. I’d love to read about your experience.
This week they’re exhuming the coffin of Pope John Paul for a beaitification service. I watched the funeral. It was amazing.
I grew up Catholic. I don’t practice it, but some of the pomp and circumstance is pretty amazing!
RB
hens
They are diggin up the pope for beautification service? Now that is a Narcissist if ever there was one.
Stargazer
Hens, ha ha ha ha ha You just cracked me up.
Ox Drover
BEAUTIFUL MOMENTS don’t just have to be in the PAST! They can be in the TODAY and the NOW. They don’t have to be at a famous castle or anywhere “special” but can be right in your own home or front yard.
Sit down and make a list counting your BLESSINGS today! The things that give you pleasure that sometimes you don’t notice because you have them EVERY DAY! We become accustomed to them and take them for granted but that really doesn’t make them any less special or any less wonderful.
I am P-FREE in my life! WOW, now how special is that?
There are so many many blessings that I have that all the money in the world couldn’t buy and they are mine for “free.”
I can sit here and make a list of things I don’t have that I might like, like a loving life partner, but the things I DO HAVE are far larger than those I don’t have. Life is 99% what you make out of what you have I think.
lesson learned
Ox,
I’m so glad you mentioned that because I’ve not had nearly the “fantastic” experiences others in here have, although I Do find them interesting.
Example: I love my wiener SO MUCH. He’s gradually going downhill and so we will lose him eventually. I’m so mindful of this. He has been a MAJOR blessing to us, and I’m SO GRATEFUL every single day that HE IS HERE. My children, the same. We spend A LOT of time together. Even if it’s just sittin in the same room. I love hearing my kids laugh and have fun. Yesterday my son was playing his piano AND his guitar and singing away….
LOVE IT. Now THAT can’t be replaced.
RB