Ever since Lovefraud launched in 2005, my goal has been to educate people about the dangers of sociopaths—preferably before their lives are shredded. One effort in that direction is the Lovefraud high school education program—I’ll be doing my first three classes next month.
Another effort is my next book—tentatively called Red Flags of Love Fraud—Signs that you’re dating a sociopath. It will identify behavior that may indicate a prospective romantic partner is not all that he or she claims to be, and explain how what seems to be expressions of love may, in fact, be strategies of manipulation and control.
We’ve discussed our experiences here on Lovefraud, and through the telling, identified many behaviors that all seem to “come from the same playbook.” However, I’d like to collect that information in a more structured way so that I can use it in the book. Therefore, I invite you to participate in the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey.
Most of the questions are multiple choice, but there are a few places where you can write out your observations. It would probably be best to do the survey when you have about 20 minutes of free time.
Thank you for your contributions. To start the survey, click the following link:
Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey
KatyDid
Hens.
That’ so funny! I can imagine! I’d be one of those fools. ANd I’d enjoy the laugh when the joke was found out. Guess they should be glad the sounds are exotic birds and not roaming lions and bears! Or worse… skunks! ahahaha
Do ya camp with a pith helmet to save your noggin from the exotic birds?
Ox Drover
Henry darling, that ain’t “camping” when you have other people around you like that! But GOOOD JOKE!!!!! LOL
Eva you are so funny! “nogging” is a term for head. Henry’s “nogging” or “noggin” means his HEAD or his skull.
hens
I didnt do it for a joke~~~~~~~~~~~~!!!!!!!!!!
Stargazer
“nogging” is a term for head.
Wow, my mind went right into the gutter on that one. **needs a boyfriend badly*** ha ha
hens
LMAO when I show up the whole thread goes into the gutter…
Stargazer
Funny how that happens! ha ha ha (to hens)
I know your perfect moments in life are when you are playing with your wiener. ….. wienerS, playing with your wieners …. they are dogs, right? Right. ha ha ha ha ha ha
hens
what is this pick on hens day?
lesson learned
Hens,
I don’t know if you’re a prayin man or not, or maybe just a send good thoughts your way man, but could you do either/or for my wiener? He’s not doing so well right now.
He’s hanging on the couch right now, under his fave blanket…..but there is this feeling I have…….and it’s not good…….
I worked in hospice. Seeing him this way, is a lot like seeing patients I had in the last stages of life. UGH!!!
I won’t push him to his limits and he’s comfortable now. I’m doing everything I can to keep him comfortable and his quality of life good for now…………but there is just this LOOK that says it’s not gonna be much longer………..
Adding to my anger and incredibly sorrow already…the loss of this wiener is just the last layer of shit I can handle right now.
RB
hens
Bloomin rose – yes I am a praying man and I can relate to what your feeling as I have lost several wieners to old age..well I am here if you ever just wannna chat about him – whats his name again? I remember he is a black and tan right? BR if they have lived a long life and been well take n care of you did all you can do, we do outlive our dogs, for now anyway..just love on him for me and kiss him on his wittle nose..and rub his noggin for me….srry Br – i would and will be a basket case when that times come and my Harley is gettin to be a very old man….
Ox Drover
The summer of chaos I lost my great Pyrenes dog, she was shot by a kid with a new gun who wanted to kill something, in her own yard. We didn’t find her til morning and she was still alive, but even bleeding she had made her guarding rounds during the night. A great lady. I also lost my shitz tu who was deaf and got run over because she couldn’t hear me call her, and my horse Gypsy that got foundered (her feet so sore she could not walk) and we had to put her down. I swear I have never lost so many animals in one period of time when I had so little strength! It hurts to lose those animals, they are family, and it seems any way that the losses come at the time we are THE LEAST ABLE TO COPE, but we do the best we can.
I lost my border collie last summer with a sudden unexpected natural death, and even when you ARE okay to cope, it is still hard but easier than when you are in the midst of trying to keep you own head on your shoulders.
Roses, what I can suggest and you too, Henry, is not to start your grieving ahead of time…just enjoy them while they are with you…don’t borrow sorrow from tomorrow, each day has enough sorrow for itself. Just find the happiness in NOW, THIS MINUTE, you have them NOW so love them NOW and enjoy that! That is all any of us are given is the NOW. (((hugs)))