Ever since Lovefraud launched in 2005, my goal has been to educate people about the dangers of sociopaths—preferably before their lives are shredded. One effort in that direction is the Lovefraud high school education program—I’ll be doing my first three classes next month.
Another effort is my next book—tentatively called Red Flags of Love Fraud—Signs that you’re dating a sociopath. It will identify behavior that may indicate a prospective romantic partner is not all that he or she claims to be, and explain how what seems to be expressions of love may, in fact, be strategies of manipulation and control.
We’ve discussed our experiences here on Lovefraud, and through the telling, identified many behaviors that all seem to “come from the same playbook.” However, I’d like to collect that information in a more structured way so that I can use it in the book. Therefore, I invite you to participate in the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey.
Most of the questions are multiple choice, but there are a few places where you can write out your observations. It would probably be best to do the survey when you have about 20 minutes of free time.
Thank you for your contributions. To start the survey, click the following link:
Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey
hens
Heylo Star Are you still mad at me??
Stargazer
I don’t recall being very mad at you, hens. Perturbed a little maybe. 🙂 No matter, I am quite fond of you.
hens
ok – I was just trying to snap you out of your crisis…Ever see the movie ‘Crimes of the Heart?’ sissy spaceck’s character sticks her head in the oven and turns on the gas – Jessica Lange’s character finds her passed out – wakes her up and ask her why she did that and sissy says ” oh I am just having a bad day’….
You know me the resident smart ass – I just didnt want you to take me too seriously – gettin older aint for sissys – i know how you feel
Stargazer
No I didn’t see the movie. Might have laughed more at that comment. ha ha. You can’t snap someone out of a mid-life crisis, unfortunately. I sure wish. But you can keep trying.
hens
well shortly after my x left – I went to this disco club that i used to go to back in the 8o’s – as I was pulling into the parking lot a group pf young twinks walked by and one said “oh look ! grandpa is out tonite’ – I sat in the parking lot fpr two hours watching all the young 20 and 30 something’s going in and out – i think I said good bye to my youth that nite – my x was 12 years younger than me – I felt so old – I have had white hair scince i was in my late 30’s – inside i feel 30 – but anywho – i dont go out anymore – not even to the old troll bars – i have lived a long life – had my fun dancing the nite away – back then – i miss it – that is why I dance with the moon these days…..
ElizabethBennett
Hens-you’re so awesome! How’s your wieners?
lesson learned
Hens
That is a beautiful post. I think you’re a wonderful, amusing, thoughtful man. Thank you.
LL
Stargazer
Hens, I have a feeling your fun is not over. Just taking a breather, darlin. I wish I could just say good-bye to my youth without all the drama. I’m fighting it kicking and screaming. I won’t go down without a fight.
lesson learned
Star,
You haven’t lost your youth. Not in your heart. And that’s where it really matters!
You’re as spritely as a twenty year old!
LL
Stargazer
LL, I was thinking more along the lines of a 2-year-old. Especially after the tantrum I threw last night. lol