Ever since Lovefraud launched in 2005, my goal has been to educate people about the dangers of sociopaths—preferably before their lives are shredded. One effort in that direction is the Lovefraud high school education program—I’ll be doing my first three classes next month.
Another effort is my next book—tentatively called Red Flags of Love Fraud—Signs that you’re dating a sociopath. It will identify behavior that may indicate a prospective romantic partner is not all that he or she claims to be, and explain how what seems to be expressions of love may, in fact, be strategies of manipulation and control.
We’ve discussed our experiences here on Lovefraud, and through the telling, identified many behaviors that all seem to “come from the same playbook.” However, I’d like to collect that information in a more structured way so that I can use it in the book. Therefore, I invite you to participate in the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey.
Most of the questions are multiple choice, but there are a few places where you can write out your observations. It would probably be best to do the survey when you have about 20 minutes of free time.
Thank you for your contributions. To start the survey, click the following link:
Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey
lesson learned
EB is the Love Fraud “resident” investigator!!
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skylar
Roses,
EB’s got it right. It’s what the spaths do to us when they slander us. They go slow and they plant seeds.
Well, turn about is fair play, I say we backspath them.
Slow and Stealthy.
Eden
I’ve been doing it! Backspathing, that is. Until a week ago, I was not interested in ever putting any thought or energy into anything that remotely had to do with the Psychopath. I have had no contact since day one and I would have it no other way. 3 weeks ago however, I began to get random phone calls from other victims of his, coming out of the woodwork, so to speak. Then the new girlfriend showing up to accuse me of being the purp and victimizing the P. HAAA… Then last week being confronted by another source that created my awareness that P was telling absured lies about me. Sorry, but this was the end all. It was a “FREE-FOR-ALL” at this point. I am not holding anything back from here on out. No reason to. & from now on, whatever information I am asked for, I will be giving. No Holds Barred. I will also be planting seeds. The only difference will be, my seeds will be that of the truth as apposed to his seeds of deception.
E
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Eden
YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT!~
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ErinBrock
learn the spaths approach……and it will show you their weakness’s……
Take their weakness’s and USE IT ON EM!
BUT stealth and slllloooooow.
Backspathing requires self control (NEVER act on impulse), knowing yourself inside and out and what your able to emotionally and physically withstand, and determination, and being able to predict the outcome without getting ANY exterior glory for it.
So many want to get the glory to feed their ego’s…..get your ego fed with just knowing….laugh silently, but no need for the firework displays with your name on it. Most times….NO ONE will ever know…..there is NO ONE to discuss your moves with……because…..LOOSE LIPS SINK SHIPS!!!!!!
Keep it ALL under wraps!
Check the ego at the door ladies……..
Once you set up a scenario…..or scenarios……..you can play it out from there.
Do not ever ‘go into’ a backspath without being able to predict the outcome.
IF it can ‘come back’ to you……devise another plan.
Patience, Patience, Patience………determination, self control and faith in what your doing.
I’m telling ya……IT CAN BE DONE!
Backspathing also acts as a repellent to them……
And…..keep in mind…..if you have NOTHING to gain……walk away!
IE divorce, custody, support, assets, arrests, protection……
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EB,
I backspathed my last spath big time.
Through the back door. Stupid bastard was caught COMPLETELY off guard.
God it felt SO GREAT! Didn’t even have to be patient, although I did watch it all play out for a couple of weeks prior to going in for the “kill” so to speak, but it DID work. Caught completely red handed by two women he was trying to play. BEAUTIFUL!!
Rb
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Eb, My last spath was INCREDIBLE STEALTH AND PATIENT!!!!!
VERY VERY PATIENT
THAT was the key.
Stealth and patient, although again, not a lot of patience was required on my part, just a quick back door strategy. No regrets!
ErinBrock
Backspathing is NOT for everyone.
Sometimes it’s just best to fold.
Each of us must decide this for ourselves, individually……..given ALL info we know and our expected outcome.
Backspathing must NEVER be entered into lightly.
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EB
I didn’t take it lightly. Someone else was about to be scammed.
She was grateful. Even if she had not been, I’m still glad I did it.
When it came down to the bastard conning a woman for her money, AS WELL as her emotions (she was a very sweet person), it was a no brainer for me.
RB
ErinBrock
I hear ya darlen…..
(I wasn’t suggesting you took anything lightly)…..just when others read this in days/weeks/years to come…..
Some peeps are just not cut out for the backspath…..it’s part of ‘knowing’ thyself!
Kudos’ to you!!