Ever since Lovefraud launched in 2005, my goal has been to educate people about the dangers of sociopaths—preferably before their lives are shredded. One effort in that direction is the Lovefraud high school education program—I’ll be doing my first three classes next month.
Another effort is my next book—tentatively called Red Flags of Love Fraud—Signs that you’re dating a sociopath. It will identify behavior that may indicate a prospective romantic partner is not all that he or she claims to be, and explain how what seems to be expressions of love may, in fact, be strategies of manipulation and control.
We’ve discussed our experiences here on Lovefraud, and through the telling, identified many behaviors that all seem to “come from the same playbook.” However, I’d like to collect that information in a more structured way so that I can use it in the book. Therefore, I invite you to participate in the Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey.
Most of the questions are multiple choice, but there are a few places where you can write out your observations. It would probably be best to do the survey when you have about 20 minutes of free time.
Thank you for your contributions. To start the survey, click the following link:
Lovefraud Romantic Partner Survey
hens
Silvermoon ~! Oh My where did you find that? Yes they eat our brains thats why no contact is a good thing…creepy..
lesson learned
Hens
My wiener is being VERY needy today. Must be the abundance of sunshine, benadryl and pain meds! What a gorgeous day here today!!
new_day
Ox Drover,
Thank you for reading, writing, caring, and helping! It means a lot!
lesson learned
Ox,
I have a curious question for you and I apologize ahead of time if it’s too personal:
How many children do you have? Is it three sons? Also, are these the children with the husband who died? I’m sorry if that seems to be silly questions. I’ve caught a lot of your story, but perhaps not the whole thing.
If your husband that died is father of your children, (Well even if not), how did he feel about them and the dynamics going on around you? Was his history P driven as well? I’m assuming he was supportive of you?
hens
Eva I am not a english teacher , but I think thee and thou sound just as you wrote them – thee = the and thou = thoaw… I have problems with the correct time to use ‘to’ and ‘too’…
Eva
Hens 😀 they both are supposed to be middle english forms for the second person pronoun “you”. There must be differences in pronunciation.
Me too, hens, with “too” and “also”. But to and too are different, one is preposition, the other adverb.
The pronunciation is in the dictionary! What crazy i am.
The pronunciation is di and dau.
hens
duh
Stargazer
Eva, you must be from another country. 🙂 English must seem like a crazy language. I am taking Spanish right now, and, though there are a few exceptions, there is generally one way to pronounce letters. In English, there are many ways to pronounce the same letters and strings of letters.
For instance….”thou” and “thousand”. Both have the same pronounciation of the “ou”. It’s pronounced like the word “out”. But the “th” is slightly different for each. It’s difficult to explain the difference in writing. The “th” in “thou” would be more like the “th” in “then”. Whereas in “thousand”, it would sound more like the “th” in “teeth”. “Thee” also has the same “th” sound as “then”.
I don’t know if that helps.
Stargazer
Yes, and then add in the fact that many new generations of Americans cannot spell or write properly. It must be especially confusing!
What is your primary language?
Eva
It’s Spanish my mother tongue, Stargazer.