John Edwards has joined the parade. The former North Carolina senator and presidential candidate was indicted last week for using campaign contributions to keep his mistress and their baby in hiding during his 2008 run for the White House.
He follows former California governor Arnold Schwarzenegger, who admitted fathering a child with a member of his household staff, and Dominique Strauss-Kahn, who had to resign as head of the International Monetary Fund after he allegedly tried to rape a hotel maid in New York City.
A lot of people are asking, why do they do it? Why are these rich, powerful men willing to chance ruining everything they have achieved for momentary pleasure? Psychology researchers have come up with several answers.
Risks vs. rewards
WRAL TV in Raleigh, North Carolina, interviewed Scott Huettel, associate professor of neuroscience at Duke University, about the Edwards case. Huettel studies how the brain weighs risks and rewards. According to WRAL:
The brain, he says, asks this question when making a decision: “Is what I’m going to receive from this better than what I have now?”
Short-term gains often win, while long-term consequences are discounted, Huettel said.
Factors such as wealth and power do not often correlate with a higher cost on risk, Huettel added. In other words, those who have the most are often willing to risk the most.
More power, more adultery
Time Magazine took this argument further. Not only do powerful men tend to assess risk differently than the rest of us, but they are also surrounded by enablers who have an interest in keeping the powerful person in power, and help cover up the indiscretions.
Time also described forthcoming research:
A study set to be published in Psychological Science found that the higher men or women rose in a business hierarchy, the more likely they were to consider or commit adultery. With power comes both opportunity and confidence, the authors argue, and with confidence comes a sense of sexual entitlement.
Type T Personality
Then there’s Frank Farley, a psychologist and professor at Temple University, and former president of the American Psychological Association. He’s come up with what the calls the “Type T Personality.” In response to the Schwarzenegger story, he recently wrote an opinion piece in the Los Angeles Times entitled, What makes politicians stray?
In my view the factor most responsible for philandering in public officials is a predisposition for risk-taking, which also happens to be an essential quality for politicians. My label for it is the “Type T personality,” with the “T” standing for thrill.
Farley has been discussing his theory of thrill seeking for quite awhile. He was quoted in a Time Magazine article back in 1985. In 2006, Farley was interviewed about his theory when Ben Roethlisberger, the Super Bowl quarterback for the Pittsburgh Steelers, went riding a motorcycle without a helmet, was hit by a car and suffered serious head injuries.
At that time, the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette wrote:
Dr. Farley divides risk takers into Type T positives — inventors, entrepreneurs, explorers — and Type T negatives — compulsive gamblers, criminals, people who engage in unsafe sex.
Incomplete explanations
All of these theories strike me as partially accurate, but incomplete, explanations for the sexual misbehavior of powerful men. Yes, the brain may find rewards now more appealing than consequences later, but certainly more is involved in behavior that has the potential to blow up everything an individual has worked for. A sense of sexual entitlement doesn’t explain this level of arrogant risk, and neither does the thrill factor.
Measuring psychopathy, however, may very well explain what is going on. Components of psychopathy include superficial charm, egocentricity, need for stimulation, deceit, lack of remorse, impulsivity, irresponsibility and promiscuity. Certainly all of these traits are factors in the egregious illicit affairs of powerful men.
But then we’d have to start using the “P” word in reference to politicians and titans of the business world. I’ll bet that a lot of people don’t want to do that.
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i have been writing a few posts on the blog where the evil spath is outing – well, i have been for a very long time, but I am posting there to educate people now, as someone who has been duped. before i didn’t reveal myself. now i am. i know that i really want and need some time to get the stuff to the ADA, and i want to connect with the other dupe again – i have been staying away from that (connecting) as i don’t want to be destabilized, but i want to connect with her again. in fact, i really want to talk to her. on the phone. i want to take these risks, but i want to manage the fallout.
my posts lately have been about my healing and my struggle with it. it’s less about ‘not getting it’. i guess i wonder if i am still in the club (that’s the rejected me speaking). i do feel kinda rejected in lots of areas – i don’t feel that way here, but i think as i am going into another phase of healing, i am feeling tentative about that being accepted.
the new boundaries i am setting re working are a big deal for me. lordy, i am tired. 🙂
hens – i had such a good day yesterday. went out with one of my board members and a colleague of hers – out to the country and then out to a little food festival – it was such a good day…i felt almost normal for most of it. and downright normal for part of it. and only wierd for about an hour of it. 🙂
i really suck at crying. can’t do it most of the time. and am a little afraid of it to tell you the truth. i feel a bit depressed and i think i get afraid of sadness because of that.
little eb – if you can afford to, quit. don’t put yourself through it.
i know that one of my challenges is that my old way of being hasn’t caught up with my new needs – i am actually quite surprised as how angry this shit makes me now. well, some of the intensity of that is PTSD, but the underpinning is that the spath fucked me over so thoroughly, and the things that have happened since has been so thoroughly awful that my spirit has completely rebelled against my old caretaker mentality. I will still go an extra 50 miles – but for different reasons, and I can no longer be around fools and not rebel against their bs.
one/joy:
Thanks. I am thinking about what I am going to do. I don’t need the stress again in my life, it’s not worth it.
I am also not a crier so I can relate although last week I did and LAST YEAR I cried more than in my entire life. That spath really messed me up, but I am better and you will be better, too. We will all get there. Take care.
little eb – i amended my post to you. 🙂 thanks for the well wishes.
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Sweetheart………
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I’m so sorry you feel neglected and stressed. But there are some of us here that really love you and care for you. I”m sorry I missed your posts, at least some of them anyway…it’s hard for me to keep up sometimes.
But I DO care about you. I advocate for your survival. You’ve been through much.
As far as the job goes…………..UGH! It’s harder when you NEED THE JOB TO SURVIVE and put up with a bunch of spaths. It seems the world is becoming MORE spathy, not less. It’s what i fear when I graduate from school and work again.
Hang in there one J. I’ll keep you in my prayers Chica
Ll
One J
Great post. I wouldn’t hesitate to quit a job now and be on the streets if it involves spaths. there is no way I could manage it.
It would emotionally break me. I’ll be VERY careful about where I choose to work if hired.
LL
1step You say u want to talk with the other dupe ‘again’ well i wasnt aware you had done that – i see nothing wrong with talking to her..it mite be very theraputic – glad u had a good day yesterday and had someone to be with… I have met a guy online and we have talked on the phone a few times…but I dont think I want to meet him…and guess what his name is?
One joy, it might make you feel better to get into the fight with other people on your side. That would be a connection and a bond like no other, because they have experienced the same spath. Still, keep some restraint in that relationship, (if it forms) because everyone who has been hurt by a spath will tend to be stand-offish as a result of PTSD.
one/joy:
Regarding your amended post…yep, I can relate to you totally with that also. I have a lot of anger (definitely PTSD). By the way, I tell people I have that and they just laugh at me. Whatever. Anyway, I KNOW what you mean…I also won’t put up with it now. It’s like my spath antenna is up and I can spot trouble a mile away now. We were traumatized. You way more than me, but it’s all relative I guess. Please keep us posted as to what is going on…we ARE here for you!!
you know LL, sometimes you just say something that hooks into me – like the time you said that ‘no one should suffer like that’ – and i used it as part of my letter to my doc and FINALLY got somewhere with her. and now you have said this: ‘ I advocate for your survival.’ and NOW my eyes are tearing up. FINALLY.
i am so alone, and sometimes its a bit too much to bare. i feel more alone today than i have in a while. it’s been piling up. i have had some good bits of time with people lately, and i think that just punctuates the isolation i feel most of the time. I am so close to breaking out – i really feel like some big changes are here now, and i need to share those and connect.
i KNOW i have friends here. 🙂
having some time with others in the 3D world and hiding what has happened less – i am more vulnerable. but it is a good thing and i want it. i want the openess.
but i am still diff than i used to be – as i am very quick to want to get the E.d. fired. who the hell tells someone they are a ‘reformed n’. jayzus!