Lovefraud recently received a very nice e-mail from the editor of HowToDoThings.com, complimenting the information provided by Lovefraud. She suggested that an article from her website might be of interest to Lovefraud readers. It is called How To Recognize the Signs of Cheating Men.
I checked out the article. Now, I mean absolutely no disrespect to HowToDoThings.com, but the article describes cheating by mere amateurs, not sociopaths.
Signs of a cheating man
According to the article, all of the following should raise a woman’s suspicions that her guy might be cheating:
1. He improves his personal appearance.
2. He finds fault with you.
3. Your sex life changes.
4. He uses a new phone or other new technologies.
5. Your intuition tells you something is wrong.
6. His routine changes, or he has new interests.
7. His work or financial habits change.
8. You find evidence of another woman.
The key here is that something about the guy’s behavior is different. I’m sure this is the case if a guy who is reasonably normal, albeit bored or unhappy, strays. But it’s not the case with sociopaths.
For sociopaths, cheating is a way of life, so there is no change to notice.
Cheating by professionals
Sociopaths—both men and women—are professional cheaters, liars and manipulators. So let’s take a look at the list in the context of a sociopath.
1. There probably won’t be a change in personal appearance. Either they’re always obsessive about how they look, or they rely on their skills of seduction.
2. After initial flattery to get you hooked, a sociopath will start finding fault with you. In time, the sociopath blames you for being the source of all problems.
3. Sociopaths always have plenty of sexual tricks and incredible stamina, so they’ll continue to get sex from you, even if they’re getting it from someone else.
4. A new phone is simply another new toy, and sociopaths love toys. In fact, they’ll get you to buy the toys.
5. Your intuition has probably always been telling you something is wrong. But sociopaths have so many glib explanations that you no longer trust your own perceptions.
6. Sociopaths are always coming and going, and they’re always starting something new. After awhile, you accept this as normal.
7. A sociopath is always irresponsible. Jobs and money just disappear. This, too, becomes normal.
8. When you find direct evidence of cheating, the sociopath either explains it away, or accuses you of being paranoid.
The problem about being involved with a sociopath is that he or she is always erratic, and you are always off balance. So it’s difficult to see the signs of cheating, especially as the sociopath continues to profess his or her love and concern for you.
In fact, you may never find out the extent of the cheating until the sociopath discards you. Only then, when the sociopath no longer bothers to spin a web of deceit, might you find out what was really going on.
ErinBrock
Let’s go world tramping together…
Say the word! I’m in!
super chic
Stargazer, so very sorry to hear about your cat, is he the little love bug that used to crawl into your shirt? I remember we were all discussing the snakes one night and you mentioned your cat was the one crawling up your shirt, not the snake! My cat drools, so that wouldn’t work out too good. You are in my thoughts my dear.
super chic
EB, I’d like to be a tramp around the world, is that wrong? LOL
witsend
Star,
I am so sorry about your kitty. It is so difficult….Your in my thoughts.
ErinBrock
Shabby:
You can be whatever you want to be……the world is your ‘truck’ darlen!
Sounds good to me!
I had an interesting conversation with a 85 year old woman last night…..a sassy old gal at that!
We were talking about her G. kids and behaviors and teen stuff……
When all of a sudden she blurted out that she’d been celebate for 45 years!
NOW….what was I supposed to do with that? Relate it to the G. kids…..
Anyways…..I just listened…..she said….it was the best decision she ever consciously made…..
Of course, going on several years myself…and NOT consciously…..(I just haven’t had anyone to turn down)…..I thought…..hmmmmmm 45 years!!!! SHIT!
She told me how uncomplicated it has made her life….and once she got past the raging hormone phase….she was quite allright with it…..she has dated….but she wasnt’ interested in being their play thing…..she said if she had met a man who she felt would stick around…then she would have ‘given it up’…..but she didn’t want to go around feeling bad about herself…..she did it twice after her divorce…..and she didn’t like how they played her…..
So celebacy it was!
I think I would rather tramp around the world…..maybe at least come across those 2 ‘testers’…..to convince me celebacy was the way for me at this point!
🙂
one/joy_step_at_a_time
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i am so sorry my girl.
check out angel on my shoulders. i was there years ago, and it was extremely wonderful. like here.
one step
one/joy_step_at_a_time
HENS: we gotta make t shirts
‘Hang tuff. Study your past. Live in the present. prepare for the future. ‘
one/joy_step_at_a_time
and if y’all are going to chile, I’m in.
Now, who’s buying the tickets?
hens
onestep – i think you and I are in the same boat – the closest thing we will get to Chile is a can of Wolf Brand Chili – As for the T- Shirts? I will stick with my favorite T-shirt that says ” I am confused”
one/joy_step_at_a_time
okay, we can make one that says, ‘ Hens is confused’.
and i don’t want nothin’ to do wit boats! 🙂
the idea of sitting down in the living room with a can of chili….instead of being in the sun speakin’ spanish is ’nuff to make me sad.