Jimmy Savile was one of the most well-know stars of British television. Everyone knew he was eccentric and many people apparently knew he was also a sexual predator who targeted young girls for decades.
Jimmy Savile scandal on BBC.co.uk.
‘If we blabbed on Jimmy, the family would have been left with nothing’: Savile’s abused great niece tells how paedophile DJ bought his relatives’ silence, on DailyMail.co.uk.
Britain’s Jimmy Savile abuse scandal: how could his crimes have gone unnoticed for so long? on WashingtonPost.com.
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STJ:
I’m so sorry. I am praying for you. You can always come here and tell us your story to get it off your chest. The damage these beings do is horrid. HUGS to you today.
Thanks Louise
I have already told my story a few years ago on LF. But now and again something gets discussed that makes me get an AHA moment.
On this post is was the stare and the sense of relief when they stop. How anxiety provoking it is and that I have experienced it.
((Hugs to you too))
STJ:
The stare…I know, it’s awful. Mine had that blank, predatory stare. I also thought it was “love”…haha, what a joke. I will never forget it. That stare made me feel like I was the only one. It’s sick. They are sick. It’s hard to heal from a sicko.
SharingTheJourney, (((((HUGS)))))
Once the fog lifts, the flashbacks come in torrents and we can “identify” the “tells,” and it is thoroughly disturbing. It is NEVER pleasant to observe the behaviors, in retrospect. For me, it’s always a matter of, “How could I NOT have SEEN this?!” And, for a while, I hate myself for having been so blind and in denial. Then, it passes because I come to this site and read the depths of betrayal and deceit that others have experienced – I’m not alone, and I’m not the only one that was thoroughly duped.
It is, indeed, a horror to recollect those things, STJ. I will never know if the first exspath ever molested our children, but I suspect that he may have. But, the horror is linked to our own fears, repulsions, nightmares, and abuse. Over time, it becomes less of a visceral threat. Oh, an abuser will always be a threat to society, but once we are free of that bond, we have the opportunity to recover and advocate for those who have no voices.
I believe it is very important for you to put these things down, in print, STJ. Not only does it make these events “real,” but it helps to purge that poison so you can continue healing. Keep posting, because another reader is going to see your experiences and identify. Perhaps, they’ll identify soon enough to save themselves.
Today, you are safe, and it is a VERY good day!
Brightest and most encouraging blessings to you
I had never encountered it before, but being young I was brainwashed with romance and though it was ‘love at first sight’.
I remember in the reformed years where he played the good guy. Yes, I fell for it, I used to look at old pictures and see the stare and think ‘I’m glad he’s gone’.
What I thought was reformed, was just hidden from sight with a new mask. He kept it going for six years until I fully trusted him.
Who wouldn’t.
Off course their were mask slips in that time. But I didn’t know what I was witnessing.
XXX
STJ:
I also had never experienced the stare before and never have since and thank God for that. If I EVER see a man look at me like that again, I will be gone in an instant. I should have known something was wrong, but like everyone else, I thought it was an “in love” type of stare. I was so stupid. It’s OK though because even though I was stupid, he can never be me. I will heal, but he will ALWAYS be who he is.
Interesting what you say about him being the good guy for all those years. Chilling that they can “act” for so long. Very scary. We never really know what we are dealing with, do we? 🙁
Truth ((Hugs)))
Thanks. When the full horror hit me I asked each of my kids individually if their dad had ever touched them. I just had to know and I knew that I could be harming them by just asking. I warned them that it might.
Not only did I have to know, but I felt that I had to pre warn them in some way if anything came up about him in the future.
My kids are not stupid. They knew something bad had happened when I threw him out and went complete NC with him. Asking them this showed that I had a fear in this direction.
Since then he has abandoned our two oldest and only sees the youngest once a week for two hours. Her decision. She’s just a cover for the girlfriend anyway and she has not met her even though he has been seeing her for a year and a half.
The impact on the family of these predators is horrendous.
I so hope that your ex didn’t. My prayers are with them and you.
xxx
Yeah
‘How could I have been so blind’
xxx
We weren’t stupid Louise, but naive.
Yes, and I will run like hell if anyone stares like that at me again.
xxx
STJ:
I just read your post again. It really made me “feel” for you. I could really feel in your post what you were experiencing at the restaurant and all those years. Awful, just awful. You said you asked your own children if he ever touched them. I hope he did not. I hope they were telling the truth. I’m not saying they are liars…I’m just saying that it could be something they would never want to admit to if it happened. What about the other children in the family?? Is there any way to ever ask them?
I’m sorry he has abandoned your two oldest children. Very sad story all around.