Why do psychopaths go after what they want regardless of the negative consequences they may experience? According to the journal Nature Neuroscience, the answer may be chemical—an overactive dopamine reward system.
Read Driven toward reward without regard for consequence on Time.com.
Read the scientific study, Mesolimbic dopamine reward system hypersensitivity in individuals with psychopathic traits, in Nature Neuroscience.
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kim frederick
Wow, Wit, I am so sorry. I have absolutely no advise.
Maybe some good will still come out of your meeting w/ the police chief. At least it’s documented that you have concerns and spoke to him about them. My prayers are with you.
witsend
silvermoon,
I did actually get some legal free advice from legal aide in my state.
They are the ones that clarified the GREY area of the law in the state that I reside in that exist at the age of 17.
A child can leave home at 17 by choice, but can’t be asked to leave by a parent at 17. Parent is by law to provide until 18.
Any other suggestions that I haven’t looked into already I am really OPEN to, so thanks for this.
Ox Drover
The problem is with witty’s son, just like my son it isn’t about doing what’s LEGAL, it is about keeping them from killing you!
At the time I KNEW that the Trojan Horse Psychopath had been SENT BY MY SON TO KILL ME–he had NOT VIOLATED THE LAW AT ALL. I asked him to leave. He refused. He had my egg donor suckered in so she wouldn’t help get him out, and as long as he was around he had a chance to kill me–it wasn’t about LEGAL IT WAS ABOUT SURVIVAL!
Wits son has NOT violated the law in any way–SO FAR—but he is a BULLY and he knows she is not capable of physically protecting herself from him 24/7–NO ONE IS. I tried to keep thinking I could protect myself and keep them from sneaking up on me while I slept but YOU CAN’T DO THAT! NO ONE CAN LIVE IN A FORT WITH THE “enemy” INSIDE. And, unfortunately, Wits son is a clone of mine, and he enjoys bullying, pulling her chain, threatening, and GETTING AWAY WITH IT. He keeps up the mask of the “poor kid” around everyone else, except her and he said to her “do X (to displease me) and I will burn your house down on top of your head” then leaves burnt matches all around for her to see.
Even when he turns 18 and she can “legally” make him move, how is she going to protect herself from him? He enjoys mentally torturing her, showing her that he is BOSS and there is nothing she can do. Anyone else here ever know anyone with that attitude? I do, my son, he killed a girl when he was 20–cold blooded. It makes me shiver.
Aeylah
Witsend;
I’m so sorry for your sorrow ….a mohter can only do so mcuh against an angry out of control raging teen age son. (been there done that)…. I guess you’ve allready tried anger management counceling? I might be speaking out of line here but…. what about using reverse psychology?….emphasizing and rewarding him for good behaviour….even if all it means is that he goes 1 day with out using destructive language or actions?
silvermoon
Ok. so thinking out of the box….
Wit,
if you move, what happens if he can’t find you or you go to another state where the law will be more responsive to your situation?
Are there other states with better laws?
What happens if you hire a body guard?
Can you legally give him up for adoption and make him a ward of the state?
Can you have him comitted to a mental hospital?
Can you set him up top get busted and put away through the system?
Does Nebraska still have that law where you can drop a kid off at a hospital and leave them there?
Can you get a protection order based on that?
Do you have a German Shepherd?
Can you rent a spare bedroom to a cop?
Can you get cameras and recorders set up in places in your house where you can capture this behavior?
Can you send him to military school?
Can you pay him off to accept early emancipation?
Aeylah
EB,
“When the plate is full—.develop an appetite and dig in!
Good one…I’m nibbling away.
learning
Persons aged 17 are considered adults in ten states—Georgia, Illinois, Louisiana, Massachusetts, Michigan, Missouri, New Hampshire, South Carolina, Texas, and Wisconsin.
learning
Michigan has a similar confusng statute as does Missouri and other states. The legal age of majority is 18, but the Juvenile Code defines an “adult” as being anyone who is the age of seventeen. The “17” designation refers to judicial proceedings only, it indicates when a person of at least that age can be prosecuted as an adult for specified offenses. In addition, the state participates in AMBER ALERT where state law specifies a “child” (not a minor) as being under the age of 17. There is a difference, a minor is someone under the age of 18-years, a child for the application of the state abduction and missing child laws is designated as being under the age of 17-years.
Witty, I think this means exactly what you have summized. He can move out, but if he wants to return you are obligated to let him until the age of 18.
Putting on my thinking cap…. sending you a big ((hug)) lots of ((love)) and the safety and miracles coming to you from lots of Angels……xoxo
ErinBrock
Aeylah:
Dieticians say it’s best to eat 6 small meals a day.
🙂
ErinBrock
Wits:
I’ve thought about this and will some more….
Silver has some good suggestions….
I really like the renting a room to a cop idea! I contemplated that on myself….even offering a room for free….just to let the kid know he’s NOT ALONE in my home.
If this gives you any hope….my son is starting to show signs of coming around….not leaps and bounds…..but in the right direction…..
I feel like he still has ‘some’ ‘respect’ for me as his mother…..as I didn’t feel this previously. Currently, he just frustrates me. Not so much evil stuff…….
I do think you should set up cameras in the home….just for documentation…..and let the police chief you’ve done this….in case something happens to you.
Also…..I see no reason why you shouldn’t still be the authority – mother with him….and set the rules down…..
Curfew….and be clear, if he’s NOT home by XX the doors and windows will be locked…(he’s running out of places to ‘run’ and couch surf)…..If he breaks in….call the police and have him arrested for destruction of property….
Somehow….he must learn……YOU (and the world) have rules…..
Maybe you can discuss this with the PChief and also the councelor…..
maybe the councelor can help you set up a ‘contract’……
With the consequences. And make the consequences real….cuz i know things like restriction he’d walk all over…..
But like I mentioned above…..if not home by yada….doors locked.
Can he be held for curfew laws? If he’s not in by yada….then call the police and report him? Then if he does show up causing a ruckus at your home….trying to get in…..police are called and maybe they’ll do something….
Did you ask the police chief any of the above? Maybe you’ve thought this path?
You gotta take what you have and try and make it work for YOU……I know you know this!!!
How about the grandparents in CA….have you aproached them? Or suggested to him he approach them? You know it wouldn’t last, but at least it would buy you more time until 18…..and then they’d see….
That’s all I have for now….but i’ll think about it more….I do think of you and your situation….my heart feels for you darlen….just know that….if nothing else!
XXOO
EB