Why do psychopaths go after what they want regardless of the negative consequences they may experience? According to the journal Nature Neuroscience, the answer may be chemical—an overactive dopamine reward system.
Read Driven toward reward without regard for consequence on Time.com.
Read the scientific study, Mesolimbic dopamine reward system hypersensitivity in individuals with psychopathic traits, in Nature Neuroscience.
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One step, hope you had a fab Birthday darlin!!All the very best, make this the start ofa GREAT YEAR! Lotsa Love,& huggles,MamaGem.XX
witty, I get scared when you say the word “surrender” . It sort of implies you will give up your will. Not now Honey!
Make no mistake, this is no time for surrender!
This is WAR!
He is now your ENEMY, and he could easily KILL you or destroy your home, IF he chose to.
Now is when you need to get focussed,steel yourself, get your adrenaline up,you are in a BATTLE for your LIFE here!
He HATES YOU. do you get this?
it was precisely because id surrendered in 1980, that I allowed my spath girl and my ex to almost kill me!
As Oxy, says, its malignant hope that keeps us believing they will change!
Oxy could easily have been killed by her spath son!
THEY HATE US!!Your sweet little boy is DEAD!!!DO NOT LET HIM BACK HOME ON ANY ACCOUNT!!
Love, Gem.
One step,
Happy festival!
I watched Lonseome Dove again the other night and couldn’t help but be reminded of it by Robert Duvall’s line
“the older the violin, the sweeter the music”
Well, there you have it.
Happy to you!
silvermoon – well my strings are a bit tight…
i was fantasizing about being in my upper years 80’s or 90’s (given the tenacity of my bloodlines, this is quite possible) and i see myself doing what i am doing now – regardless of what is and what isn’t, there is still joy in the beauty of the natural world and in one spoken kind word.
i have to let some of my fears for the future wash over me at times – and wash away. i have this one about being old and destitute. the closer i am to destitute, the more this fear loses power. i will still be myself. the leaves will still turn colour in the fall. if you have nothing to lose, there is nothing that can be stolen.
now, i would like to have this attitude AND trust that the world is safe enough and that i will always have enough, but it is not my experience. there is some healing to be done. and maybe the world isn’t safe enough – regardless of perception. i don’t know.
but the sun is shining and and i will go to the island and the conservation area today and i couldn’t be happier. thank you for your wishes.
EB, thanks for the welcome and the inspiration b4 bed… a ballerina I am not and dancing is the last thing I feel like doing lately but your comment made me look forward to the day when I will. There is so much healing to do but I have never felt so much relief as I do just knowing I can talk about it. My family and most friends, loving and supportive as they are, simply do not understand. When I even hint about my ex being a spath, I get looks of sympathy and quiet little grins as if to say, “poor thing, she is really grasping for comfort…” BUT you all know that what I’ve (We’ve) been through is very real and no one could make this shit up. Thanks to everyone for making me feel validated.
Happy Birthday to you. Happy Birthday to you. Happy birthday dear Onestep. Happy birthday tooooo youuuu!!
Dear Kim,
How did the job interview go today? Well I hope!
Back outside for me!~ wonderful spring day but was 33 deg last night! Soon will be cursing the humidity and heat! But for now it is wonderful.
Hey, Oxy. Thanks for my TOWANDA last night.
I think it went well. He said he had 3 or 4 more interviews, but was going to hire for about 5 positions. He said He’d let me know either way by Monday.
I’m looking forward to having a pay-check. 🙂 So, I hope I get the job.
It’s beautiful and warm here today. I enjoyed getting out to see the trees in bloom.
How are you, Ox?
Whew!~ Just got back inside have been out enjoying the spring time weather, cool breezes and sun shine! Have a cow who is going to that “great McDonald’s in the sky” on sunday so need to separate her from the herd and lo-and-behold the herd was up by the corral, and I knew if I tried to drive them in they would “get wind of what was going on”–so proving I was smarter’n the cows, I turned them out on the runway with fresh grass to chew on, and they went for it. Now the only way back into the pasture is THROUGH the corral so they won’t smell a rat when I drive them into the corrall from the south end! Hee hee hee (evil laugh, twisting my handle bar mustache!–if I had one!–oh, well the 1 or 2 hairs!) LOL
The calves are frolicing and enjoying themselves playing and romping!
The spring greens are up plenty and the goats are enjoying that.
Sorting stuff to donate, for yard sale and e bay too…getting there. Filling the trash trailer too! Makes you feel good to accomplish something!
I will keep my fingers crossed for you getting the job!
My kids used to tease me that my husband’s motto was
“Spend, spend for tomorrow we may die.”
Mine was
” SAVE, SAVE FOR TOMORROW WE MAY LIVE AND BE HUNGRY!”
So when you start getting that pay check start a regular savings program—I always called it my “iron lung” fund. Unless I needed an “iron lung” to keep breathing (an early form of mechanical ventilation, actually still used some) I wouldn’t touch that money with a ten foot pole, it was really my EMERGENCY FUND.
That is one reason the psychopaths never got very much money out of me even if they tried as I am too tight fisted to give it to them! LOL Funny thing is, I would spend it on someone else before I spent it on me! I always felt guilty spending money on MYSELF but didn’t when I spent it on others. So been doing more spending on ME lately! But still very frugal so gotta hang on to the EMERGENCY FUND in case I have to run again!
I’ve been really broke and I’;ve been flush, and I like flush better, but once I was down to my last $1.37 when I was in college and “invested it” in a poker game with a bunch of guys at a party, I knew they were drunk and I could “take’em” so I had grocery money for the next week but my date told me I would have to leave before I took all their money or he would have to fight our way out! WHATEVER WORKS!
How is sp diagnosed for most of you on LF? I do not have a formal diagnosis of sp or ASPD for my ex.
He was hospitalized and treated for depression, and I was told he is narcissitic, bipolar. He underwent all psych tests. I say he fits all sp criteria. He is a professional, from a prominent family so being diagnosed with this “stigma” would be kept a secret from me while we were married.
I dont want to discuss too many details but I do not know alot about his youth except obvious family issues. He does have a history of bizarre treatment of animals as a child. Dont know about teenage years. Should I investigate?
I do know that he bragged about beating up someone in college. Seemed to be in fights alot…and cheated on all of his girlfriends.