Why do psychopaths go after what they want regardless of the negative consequences they may experience? According to the journal Nature Neuroscience, the answer may be chemical—an overactive dopamine reward system.
Read Driven toward reward without regard for consequence on Time.com.
Read the scientific study, Mesolimbic dopamine reward system hypersensitivity in individuals with psychopathic traits, in Nature Neuroscience.
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i am so speaking out of turn again Oxy…but we are not talking about animals….I skimmed through yet again….I don’t want to label someone who not incorrigible.
I truly believe the b-tard I deal with is incorrigible. The only way to truly tell is to have the test done on them…whatever that test is….I’lll vote for Hare’s…but most wouldn’t. cuz it’s too harsh???
Since I am the sole poster: I would like to repeat:
Two Wolves
One is EVil
It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, iiinferiority, lies, falsre, pride, superiority, and ego.
THE OTHER good:
It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, truth, compassion and faith.”
In the end, which one wins???
“THE ONE THAT FEEDS YOU”
Another part of me..
conomo – the answer is “the one that you feed…”
withoutadooubt beck girl
Oh god I don’t know what to say to you BreckGirl…….I am no scholar but You are right —I think…you get what you giive and feed…iinto….however the SOB’s change everything
Conomo what you posted comes from these two similar tales:
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.
The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Here is the same story, but it is called “Grandfather Tells” which is also known as “The Wolves Within”
An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice, “Let me tell you a story.
I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do.
But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.” He continued, “It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way.
But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing.
Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit.”
The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked, “Which one wins, Grandfather?”
The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, “The one I feed.”
Awesome, Ladies. Thanks for reminding me.
Kim – thanks for sharing your ‘shit’ 😉 dream with me. if i draw a direct parallel to your dream, i would have to sit nobly in that tub, poo and all.
yesterday i had an opportunity while talking to a friend to see how messed up I am – how different than I am than before the discard. I was pretty stretched and overwhelmed before the discard, but since, oy! i guess it was important as I can see the big chasm, SEE how not okay i have become. if i can SEE it that means i am not so wholey in it.
hmmm, i don’t like what i just wrote. although i am messed up, i want to defend my right to be. it is where i am. i am so angry at feeling like it can’t just be how i am, always hiding. i need to stop hiding. but i do it for a reason – fear of repercussion. i am begininning to not hide. i have said about 4 things in the last while of the not hide variety to people i feel i need to keep a face on for – which by the way is almost everybody.
this, i just realized is a ‘poo gift’ from the spath – this hiding, is a maladjusted way of ‘keeping safe’. it is a form of lying, and she is all about the lying. you know how when we need to sy somethign polite in a situaion that is a bit political, and we are thinking something a bit different?…well, i am good at that. i am good atactully SEEING the good in the situaion and puttingit out there. right now, i see the BS of the situaion and when i say something political i FEEL THE LIE OF IT.
OKAY, gonna start a rant now: that f*cking spath. she made a lie for me, then she killed it. and left me with this idea that i will never have what i want, so maybe i should try hiding and lying ‘casue it seems to work for her. (but aren’t i hiding and not telling my truth in reaction? part of me seems to think i have control if i do that…but this sort of reaction is in place cause i have been harmed) i really feel this way. i view people (on some days) with this spathy eye now – sure they are malicious and are doing something to ‘get me’ or ‘win.’ but htat’s not so much the people i meet every day, but the people i may meet every day – i project that the world is unsafe. ahh, but the crazt neighbour, the toxins, the N, the spath, the N father, getting mugged, the allergies that keep intensifying so that many environments are really scarey for me —–well, looky, the world IS unsafe.
i wish i could just go live in the woods for a while and fall apart. disintegrate. this need to release pressure is getting to be a an important theme. and i need to figure out how to take the pressure off internally. can do some things about the outer world, but mostly, it’s the inner stuff.
okay – where are the pressures – need to write that out? and i need to get gentle with me. always it comes down to – get gentle or get moving (and sometimes a little kick my butt is good too). or both.
it feels so good to write. i have moments of feeling quite present and okay with how i am when i write. accepting, acknowledging and seeing – this is loving.
i know this one may be kinda hard to read – bit salady.
xx one step
Not a bit salady. Very coherant and accessable.
Like I said my dream was a bit uncouth, and a bit embarrassing to share, but dreams have no preconcieved ideas about what is or isn’t couth…they just are what they are and they tell the truth.
I don’t think it is lying to not divulge everything to people, whether it’s your feelings, your past, your political leanings,your religious beliefs…I think it requires discernment.
I appreciate your sense of anger in not feeling free to be who you are, how you are, but that’s just how the world operates. We all have to pretend sometimes, in order to survive.
I can’t be a raw nerve in the work place, or my co-workers may fear I’ll go postal…I couldn’t hold a job that way…
I can’t go around, ready to fight constantly, telling everyone I meet to F$^% off, because I don’t think they get it, or because they don’t agree with my politics…
That’s why it’s sooo good to have a place like LF, where it’s safe to be real.
When we are raw and angry, it is very hard to pretend, to go out into the world, and function.
I think that writing is an enormous tool for you, as it is for me. One place where the real me can just be.
I’m considering going into therapy, again. It’s been a very long time since I tried to battle my demons, hoping they had gone away, but I see their effects are still lingering.
I need help to find the courage, desire, ambition, to go into the world again, after my last devistating relationship, and 2.5 years of insulated isolation. I DON”T WANT TO GO.
I’m scared and I’m kicking and screaming and even angry…
acting spathy. I don’t want to act
spathy. I need some help.
Thank-you for acknowledging my dream. It’s always so nice to see that someone has posted back.
I believe we are all on the path, and exactly where we should be. Remember how powerful it is to have faith.