Why do psychopaths go after what they want regardless of the negative consequences they may experience? According to the journal Nature Neuroscience, the answer may be chemical—an overactive dopamine reward system.
Read Driven toward reward without regard for consequence on Time.com.
Read the scientific study, Mesolimbic dopamine reward system hypersensitivity in individuals with psychopathic traits, in Nature Neuroscience.
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Wits:
You need to go into this meeting hoping for the best….but expecting nothing.
Really……you’ve hit ‘dead end’ roads reaching out thus far…..there is gonna be something at some time that will afford you aid……unfortunatley, no one can tell when it will be the day.
I’m not sure what the status of Jr is at the moment or if he’s still carrying on at the ‘friends’ shelter…..status quo.
I feel your pain and struggle…..I know what it feels like to have doors shut when you reach out….I think society is programed to deal with mainstream issues and problems….but once they exceed the norm, but don’t qualify for jail…..we are in the abyss…..
We should look for the blessings…..our kids are not in jail…..
I hope you can find the words, keep the calm and be able to speak to the police chief in a way you can gain support.
Express your fear, elighten him of your journey…and who your’ve reached out to……
hopefully he will validate you and see you need some guidance……BEFORE he get’s to know your son through the law.
Take in your notes, write it all down….go point to point….the way a police chief will understand….organized facts….not so much emotions…..as they pertain to the law.
I am sending you MOJO for your meeting and MOJO to get through this…..we need ANYTHING, just anything……to open up…..
XXOO
EB
Aeyelah:
When the plate is full…….develop an appetite and dig in!
XXOO
EB
hens, erin,
Thanks for your support. The meeting went as expected. I think he does get it, to a point. But the law although somewhat confusing as it reads, is clear. HE wasn’t even sure of the law and had to call the prosecuting attorneys office to clarify. I was pretty clear on the law because I had called legal aid to verify and to make sure I was interpreting it correctly.
erin, Jr wants back in, the honeymoon is over where he is currently staying..My son of course told me a story that wasn’t factual, relating to the reasons why.
In the end I went into my talk with the chief, hoping for the best but prepared for the worst. Not with high expectations. Been around this block a few times. Its like the valley of the closed doors.
Wits:
I think you ‘got his attention’….if he was investigating and wanting to clarify things with the DA’s office. That is a good sign…..
He heard you….although there may not be much he can do at this point.
We all know…..there is nothing that can be done until crimes are commited….like people are dead…..or harmed or whatever….
ThIS is a situation a mother wouldlike to prevent….the future harm we see coming down the pike.
If Jr wants back in……WHY…he’s the one who wanted OUT….it’s not a revolving door….I think ya got him by the balls and an opportunity to make your point clear….get help for 2 months….then we’ll see….
See the therapist, take the meds, drug tests, atend school and get tutoring help….RISE UP….WHATEVER YOU DEEM…..YOU have control….but you have to stick to your guns….like glue.
Heres the guidlines…..one infraction….YOUR GONE! Just like real life…..
When my son wanted to come home….I made him wait….and set up the above….if he wanted to be in MY HOME…..he was going to live by MY RULES…….don’tlike it….getout.
If all else…it shows them you have to follow something in life…likeitor not.
If he doesn’t rise up…..well…..his choice….where ya living kiddo…..
If he wants to force legal issues……you have the documentation you’ve cried out….that’s when your legwork will have helped you…..(Unfortualey) you;ll be remembered then……
I’m sorry wits…I wish live was easier……
witty – i agree with erin, it sounds like you got his attention.
and she has great advice about how to set any re-entry.
i am sorry he has any right to come back. truly.
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( witty ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
but i believe that although this is not by far the best situation, that you can move through this. you have lots of support here, people will help. It will make a difference. i am sorry. so sorry that he has any right.
Dear Witty,
(((((HUGS))))) I’m sorry the chief didn’t hold out any hope for helpinhg you to keep your son out of your house.
Wow, do I remember the feelings of trying to get people to realize that “Junior” was DANGEROUS…
“The valley of the closed doors” Ah, Wits that is such a lonely place and ….
…. and…..all I can say is that I sit here and WEEP…..words won’t come can you believe that from e? ((((Hugs))))
Erin,
It all might sound like I got him by the balls…But it just ain’t so. Not in reality. First off he doesn’t really want to come back here, he has just “used up” all his other options. He actually seems quite angry about the fact that no one is standing in line to take him in.
Your right it isn’t a revolving door. But he also has the leverage of the law. And don’t think he doesn’t know this.
I can’t kick him out (by law)….That is why I don’t want to take him back in!
But the minute he becomes w/o a roof over his head…Things change. Then guess who is responsible?
He is seeing the therapist and he is BARELY going to school. They don’t want him anymore either and have reduced him to 1/2 day.
Its all a game to him. And if I had 2 rules for him to follow in order to live here he would promptly break them, JUST to show me he can, and then be abusive to the dogs any time I leave the house just to show me I had better know he is something to contend with.
He likes to torture. And he can be subtle enough were I know what the hell he is doing but whos gonna believe it?
((((witty))))))) words fail me.
Witsend,
Is your son 17? What state do you live in?
Witsend,
Ditto Ox Drover.
A few last ditch resources just in case they might lead to something for you?
Child Psychologists:
Dr. Adam Cox in Rhode Island. He has a Website.
Dr. Scott Shannon in Fort Collins, Colorado
Also for Cheap legal advice that is pretty good, try Just Answer.com -= I was impressed when I used them with the resources I got for $15/question!