According to researchers, not all pedophiles molest children. And not all child molesters are pedophiles. Now, many experts view pedophilia as a deep-rooted disposition, much like heterosexuality or homosexuality.
Many researchers taking a different view of pedophilia, on LATimes.com.
Louise,
exactly. This is not idle speculation, it’s a well known fact that once the victim grows up he/she is discarded. Sandusky did the same. Yet, like Michael Jackson, they claim to LOVE the children or the princess or the prince or whatever pet name they give them.
My exspath told me that his first sexual encounter was when he was 10 and it was with a 12 year old Native American girl. If this is true and I suspect that it is (and it was a tell), it makes sense that he was having sex with two 12-year old Native American girls when he was 29 AND bragging about it to his friends. I think his mind was stuck trying to relive the same experiences over and over.
That’s what I’ve noticed about several spaths, they seem stuck in the past, reliving it over and over and always with the same outcomes.
Truthspeak, right. I totally agree. I was addressing my post to raggedy….the shelf-life of an attraction thing….wow.
skylar:
Yes, this is why they always need to look for new victims…the current ones get older, more mature, pregnant…whatever, and then they are no longer attracted to them so they need to find the next prepubescent.
Yours started very young and it does sound like he was trying to recreate that initial excitement.
I agree about them trying to relive over and over their experiences and never learning from them.
PTSD survivors relive the trauma over and over again, too.
That’s true Kim. I sometimes think that the cluster b’s are a symptom of PTSD. The difference between us and them being that, WE are trying to escape the vicious cycle, while they choose to stay in it.
My exspath told me, “I never wanted to grow up. People change, but I’m still the same.”
Another strange example of this reliving the same thing over and over was a woman on my neighborhood water association board.
I nick named her “Malice” because the name fit.
She was the secretary for the board for 12 years. Longer than anyone else had been. Most people would join the 5 member board for a year or two. I joined in 2006 or 7.
I watched the first year and said very little. She pulled out some binders and said that we were required by the state to finish adopting certain rules and plans. So we began the process. The second year we were moving along, some members quit and a couple more joined the board. Malice suggested I become secretary and she would be treasurer. I just had to type up the meeting minutes, she said.
Well, as secretary, I requested the names and contact info for the community members and she refused to give them to me.
Eventually, I told another member, the witch-spath-minion, that I was calling the cops on Malice for not giving me ALL the documents that the secretary is supposed to have. Witch-spath was one of my spath’s minions, so she called Malice and warned her.
When I drove up with my truck, Malice had all the documents in boxes waiting outside.
What I found out was, that Malice had been pretending to start the state required project, over and over and over again. There were several binders filled with studies that we paid thousands for, all provided by the same engineer, done at different times over the decade.
Malice liked to pretend that she was just learning all about the project each time she got new board members.
WHY would she do this? It made her feel important because she was the “Authority” each time.
I got the impression, just from my intuition, that Malice had been held back in grade school and that the following year, she had all the answers to the tests. This made her popular. I think that Malice has been trying to repeat that experience over and over again. She’s in her 70’s by now and still playing the same stupid games. She once told the Spathy Witch minion, “I like to be, ‘in the know’.”
Of course I really don’t know if Malice was held back in school, I just got the feeling, that she was being compelled by something from her childhood.
“Great Article, BBE, but I think that “splitting hairs” on the ages that these “pedophiles” are attracted to is going way tooooooo faaaaaar.”
OxDrover;
I agree and also with your point about acting and desiring. Several times before, I made the comment that almost by definition, all active Pedophiles are Psychopaths, not only because such activities are seen universally wrong and illegal, but the damage done to victims is so severe that to perpetrate such a crime indicates a total lake of empathy.
I see rape similarly. 1) It is a crime due to lack of self-restraint; 2) The victim is harmed beyond the crime itself, indicating lack of empathy. Even classic defenses (“she led me on”) show a complete lack of empathy.
Sadly, the criminal “justice” system is still male dominated making rape under-reported and under-prosecuted. The opinion of many public leaders on this subject is appalling.
sounds to me like Malice had a territorial problem. I’ve seem people like that, the smaller their territory, the bigger they fight to control it. Petty minded people who carry a grudge. The apple did not fall far from my MIL’s tree; both her and my spath can carry a grudge for DECADES, smiling at the person, being their friend, biding their time until the ZAP moment that delivers the greatest pain. Simply vicious petty minded territorial people. You see them also in traffic, they are they road rage people. I let those type have their territory. It doesn’t make me weak, rather being petty is a waste of time. I just don’t have the years left on earth to waste on someone who won’t let me make amends, work with them, resolve an issue. They wanna carry their petty grudge? Let them have ALL the space they want.
More time for me to eat chocolate torte. Bavarian. Cherries, with real whipped cream. Ahhhh. and Champagne to sip with it.
Louise, didn’t Jaycee have TWO children? where’d the second come from?
Kim, LOL!!! I was posting a general response to Raggedy’s response to the article. I don’t buy the neuropathy because it’s just another excuse – another label.
Shelf-life of attraction is real. But, so is engaging in something that is patently illegal, immoral, or unethical. The one remark that Raggedy made that caused my hackles to rise was this: “As in the first case profiled in the article, it’s an absolutely tragic affliction to live with. Act on it, and you are causing harm to other human beings and risk ruining your own as well and coming to violent harm. Control yourself, and you are living in deprivation or distraction and constant inappropriate romantic feelings or physical yearning for others a state you will have to medicate, or self-medicate, not always fully successfully.”
That Raggedy “stridently” disagrees with reader outrage is “allowed,” but very, very baited, and I’m not getting into an online discussion with an individual that appears to be deliberately attempting to provoke.
Readers and posters on LoveFraud.com bring every socipoathic experience to this site, including molestation and child sexual abuse. When individuals post comments or responses that attempt to minimize or excuse the HORRIFIC traumas that an innocent child is subjected to, it’s outrageous, audacious, and intolerable.
Brightest blessings!!!
Oxy:
She did have two children so I see your point, but it’s true after the second one, he no longer had relations with her. That was clearly stated in the show I saw with her and was it Diane Sawyer?