Have you ever tried changing the weather? It’s a sunny morning here in California, but no matter how much I wish it could snow on this beautiful January day, there is probably no chance it will ever happen. Regardless, I am dreaming about it, praying for it, creating a plan, working hard, staying awake at night and wishing for that change. Finally, I cry out for help, asking people around me, reading books and magazines, wishing so hard for it to snow! Please, I want to see those snowflakes beautifully dancing and diving past my window. This is January, it’s winter, I don’t have to try hard for it, do I? It is supposed to snow in winter, it is Normal to snow in Winter, something must be wrong! I want to change the weather today and I want to make it my mission to be in control of this weather for once and for all! But wait! Nothing seems to be working, no matter how hard I try. I don’t see those flakes, I don’t even see clouds, nevertheless, I still want to make those efforts, work hard and try hard.
Friends, let me tell you what I have learned the hard way, just like many of you, lovefraud readers – none of us is capable of changing the weather, the state of the atmosphere, and certainly none of us is capable of changing another person’s weather, the state of their distorted personality. We have to come to terms with this reality, we have to recognize and acknowledge that some things are designed the way they are and everything in life has a Purpose. You and I have a purpose too, so why waste our time, energy and resources worrying about the external change that is Not within our control? Why torture ourselves, destroy our health and vitality and drain ourselves of mental and physical energy?
I know, just like me, you feel hurt, you feel traumatized, you feel lost and empty, I know the feeling, but read this sentence again, it’s You who feels this way, it’s not the weather and certainly it’s not the other person. So let’s move on together, acknowledge this reality to be ok with external climate and create our desired weather inside us. As long as we blame the external circumstances and other people, we give away our Power to something else or someone else. Instead, we could take responsibility, look inside us, create the life we deserve to live and serve the purpose we have been designed to serve.
I know it’s hard to take the first step when we don’t see a staircase. I am not an expert in any field but I had no other choice but try, and it doesn’t hurt. The road to recovery will always be under construction, but it would only be you to build it, one step at a time.
Here’s the entire Self-Love and Healing video series — to start at the beginning, scroll to the bottom.