Every week, a chapter of my book,”Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned” (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, use the links at the bottom of the post.
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Chapter 58: Final Thoughts
Some women write to and fall in love with incarcerated serial killers, but most of us would never knowingly marry a sociopath. However, many wonderful, caring, intelligent, and confident women do. They don’t realize that the Prince Charming who romanced them is a brilliant manipulator and is secretly recruiting them into a private cult, from which escape will be elusive at best. It happens far more often than we imagine, because sociopaths are far more common and far better disguised than we think.
Don’t let a sociopath bring the destructive force of a tsunami into your life or into the life of someone you love. The best way out of a relationship with a sociopath is to never fall into one, or at least not to fall in too deeply. And the best way to never fall in is to recognize that sociopaths exist, camouflaged exquisitely as our soul mates, mentors, and best friends. Yet, there are imperfections in their disguises that, like water retreating from a beach before a tsunami, are warning signs of impending doom. Accept that these soulless manipulators exist and learn how to catch moments when their disguises falter and their true self is revealed. If you miss the subtle signs, you could easily have your own cautionary tale about a marriage to the devil and an unending battle for your soul and that of your children.
If you notice any parallels between my story and your life or the life of someone you love, I hope you will keep a journal or urge the other person to do so, get help from a professional who is knowledgeable about abusive relationships, and then plan an escape. For escape you must!
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