Stories in the newspaper yesterday were disheartening. After reading them, I had to conclude that full-blown sexual predators are everywhere, and doing something about them will be difficult.
The first story I found was about Canadian Col. Russell Williams, an elite pilot who was commander of Canadian Forces Base Trenton, the largest air force base in the country. In 2005 he was photographed with Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Phillip. On February 7, 2010, he was charged with murdering a young woman who had been missing for almost a week.
That’s not all. Williams, considered a “shining bright star” in the military, has been charged with the murder of two women, sexual assault of two other women, and 82 break-ins. What did he steal? Women’s panties. An Ottawa newspaper reported that police seized more than 500 pairs from his home.
The charges have shocked the Canadian military. Retired Major Greg McQuaid wrote reports that helped Williams get promoted. McQuaid’s observation, however, is telling:
“I remember he had a very focused stare or look, and I was just reminded of that when this happened and they showed the photos of him and I said, there’s that look. I remember that look. It was like he’s looking through you at the back of your head,” McQuaid said.
To read about this incredible story, click on these links:
Canada top commander charged with murder, assault, on Philly.com.
The secret life of Colonel Russell Williams, on Macleans.ca. This story discusses psychopaths at the end.
Another story in the Sunday paper was about another sexual predator in the Catholic Church—this one from Brazil. A Polish priest, Marcin Michael Strachanowski, is accused of sexually abusing a 16-year-old former altar boy, and then threatening to kill the youth if he spoke of it.
According to news reports:
Judge Alexandre Abrahao Dias said that investigators found “erotic material sent to the victim via Internet to seduce him” and that the priest also took other youths to the parish house, “which he converted into a kind of erotic dungeon where he submitted them, often with the use of handcuffs, to orgies.”
To read about this case, see:
Polish priest accused of running pedophile ”˜dungeon,’ in the Montreal Gazette.
Priest charge cites ”˜erotic dungeon,’ on Philly.com.
The Canadian colonel is being prosecuted. The priest has been arrested, and the diocese of Rio de Janeiro didn’t cover up the incident. It immediately suspended the priest and expressed regret over the alleged abuse.
These guys have been caught. Given the nature of their crimes, if proven guilty, they’ll probably go to prison for a long time.
Ten days ago, a sex offender in California, John Gardner III, was sentenced to life in prison for raping and murdering 17-year-old Chelsea King and 14-year-old Amber Dubois.
California lawmakers are now considering a bill, nicknamed Chelsea’s Law, that would mandate life sentences for some child molesters and lifetime parole for others. It’s a great idea—but it will cost a lot of money.
After the first 10 years, keeping the predators in jail would cost tens of millions of dollars, according to a California corrections department analysis. But the Legislative Analyst’s Office, which provides fiscal and policy analysis to the California Legislature, puts the cost much higher—at hundreds of millions of dollars.
Read the article here:
California bill aimed at molesters would cost millions, on Google.com.
Last week, Lovefraud reported that the Supreme Court upheld a law to keep sex offenders in jail after their sentences are served. People who commit crimes like these deserve to spend their lives in jail. But is our society willing to pay for it?
Rosa, I hate to admit this, but, I’ll write my thoughts just the same … I’m coming to a conclusion that the reason we run into the male Spaths of the world … is because the female Spaths hooked the good, loving guys and the male Spaths are what the female Spaths left behind for the rest of us to contend with. I’m not knocking any good guy out there that are finally available … but, for years, they have been blinded and hood winked by the female Spaths … never to allow them to be free from the female Spath, even after divorce.
I found that women can spot the female Spaths with no problems after their masks slip … and the same goes for males spotting the male Spaths. But, when it comes to intimate relationships … that’s when the blinders go on and we (whether male or female) can’t see that we are dealing with a Spath until they are long gone down the road.
Wini,
Thank you for the sum up of the bottom line. If you read the passages I quoted they are mostly talking about being put to physical death not spiritual. Stoning, being burned alive, etc refer to the physical. But I think I get your point and in general I agree with you.
And thank you but I really do not want to enter into a religious debate or discussion. I was trying to make the point that I really do not want some theocracy deciding who lives and who dies and why all based on their personal interpretations of a book, which is in conflict with numerous others who interpret it differently and each cherry pick it to make it seem to fit their own view.
The greater the emotional investment one has in the psychopath, the more BLIND he/she will become.
Rosa, you are right on target how the female Spaths hide behind the strengths of the males in their lives, husbands, bosses, etc.
At worked this drove me nutso … with my male bosses … I wanted to scream “can’t you see what your secretary really is … my God, she’s a cyclone of destruction”. But, of course, you can’t speak a word, else you be thought the negative one … jealous of a conscientious, couldn’t do without female assistant/secretary/manager.
Blogger, as a practicing Christian we are to explain to those that never read the Bible to read, comprehend and abide in His truth. The reason that people are doubtful that the Bible is actually the Truth about Life is they believe the lies (Satan is the lie) that surrounds earth. Earth is Satan’s domain and he loves nothing better than to deceive humans into refusing to read God’s truth.
A true man of God is Pastor Murray … you can learn what is written in the Bible, book by book, scripture by scripture by listening to Him teach the word of God at:
http://www.shepherdschapel.com/archive.htm
I suggest that you listen to him for about a month. After that time, write me back and let me know if your opinion changed (SMILE).
Wini,
I have the same problem at my work. the female Spath has everyone ‘hooked’ and ‘duped’, but most especially, the MEN. She comes across as all that is positive, good and full of glistening light, in their eyes. They think she can do no wrong, and meanwhile, behind their backs, she’s playing them like puppets against one another, creating discord because it gives her pleasure. She just finds out what their weakness is (their unmet need) and meets it, or at least pretends to, and voila, they’re hooked, and take her word as gospel truth!
I wanted to throttle the men in my office so many times (i should emphasize that that’s a figure of speech, not an actual intention, because of the potential for misunderstandings on-line),
but we all know exactly what trying to point things out gets us, we become the bad guy the second we say something. I’ve been mulling over how to deal with this without being frustrated (I have to think of strategies to help myself, it doesn’t come naturally for me).
Best thing I found so far was keeping in contact with SANE people, who have nothing to do with the situation at work (this lifts my spirits and reminds me what ‘normal’ is). I also don’t give the Spath woman any info. to work with, no personal and/or work-related info. about me, or what’s important to me at all, whenever that’s possible (though you should watch her trying to dig it up, constantly). And I make a point of keeping my energy as high and as positive as I can – it acts like a shield against her wicked mojo. Finally, I set my sights on goals that she can’t interfere in, and I complete them. This actually drives her crazy, but that’s her problem.
Have you got any techniques that help? I mean, I’m in my job with a lot of troubled people, and hope to move to another one asap, but in the meantime, I’ve got to deal, and am looking for specific ways. Because there are so many potential misunderstandings online, let me emphasize that I don’t mean ways to attack the Spath (pointless), but I mean ways to protect myself and possibly even do well in an environment dominated by Spaths and their puppets.
Psyche
Psyche, what I learned (too late for me) was that I kept praying to God not to leave my side (during my lawsuit against my bosses). He did exactly what I asked, He never left my side. My Catholic upbringing (which I no longer practice with the Catholic Church) screwed me up on this issue dealing with pure evil. We were always taught from the Catholic preaching, don’t be a pest to God. Just pray for others and don’t be obnoxious and ask Him for too many favors. Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. That’s why I didn’t ask God to resolve my lawsuit situation. God would have done this for me if I understood that all I needed to do was ask Him (which asking God anything is called praying … but, it’s actually just talking with Jesus). I could have prayed “Jesus, please handle this evil for me” … and Jesus would have followed through. Jesus would have put a person or persons in between my bosses and me … to curtail their wrath, get them out of the way by my bosses being promoted out of there, or me being transferred, or just defusing the situation. You get the drift …
I suggest to pray to Jesus that her evil doesn’t touch (influence you) your life (personal or career wise) … or do what I didn’t do … ask Jesus to handle her. Then sit back and watch what happens.
Another great thing to know is you can bless Olive Oil. Jesus is the olive oil … the anointed one … above all … Alpha and Omega … I am.
Bless the olive oil in Jesus’ name … then you can bring some of the oil into work, pour a drop on your finger and make the sign of the cross, over the door to your workplace … that no evil comes into your space … make the sign of the cross with the oil over your door inside your home so that no evil enters. The Spath can come into your workplace, but the evil that resides in her can’t. She has to be nice (which will irk her … being nice feels awful to them, as being kind and decent feels great to us).
All this is Truth from the Bible.
Let me know what happens in the future with your female Spath.
Peace.
Hey thanks Wini,
I actually forgot to mention the part about going to God. You can’t imagine how often I pray, and ask God to help me. I sometimes feel that I’m in a constant state of prayer, even when I’m not deliberately praying, some part of me is still going at it at the boundaries of my consciousness.
Anyway, it just feels like a huge battle to salvage my life, to find an environment where I can thrive, to become who God would have me be, instead of the person I’ve been (someone who fell for every sociopathic trick in the book, at great costs). I’ve spent a lot of time trying to learn from my mistakes (there’s no question that I made some BIG ones), so that I don’t repeat them, but also I ask God to show me more, give me more insight, so that I can protect myself more effectively from the evil that’s been taking pot shots at me since I was born.
Will think about the olive oil idea, thanks for the suggestion 🙂
Psyche
Psyche, it’s not your fault. We’ve had false teachers preaching Jesus’ truth for years. They throw a few scriptures in here or there to make the followers believe they are worshiping Jesus … than off to teaching the way of man instead of God. Jesus will deal with these big egos when they leave the physical world and re-enter the spiritual world (aka when they die). That’s why most folks do not believe in Jesus any more. Not believing and abiding in Jesus’ truth is why our world is so chaotic. Satan takes over and gets humans to follow him instead of following and loving our Savior.
When you talk with God you need to speak through Jesus. Jesus and God are one, but the almighty God doesn’t work directly with us, only through His son … Jesus. God the Father, God the son Jesus and God the Holy spirit … all are one … in different forms sort to speak for us humanoids down on earth (SMILE).
Pray to Jesus to keep her evil away from your life. Actually, what I would do if I were you … would be to ask Jesus to make her like you … that she would do anything for you. Wouldn’t that be a kick in the butt to her. She’d have to do everything and go out of her way for you … and she wouldn’t even know why she likes you. Hey, you can end up being best buddies with her (LOL).
Remember, ask Jesus for the best possible situations … nothing derogatory … He doesn’t stoop … if you get my drift.
Now sit back and RELAX … Jesus is in control … remember to always give Him what you know you can’t handle. Actually, we should all remember to let Jesus handle everything … and we just be His obedient loving child.
Peace.
Dear Psyche, my heart goes out to you! As far as I can see you are doing the best you can do in this situation, i.e. not giving personal infos to ANYBODY but selected trusted people, preferably outside the immediate working environment, keeping a bright nice polite facade not showing the anger they cause, but besides that become a gray rock and do the potted plant treatment and keep interactions strictly business. And keep looking for a new job (plan B), because in he long run you have deserved better than being stuck for life in this snake pit.
And maybe you can concentrate on your strenghts and not wanting to improve the percieved shortcomings? It gives a better attitude, and you seem to be quite successful; as Wini told me ages ago that being envied by a Spath is kind of a perverted compliment by them ;-), and I can say hard earned as well!
In German we have a saying: help yourself, so God will help you! You are already well on your way! Congratulations! It takes lots of efforts to see through the workplace spath and react appropriately what you seem to do very well!
((((Hugs))))