Stories in the newspaper yesterday were disheartening. After reading them, I had to conclude that full-blown sexual predators are everywhere, and doing something about them will be difficult.
The first story I found was about Canadian Col. Russell Williams, an elite pilot who was commander of Canadian Forces Base Trenton, the largest air force base in the country. In 2005 he was photographed with Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Phillip. On February 7, 2010, he was charged with murdering a young woman who had been missing for almost a week.
That’s not all. Williams, considered a “shining bright star” in the military, has been charged with the murder of two women, sexual assault of two other women, and 82 break-ins. What did he steal? Women’s panties. An Ottawa newspaper reported that police seized more than 500 pairs from his home.
The charges have shocked the Canadian military. Retired Major Greg McQuaid wrote reports that helped Williams get promoted. McQuaid’s observation, however, is telling:
“I remember he had a very focused stare or look, and I was just reminded of that when this happened and they showed the photos of him and I said, there’s that look. I remember that look. It was like he’s looking through you at the back of your head,” McQuaid said.
To read about this incredible story, click on these links:
Canada top commander charged with murder, assault, on Philly.com.
The secret life of Colonel Russell Williams, on Macleans.ca. This story discusses psychopaths at the end.
Another story in the Sunday paper was about another sexual predator in the Catholic Church—this one from Brazil. A Polish priest, Marcin Michael Strachanowski, is accused of sexually abusing a 16-year-old former altar boy, and then threatening to kill the youth if he spoke of it.
According to news reports:
Judge Alexandre Abrahao Dias said that investigators found “erotic material sent to the victim via Internet to seduce him” and that the priest also took other youths to the parish house, “which he converted into a kind of erotic dungeon where he submitted them, often with the use of handcuffs, to orgies.”
To read about this case, see:
Polish priest accused of running pedophile ”˜dungeon,’ in the Montreal Gazette.
Priest charge cites ”˜erotic dungeon,’ on Philly.com.
The Canadian colonel is being prosecuted. The priest has been arrested, and the diocese of Rio de Janeiro didn’t cover up the incident. It immediately suspended the priest and expressed regret over the alleged abuse.
These guys have been caught. Given the nature of their crimes, if proven guilty, they’ll probably go to prison for a long time.
Ten days ago, a sex offender in California, John Gardner III, was sentenced to life in prison for raping and murdering 17-year-old Chelsea King and 14-year-old Amber Dubois.
California lawmakers are now considering a bill, nicknamed Chelsea’s Law, that would mandate life sentences for some child molesters and lifetime parole for others. It’s a great idea—but it will cost a lot of money.
After the first 10 years, keeping the predators in jail would cost tens of millions of dollars, according to a California corrections department analysis. But the Legislative Analyst’s Office, which provides fiscal and policy analysis to the California Legislature, puts the cost much higher—at hundreds of millions of dollars.
Read the article here:
California bill aimed at molesters would cost millions, on Google.com.
Last week, Lovefraud reported that the Supreme Court upheld a law to keep sex offenders in jail after their sentences are served. People who commit crimes like these deserve to spend their lives in jail. But is our society willing to pay for it?
Nolife:
I highly recommend you don’t post about this.
You must ‘sneak’ up on him like a snake and strike un announced.
He is getting a kick out of ‘getting’ to you…..and your posting your feelings for him to see.
Don’t let him know you called police. Don’t let him know your talking to an attorney. your giving too much away!
Don’t let him know anything!!!!!
I’m sorry for your pain this is causing you.
I believe you need to be prepared for ‘war’ with this scum and go through ANYTHING he might have on you…..cuz he’ll use it! So expect it and try to counter control it legally.
This might be a ‘reaction’ to your website. Posting to warn others about him may be ‘cutting off your nose to spite your face’ at this point and with this spath.
At some point, we must all accept……as dangerous as these spaths are…..we can’t save the ‘world’ from them by being vocal…..unless we want the backlash that comes along with it.
It’s best to let sleeping dogs lay…..unless you can leave no ‘trail’ or ‘scent’ it came from you.
Remain strong….but be stealth and covert in your work.
He finally appeared and even admitted to creating the adult profile and posted my naked pictures there. Asking me in exchange for taking down his daughter picture. Saying he didn’t lie about her. I still think he lies. He threatened me, saying he knows where I stay and my numbers etc.
Why? Am I in the wrong? I am cursed to have this monster in my life. Please help me. My lawyer said it’s hard to prosecute him because he is not local and not in our country.
Dear Psyche, I found a wonderful old article describing red flags how to spot workplace Spaths. Take care!
http://www.lovefraud.com/blog/2006/09/03/red-flags-for-workplace-sociopaths/
Wini –
I’ve enjoyed reading your advice to Psyche, being reminded of Biblical truths, steps to take to make improvements prayer-wise in my situation.
It’s an interesting argument, Nicolaid, about women choosing to mate with psychopaths in order to compete reproductively by exploiting these men’s promiscuity. Still, I’m afraid it won’t fly, for a number of reasons.
First of all, we can’t just equate promiscuity–or for that matter, “success at seduction”–with psychopathy. Granted, a number of psychopathic males may be both promiscuous and more successful than the average male at seducing females. But nobody has to be psychopathic to have those traits. So even if those traits were beneficial in a mate, there’s still no reason why a female has to choose a psychopath to mate with in order to take advantage of them.
Second, as others have pointed out here, there are plenty of female psychopaths–or anyway, abusive and predatory women–around as well. A number of men mate with these women too. Clearly the seduction and promiscuity argument can not explain why men would choose to mate with a woman who had those traits. Reproductively it’s very much to a man’s disadvantage if his wife is promiscuous, because there’s every chance that the children he ends up providing for will not be his own!
Third, let’s suppose for a moment that it is reproductively advantageous for a mother to have promiscuous male offspring who are successful at impregnating large numbers of other females. Even so, those offspring have still got to survive and grow to maturity for that strategy to work. Before that can happen, the mother’s first order of business has got to be to find a mate who will protect and substantially help to provide for her and these offspring while they’re growing. That’s been true in almost every ecological environment throughout human history.
If the man she chooses for a mate is spending all his time and energy seducing as many women as he can, he’s not going to be providing for her and the children. At any rate, if he’s knocking up women all over the place, he’s never going to be able to provide for all the offspring that result! So as a strategy, picking a promiscuous male who doesn’t care about her or their offspring is not going to work for the large majority of females. At best it can only be a “niche strategy” for a few–just as prostitution is a “niche strategy” for others.
It’s true that many females–of other species too–do choose to mate with aggressive or “dominant” males. But this is not necessarily because those males are psychopathic. The advantage the female is looking for is what she can get out of the dominant male in the way of superior protection or provision for herself and their offspring. If an aggressive male does end up killing an infant she had by a previous mate in order to free up more resources for his own offspring, I dare say that’s just a concomitant risk she has to put up with.
Finally, the proof of the pudding is in the eating, so to speak. If it truly was advantageous for most females to breed from psychopaths, then human populations would be overwhelmed with psychopaths! Instead, we find psychopaths only constitute about one percent, or anyway a very small percentage of the human population. (FORTUNATELY!!!)
Just the same, sexism aside, I do agree that some individuals–of both sexes–have a predilection for mating with abusive persons. That’s true whether or not those persons’ abusiveness is due to psychopathy. I think there are complex reasons for this that would be too lengthy to go into here. But a number of individuals, however unwittingly, have a habit of partnering with one abusive mate after another, while others avoid these abusers like the plague. Clearly when someone has a pattern of poor choices like that, it’s not accidental. There are reasons for it that need exploring and correcting.
Actually, while I’m blathering on and on, I thought I might as well mention ‘the dream’. When I was about three years old, I left my toy doctor’s kit out in my back yard, by accident. I woke up in the middle of the night that night, and remembered it. I looked out my bedroom window into the backyard where it was sitting. And as I stood at the window, a tall man walked into the yard through our gate. He went straight for the doctor’s kit, and walked out the gate. I started yelling, trying to wake my brother up (we shared a room), and then went running down the hall to my parents, who, naturally, thought the whole thing was a dream. Maybe it was, because it does sound pretty far-fetched that a grown man would want to steal a child’s doctor’s kit. But the kit was gone the next day. My parents assumed I just lost it somewhere and that it would turn up again. It never did.
That’s how I feel now. Like I’m powerless to stop these predators from walking away with my ‘doctor’s kit’ — all of the 14 predator-colleagues turned up in my life just as I was completing my doctoral research and getting ready to publish, and if feels to me like what they’re all trying to take is my ‘doctor’s kit’ – just the grown-up version of it.
I was reading a book by Carl Jung (psychologist) who believed we could have dreams and strange encounters as children that predicted what our big challenges in this life would be. The story he told to make the case was about one of his female patients who had failed to rise to her particular challenge (one that had been foreshadowed by a childhood dream). I feel at a loss concerning this one. I’m afraid to fail.
I’m also afraid that this just sounds realllly weird and that I won’t like what people write back about it, if anything 🙁 Sorry to end on a negative note.
Psyche
Psyche,
I can relate to you, being unable to make progress toward your goals (when you want it done NOW). Maybe, today, you can try and take it easy, giving yourself a mental break from it all. You are in my prayers – praying that whatever stands in your way, will be eliminated, allowing you to be the victor (not the evil ones). I think that the experience that you had in childhood was interesting, not understanding it’s meaning though.
BloggerT765, reviewing what you wrote back to me convinces me that Jesus is telling us about the anti-socials in the world (not the loving children that follow Him) … that these demon seeds of Satan are without remorse, without emotions, wreak havoc among us by lying, scheming, pillaging and raping, violating all of society’s moral structures (laws), refuse to learn wisdom, which means refuses to live in harmony with all.
Exodus 22:20 states: He that sacrificeth unto any god, save unto the LORD only, he shall be utterly destroyed. See also and Numbers 25:1-15.
Anti-socials believe themselves to be their only god … but, they really follow Satan. They hate the true Christ and Savior of all our souls who gave us wisdom to live by.
for a stranger entering the temple: Numbers 1:51 states (in part): ”when the tabernacle is to be pitched, the Levites shall set it up: and the stranger that cometh nigh shall be put to death. (the stranger is the anti-social personality that comes to do evil).
for proselytizing: Deuteronomy 13:1-10 states that a person who tries to convince an Israelite to convert to another religion must be killed. (Again, refuses to learn Jesus’ Truth (wisdom) … wants to do whatever they want to do, when they want to do it … aka chaos … demon seeds of Satan).
for communicating with the dead: Leviticus 20:27 calls for the execution by stoning of all mediums and spiritists (aka spiritualists), both male and female. (Con artists deceiving folks to make money off of them). Jesus tells us that as soon as our spirit leaves the earthly body, we go back to Him immediately in our spiritual being).
for adultery: Leviticus 20:10 states: And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbor’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. This is repeated in Deuteronomy 22:22 (a child of God’s learns His wisdom how to live and conduct him/herself righteously, they wouldn’t think of carousing with others).
for sexual activity before marriage: Deuteronomy 22:13-21 concludes: Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die—..
I can go on and on with my deductions of what Jesus is telling us … but, you get the drift that these people he is writing about are the anti-social personalities in our society. Because anti-socials have made their way of living be brought into the mainstream of society over the years, all this may seem normal to most today because of conditioning bad behavior as acceptable behavior. Remember how long ago Jesus’ truth was written by divine inspiration to those that penned the Bible.
for sexual activity with both a woman and her mother: Deuteronomy 20:14 requires that all three be burned alive.
for being seduced if engaged: Deuteronomy 22:23-24 states: If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto an husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her; Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die.
for prostitution Leviticus 21:9 states: And the daughter of any priest, if she profane herself by playing the whore, she profaneth her father: she shall be burnt with fire.
for cursing parents: Exodus 21:17 states: And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death.
Take a closer look to said scriptures. Most people put themselves into what is written, as if Jesus was talking about His loving children. We do view others as what we are ourselves. But, Jesus is telling the world … these are the anti-social personalities in the world … so if you refuse to abide in my TRUTH I gave you via the Holy Bible, you will suffer having this evil permeate the world.
What do we have today? More anti-socials running amuck and destroying everyone they come in contact with.
As far as our courts and law enforcement … they are suppose to be our guardian watchdogs as Jesus wrote … do not have old watch dogs that do not sound the alarms … no barks and certainly no bite.
Amen!
Psyche, we ALL hear you loud and clear. All anti-socials steal all humble people’s productive ideas, products etc. The only thing an anti-social is an expert on is chaos … all that is evil, and the only good they hand in is something they stole from a good person like yourself.
Your mind is spinning fast because you are catching up with the shock these criminal personalities put you through. It’s called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or Shell Shock. Expect to go through this for several years … it takes a long time for your mind, body and soul to adjust to the trauma evil people inject into your life.
Just know, everyone on this site has or is going through what you are experiencing. You will get through this agony of what the deceptive, evil, manipulators of our world do to good, loving people. I promise you that.
Peace to your heart and soul as you heal.
P.S. Do you have a confident in your life that can help you write your ideas for you to get them published? Best friend, family member that you trust? I ask this because if it weren’t for my best friend, my sister, sister-in-law and several other good friends, I would never have had my voice heard I was that traumatized and beaten down.
Hi Bluejay,
thanks for putting me in your prayers, I really appreciate it. I hope that I can get past or eliminate the block soon. I feel like God gave me a safe bubble of time in which I could get this work done and published, and I’m just not using it!
I think my dream was just about feeling like I tried to run for people to help, and no one would help or even believe me that my stuff was being stolen (in the dream/encounter, it was just a toy doctor’s kit, and now it’s the real thing, my doctoral research). I felt powerless as I stood there and watched that guy walk off with something my 3 year old self really valued and treasured. That’s how it feels now, when these Spath competitors are taking my stuff. I feel like I have to overcome it, and just haven’t found the way.
Thanks for listening and writing back 🙂
Psyche