Strategies to help recover from a break-up — at least in normal relationships

In a recent scientific paper, researchers tested three cognitive strategies to help people get over a breakup with a romantic partner. They studied 24 heartbroken people, who had been in the relationship an average of 2.5 years. All were upset, and most still loved their exes.

The recovery strategies:

  1. Negatively reappraise their ex — highlighting the ex’s negative traits.
  2. Love reappraisal — accepting feelings of love without judgment.
  3. Distraction — think about positive things unrelated to the ex.

Here were the results, according to the study authors:

  1. Negative reappraisal decreased love feelings but made participants feel unpleasant.
  2. Love reappraisal did nothing.
  3. Distraction did not change love feelings, but made the participants feel pleasant.

Read more about the study:

The best way to get over a breakup, according to science, on Time.com.

There is no mention of personality disorders in this research, and all of us at Lovefraud know that breaking up with a sociopath is not the same as breaking up with a non-disordered person.

If you’re trying to get over your involvement with a sociopath, you might want to check out the Lovefraud webinar:

Why it’s so hard to get over loving a sociopath and how you can recover.



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