In 2007, The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne, was the best-selling book in America. The book was featured on two episodes of Oprah, which significantly boosted sales. At one point the book was selling 150,000 copies per week. Total sales: 19 million books.
The Secret has many proponents””and many detractors. It’s described as a self-help book on the power of positive thinking. Some critics say that the book offers nothing but false hope to people who try to solve their problems by wishing them away, when they need more conventional solutions.
The premise of The Secret is the Law of Attraction. Here is how it is defined in the book:
Everything that’s coming into your life you are attracting into your life. And it’s attracted to you by virtue of the images you’re holding in your mind. It’s what you’re thinking. Whatever is going on in your mind you are attracting to you.
Now, let me say here that from this point on, I’ll be discussing my spiritual beliefs, which are not mainstream. Through my own experience and reflection””I explain the process in my book, Love Fraud””I’ve come to agree with many of the ideas that fall under the general heading of “New Age.” I recognize that there are charlatans and loonies who call themselves New Age””it’s important to be discriminating when exploring the ideas. I also honor traditional religious and spiritual beliefs. I believe that there are many valid paths to peace and wholeness, and we should all pursue what speaks to us. This is what worked for me.
Abraham and the Law of Attraction
Before the astounding commercial success of The Secret, the same concept was being promulgated in New Age circles by Jerry and Esther Hicks. Esther Hicks has the ability to channel information from a group of non-physical entities who go by the single name of “Abraham.”
Here’s how Abraham defines the Law of Attraction: “That which is likened to itself is drawn.”
In a CD entitled, An Introduction to the Teachings of Abraham, the entities explain the concept further:
You are a magnet, attracting unto you that which you are thinking and feeling ”¦ You are the creator of your experience and you attract unto you through your thought, and your word, which is an extension of your thought, and through your action, which is also an extension of your thought. What we are saying is literally you are creating your experience.
The greatest resistance that we have received about that is that there are so many that have those things in their experience that they don’t want, and so they cannot believe that they would have created it. They say, Abraham, I would not have done this unto me.
And we say, we know that you would not have done it on purpose, but there is creation by default, which is putting Law of Attraction to work by summoning or soliciting or inviting into your experience that which you do not want by thought, not understanding the rules of the game, so to speak. Without exception, that which you give thought to, is that which you begin to invite into your experience.
Personally, I believe the Law of Attraction. I have seen it work in my own life. But I also believe that the explanation of how it works doesn’t go far enough, and I’ll explain why.
Experiencing the sociopath
I was married to a sociopath. This man took a quarter-million dollars from me, cheated with at least six women during our 2.5-year relationship, had a child with one of the women, and then, 10 days after I left him, married the mother of the child. It was the second time he committed bigamy.
Now, according to the Law of Attraction as explained above, the sociopath came into my life because he was attracted by my thoughts. This is ludicrous. I never wanted to be in a relationship with a “bad boy” type of guy. I didn’t lie, cheat or steal””these behaviors are not in my repertoire. I’m not selfish and self-centered; I am a law-abiding citizen concerned about making the world a better place.
The Law of Attraction also says that focusing on what you don’t want brings it to you anyway. In other words, if you’re thinking, “I do not want to get sick,” the Law ignores the “not” part of your thought and delivers sickness. So does this explain why the sociopath showed up?
No. I never worried to myself, “I hope I don’t meet a con man.” I didn’t run with a fast crowd. It never occurred to me that I would cross paths with a con man. And I certainly didn’t fret about meeting a sociopath. I didn’t know what they were.
So where did this guy come from?
Human energy field
The key problem with the Law of Attraction, as it is usually explained, is that it says we create through our thoughts and feelings. It would be more accurate to say we create with our energy fields.
Some people refer to human energy fields as auras. People who can see auras, such as Barbara Ann Brennan, author of Hands of Light, say that the auric field has seven layers, emanating out from out bodies. Brennan, by the way, isn’t a flake. Before becoming a healer, she was a research scientist for NASA at the Goddard Space Flight Center. She holds a master’s degree in atmospheric physics.
According to Brennan, each of the aura layers is associated with a specific purpose:
- Layer 1 physical body
- Layer 2 emotions
- Layer 3 mental life, linear thinking
- Layer 4 love, romantic and for humanity in general
- Layer 5 connection with divine will
- Layer 6 celestial love
- Layer 7 the higher mind, integrating our spiritual and physical makeup
Now here’s a key concept: Anytime we experience trauma””sickness, injury, fear, anger, a violent death””it creates a disturbance in our energy fields. To fully recover from the trauma, the energy disturbance must be released and healed.
Here’s another key concept: Disturbances in our energy fields can remain with us over multiple lifetimes.
I’ll say it right up front: I believe in reincarnation. This is the idea that we experience multiple lifetimes. At some point after death, our souls decide to return to Earth, and come back to life into a newborn body.
According to a 2005 Gallup poll, about 20 percent of U.S. adults believe in reincarnation. Around the world, however, most people accept the concept. It is a central idea in Hinduism, Buddhism and Taoism. Most followers of Judaism, Christianity and Islam do not believe that people reincarnate, although there are exceptions. Early Gnostic Christians, the Cathar Christians of the 11th to 13th centuries, the mystical Kabbalah movement of Judaism, and some sects of Islam, all accept the idea of reincarnation.
I believe that we are all on a journey back to God, back to wholeness with the Universe, and that the journey extends over multiple lifetimes.
Lessons on Earth
We incarnate on Earth in order to learn particular lessons. Sometimes the lessons involve releasing pain and trauma from past lives. And that’s where the sociopaths come in.
With the help of a facilitator, I was actually able to catch glimpses of my past lives. And in many of them, I saw previous incarnations of the sociopath who tormented me this time around””James Montgomery.In every lifetime that we shared, he exploited me. By his hand, I was deceived, beaten, raped and killed.
I came to learn that my soul wanted me to bring Montgomery into my life one more time. Why? Because all the traumas from my previous involvements with him were stuck in my energy field. By engaging with him again, I would be able to bring those old disturbances to the surface of my awareness and release them. With that, I would be free of him.
The process was painful and ugly. It took longer than I wanted. But it worked. The traumas are no longer with me. I’ve replaced them with peace, love and happiness.
Law of Attraction””expanded
Based on my experience, I believe that the Law of Attraction needs to be rewritten. It should be:
We are the creators of our experiences in life. We attract experiences through our thoughts, our feelings, our energy fields, and to fulfill the lessons that our souls want to learn.
The good news is that the traumas can be released, and the lessons can be completed. Then, we can use the Law of Attraction to bring all those good things that we really do want into our lives.