Editor’s note: Liberty Forrest, author of several self-help books and a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, reminds us that sometimes the best thing to do is nothing. We need to lie fallow and recover. Read more about Liberty.
By Liberty Forrest
Day after day, she gives without reward.
From deep within, she creates. We do not understand the miracle, yet New Life draws nourishment from her, springs forth from her, and she nourishes again.
She is driven, relentless, compelled to be the Giver of Life. In silence, she persists, oblivious to her exhaustion, to the harsh storms and to those who would take advantage, ravaging, using, demanding.
Still, day after day, she gives without reward. New Life springs forth from deep within and she nourishes…oblivious, determined, selfless.
She needs sustenance but there is none. She must rest but she will not…not until there is nothing left to give, or until she can no longer nourish.
The Need for Respite
And so it is that this beauty, Mother Earth, must sometimes be given respite. When we have taken all she can give, day upon day, year upon year of tilling and seeding, growing and harvesting, when we have left her depleted, spent, drained and unable to nourish, when she needs sustenance and rest, we must allow her to lie fallow.
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And so it is with us. Every day, we must give. Our time and energy are dispersed and like two willful children, they never consult us before running off to our jobs, to our partners, to our neighbours, to our children, to our parents, to our paperwork, to our housework, to our 47,000 obligations and we continue to give in silence, depleted, oblivious to our exhaustion and our need for respite. Or we are not oblivious but we ignore.
And most urgently, our time and energy have run off to be with the sociopath who has insisted on them, demanded them, offering up threats in one form or another if we objected. This is the most exhausting of all because it is relentless and unforgiving.
How Can I Heal?
Sometimes we, too, must lie fallow, especially after our lives have been ravaged by the destruction of a sociopath. Like our magnificent Mother, we must rest. Our minds must be allowed to be still, in meditation. Our bodies must be allowed to recover in sleep. Our hearts must be allowed to heal after breaking. Our spirits need time to lie fallow, to be nourished by the new learning that comes from rest, silence, stillness, observation, from having compassion for ourselves, and filling ourselves with soul-nourishing activities, friendships and kindness.
Learn more: Self-care for survivors
When a sociopath has trashed your life and there are too many thoughts in your head, lie fallow. When you’ve been left with too much to do to clean up the fallout, lie fallow. When you need sustenance and rest to heal after so much pain, lie fallow.
This is the only way you will be well, the only way you will be able to nourish yourself so you can create a happier life and brighter future.
This article was originally published at LibertyForrest.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.
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Donna Andersen
Liberty – this is so true. Such healing thoughts. Sometimes, we just need to stop and rest.
Liberty Forrest
Indeed!! Sometimes people stay busy because they need the distraction from their own thoughts and feelings. Can’t ever get any healing done from that place!