True Lovefraud Stories, on Lovefraud.com, is a series of case studies illustrating how con artists and people who would probably be diagnosed as sociopaths ply their trade. Months, and sometimes years, have passed since these individuals were profiled. But according to updates we’ve heard, they’re still pulling their scams.
If you are still trying to believe that the predator you were involved with will see the light and change his or her behavior, read these stories. You’ll see that it’s not going to happen. Once a sociopath becomes an adult, he or she does not change.
Dennis SanSeverino
Since February, Trish Rynn, who lost her home and inheritance to Dennis SanSeverino, has been trying to hold him accountable. Back in 2006, SanSeverino pled guilty to theft by illegal retention, and was sentenced to five years probation. He was ordered to pay Rynn restitution of $275,000.
Well, he hasn’t been doing it, and Rynn has been trying to get SanSeverino prosecuted for violating his probation. The prosecutor’s office in Cape May County, New Jersey, wasn’t exactly interested in pursuing the case, but Rynn was persistent, and Judge Raymond Batten finally found him guilty of violating his probation. SanSeverino’s sentencing hearing was scheduled for September 26, 2008. He never showed up.
That day, SanSeverino’s latest girlfriend called the court and said SanSeverino was in the hospital. The judge didn’t buy it and issued a warrant for his arrest. But the con artist has apparently left the state, and authorities don’t seem to consider this case worth the time and expense of extradition.
Brian Ellington
Lovefraud has been hearing from all kinds of people about Brian Ellington. Apparently he’s been making the rounds of North Carolina golf courses, pretending to be a pro and betting $1,000 a hole. When he wins, he makes out. When he loses, he doesn’t pay. He also runs up bar tabs and leaves, forcing whoever had the misfortune of being the evening’s drinking buddy to foot the bill.
Then we got phone calls from someone with official connections saying that Elllington had been arrested in New York. He had a court appearance for a petit larceny charge scheduled for September 22, 2008, in the Bronx, but did not show up. A warrant was issued for his arrest. Ellington was also supposed to be in Manhattan court in August for a disorderly conduct charge, and we doubt showed up for that one either.
Phil Haberman
Lovefraud has written extensively about Phil Haberman, first profiled by the Dallas Observer as “G.I. Jerk.” Haberman married a woman before shipping off to Iraq so he could collect separation benefits from the military. When he got to Iraq he claimed special forces training, diving skills, medic training—yeah, right. The army shipped him back after 24 days.
Eventually, he received an Other Than Honorable discharge—his second one. Since then, however, he repeatedly tried to enlist in National Guard units that are shipping out to Iraq. His most recent attempt was last week in North Fort Hood, Texas—the largest active duty armored post in the United States. Commanders became suspicious of Haberman’s stories, and the man they asked to check Haberman out was already intimately familiar with the con artist’s scams. According to posts on ProfessionalSoldiers.com, Haberman was “shown the front gate of North Fort Hood and told to never come back.”
So what did Haberman do? He went to the Dallas JAG office and filed a complaint against the commander for kicking him out.
By the way, Haberman posted a video of himself during parachute training on YouTube.
Lance Larabee
Lance Larabee, who has conned women into buying him houses, boats and planes, has declared bankruptcy in an effort to avoid paying the judgments against him won by one of his victims, Debbie White. When White contested the bankruptcy, Larabee filed a claim against her for invasion of privacy. Apparently Larabee didn’t like what was written about him in Lovefraud and other places. Hearings are coming soon.
James Montgomery
I was contacted recently by a woman in Australia—my ex-husband, James Montgomery, is on About My Age in Australia, “The online community for over 50s.” Montgomery claims to be a “retired academic and screenwriter.” Yeah, right. This woman got suspicious about his Ph.D., Googled him, found Lovefraud and dumped him.
I checked out my ex-husband’s listing on AboutMyAge.com. He’s posted a photo that was taken in 1997, when he was married to me and was a guest on a local radio station, which is reproduced below.
When I first met Montgomery he lied to me about his age, claiming he was “a genuine baby boomer”—49 years old—when he was really 55. I wonder what he’s claiming now. Here is a current photo, taken in March, 2008. It is not posted on AboutMyAge.com.
hi all, no they dont give up, not at all. my ex s path of three years we broke up in late 2005, he left me. he says he felt i betrayed him. ironic really. well he still contacts me every now and then after alll this time and both of us having had other relatinships. this usuually happens when he has just broken up with someone else and is needing someone so he calls me. this last time he calls e the other nght at 12.0 am sat night. i was asleep! his number showed as a private number which is the first time he has done this i got a fright cause i have elderly parents i thought maybe tnem so i answered it. he comes over all sadd and lonely asks to see me. obviously broke up his last girlfriend of 8 months. every time he does this to me. he never says he wwants me back though. he never says anything about his feelings for me just that he left me cause he felt i betrayed him and his feelings changed. when i asked him why he broke off this time with his girlfriend he says he just didnt have thoe feelings for her. go firgure it took him 8 months to realise. i tried to be friends with him but these calls now late at night he just uses me. also i work weekends and he didnt care he was just calling me anyway at that time. so he still doesnt give up on me always there, he only leaves me alone when he has someone else and doesnt want me to know about them. the private number thing is new i askd him why he hide his number he said he was calling someone for work an forgott to change it back before calling me! he just has no fear either at this timeof night i could have had a nother man there for all he knows. i hadnt heard from him this time for 2 + months then out of the blue there he is again. when i said on the phone i was tired he says i will wake you up trying to be all sexy, what does he think this is free sex too. just unbelieveable. when he started to see this girl this time he and i were friends or tryng to be, he just brushed me off to see the new girl, then no contact for a while then iget random calls, if she was away for the weekend or whatever. why do they think we are a reserve or replacement.anyone else had this expeerience with the hidden or private number calls at unexpected times? it catches me so off gaurd too as half asleep so was not prepared for his smart behaviour if you know whati mean please add a coment. the things he says are so random and strange, you need to be ready for it. but i was not. i also wonder who else he does this to as he usually has a few girls dangling.talking to him doesnt bother me just wish i had some quick responses when he says weird things to let him know im not scared or confused by him anymore. i half wished i had a new man to answer the phone when he calld in the middle of the .night…….any coments welcome.thanks.
Morning Jules – I changed my numbers too unlisted numbers shortly after he left the last time. Not only to prevent him from calling but to save my self the grief of seeing the “private number” on caller ID and also to prevent myself from trying to call him. It was hard sitting next to a phone that never rang, but it gave him the message that I was “done”… Att will change your number for free if u tell them u are recieving harrasssing calls……also you mite get a male friend to leave a message on your answering machine that says “sorry Jules and I are not available please leave a message” and you can explain to any new friends or family why you did this — not a bad idea anyway!!!!
Don’t know if anyone knows this but for a small charge from your provider you can get something called privacy management. Basically, if someone tries to block thier call or call from a “private number” it gives them a message that “the person you are calling does not accept calls from callers who block their numbers…etc., etc.”
Henry – I too am considering changing the number mostly to keep myself from sitting next to my phone as well. It’s a pain cause that’s a lot of people I have to give my new number to.
And yes, jules, the last call I got from mine was a 1:00 a.m phone call and he too tried to be all sweet and syrupy. Once he called me – I was knocked out on Ambien and I vaguely remember talking to him and his saying he was coming over to see me. Another time it was a ” call me no matter what time you get this message. I hope you are enjoying yourself with your family sweetie, BLAH! BLAH!BLAH!!
The Ambien is the only thing that saves me. Once I’m on that I have no choice but to stay away from the phone bc being on that is the equivlent of being drunk and believe me I’ve done my fair share of the “drunk” calls.
geminifairy ambien i love it!! anyway at first when he left I was upset when he didnt call and i was upset when he did call. one time i hit redial and he answered and we talked about a minute and I said do you know who this is? and he said very sweetly yes this is Robert~~~~~~well I aint robert but that bout killed me so I changed numbers that day. Yes it is a pain in the butt but worth it …….
Oh henry, I was just like that. Nearly wore my friends out with the constant. Do you think he’ll call? Yes, he’ll call you but why do you want to talk to him. It was the same way. I think bc you get nothing resolved form NC or with contact bc you know with contact you’ll hear the lies, and w/out it they aren’t thinking about you and wanting to be with you and why don’t they? I love Ambien to but I have to be careful with it. Supposedly I called him while I was on it one day. Now he could have just said that bc he knows I take it but that was enough for me. All I need is to call him asking him to come over.
some of us are slow learners including myself..but we have to stop the madness – if we have come to a website about pyhscopaths etc. and we know with out a doubt that is what they are. we have no choice we can never see or talk to these people again – zilch – nada – it hurt’s but for me that is my only choice – or else I will die……….
Guys/Gals,
After my husband died, and the “death of a relationship” is just as traumatic as a physical death–the grief is the same, maybe worse—I sat like a zombie for 3 months, tried to go back to work for 2 days a week, that didn’t last long–then sat like a zombie, not caring if my floor was covered in mud/dirt and god knows what! Not caring if I age (lost 35 pounds) etc. and was in that shape when I ran into the P—and instantly I’m alive again, all “happy” and going places etc, thinking I am all over the trauma of my husband’s death, my son’s kicking his GF to the curb (we realized she was very dysfunctional) he said it was worse than the plane crash he was in it too, anyway, then after 4 months of bliss and 4 months of misery, Ikicked the P to the curb and I was back to SQUARE ONE like I was after my husband died. Talk about a set back!
It is imperative that we truly HEAL before we start looking for another relationship or we will wind up with another P. How many of you see friends or acquaintances go from bad relationship to worse relationship and to bad relationship again? How many of you have DONE it? I know I have for sure, because I wasn’t truly through the grief process and healed, plus, I had some enabling issues I had NEVER ADDRESSED until this chaos and madness with my family hit.
So, I am better, much better, but even yet, I’m not seeking another relationship and I am no longer “needy” for one. Thank you Jesus! I do have my sons and a couple of good close friends that I could talk to if I needed to, but thank goodness I no longer need to go over and over and over it (except here) and even the “details” are no longer important.
At first EVERY lie, EVERY injury, etc etc was important to dissect over and over looking for new information about it. Now, the details are NOT important any morel. They were P’s they betrayed me. PERIOD. They are out of my life. Period. Now I am healing—-now I am better, stronger, wiser, and filled with JOY! Joy I never felt like this before. I can set boundaries and not feel guilty. I can say “no” and not feel bad. I am, I think, finally becoming an ADULT and a COMPLETE human being. Isn’t that an amazing thing, and in December I’ll celebrate 61 years of being a child and one year of being an ADULT.
oxy It is rainy and cold here today. I was wanting to talk at ya a bit before I go plant some pansy’s in the rain. I still think about him. But it does not hurt. I don’t miss him. I don’t feel needy. I don’t want another relationship. Has took me 6 month’s. But I think what kept me holding on to hope was “maybe I am wrong”. I feel it in my heart and soul now that I was not wrong. He is a cluster B. I can not help him. I feel sad for him. But never want to see him again. I have stopped looking out the window for him. I seem to have come to a place of peace with what has happened. Also I don’t feel like a bad son for not kissing my mother’s butt anymore. I know I am a good person. I know I was being used. I will stand up for myself and take care of me. And I don’t care what other’s think about me. Life goes on OXY….oh btw put yer skillit away – I have permanent brain damage already….have a good one OX
Hey Oxy, It’s Gem! I am not even CLOSE to wanting to get into another relationship now. I spent almost 4 years with one pathetic S and bounced right into this last one without even pausing. The thought that I have spent 4 years of my 30s on nonesense when I’m supposed to be living it up (that’s what I heard at least) and now I’m having to deal with this crap and trying to get through. All my friends want to set me up or tell me to get out there and date or whatever. I went out with a friend once! To a simple house party and this guy just thought “wow! I’ve met someone who likes music as much as me.” He stayed attached by my side all night – and it was annoying.
Yeah, I definitely need to work through my own stuff before I attempt. Anyway, Everytime you post you make me miss my mom. Sometimes we meet each other at a halfway point from where she is and where I am. I may have to have one of those soon. I’m such a big baby! 34 years old and I still cuddle up with her when I see her.
Here is the latest from the sp she has sent me text messages over the cell phone with a picture of the mask face from the movie saw and it has a message that says if i dont send the message to ten people i know that at 12 pm i will or my loved ones will have something bad happen to them, needless to say i deleated it and ignored it this was 2 nights in a row. Yes they do not quit. I went to church the next day and lit 2 candles and prayed for peace and love. I yi yi !