True Lovefraud Stories, on Lovefraud.com, is a series of case studies illustrating how con artists and people who would probably be diagnosed as sociopaths ply their trade. Months, and sometimes years, have passed since these individuals were profiled. But according to updates we’ve heard, they’re still pulling their scams.
If you are still trying to believe that the predator you were involved with will see the light and change his or her behavior, read these stories. You’ll see that it’s not going to happen. Once a sociopath becomes an adult, he or she does not change.
Dennis SanSeverino
Since February, Trish Rynn, who lost her home and inheritance to Dennis SanSeverino, has been trying to hold him accountable. Back in 2006, SanSeverino pled guilty to theft by illegal retention, and was sentenced to five years probation. He was ordered to pay Rynn restitution of $275,000.
Well, he hasn’t been doing it, and Rynn has been trying to get SanSeverino prosecuted for violating his probation. The prosecutor’s office in Cape May County, New Jersey, wasn’t exactly interested in pursuing the case, but Rynn was persistent, and Judge Raymond Batten finally found him guilty of violating his probation. SanSeverino’s sentencing hearing was scheduled for September 26, 2008. He never showed up.
That day, SanSeverino’s latest girlfriend called the court and said SanSeverino was in the hospital. The judge didn’t buy it and issued a warrant for his arrest. But the con artist has apparently left the state, and authorities don’t seem to consider this case worth the time and expense of extradition.
Brian Ellington
Lovefraud has been hearing from all kinds of people about Brian Ellington. Apparently he’s been making the rounds of North Carolina golf courses, pretending to be a pro and betting $1,000 a hole. When he wins, he makes out. When he loses, he doesn’t pay. He also runs up bar tabs and leaves, forcing whoever had the misfortune of being the evening’s drinking buddy to foot the bill.
Then we got phone calls from someone with official connections saying that Elllington had been arrested in New York. He had a court appearance for a petit larceny charge scheduled for September 22, 2008, in the Bronx, but did not show up. A warrant was issued for his arrest. Ellington was also supposed to be in Manhattan court in August for a disorderly conduct charge, and we doubt showed up for that one either.
Phil Haberman
Lovefraud has written extensively about Phil Haberman, first profiled by the Dallas Observer as “G.I. Jerk.” Haberman married a woman before shipping off to Iraq so he could collect separation benefits from the military. When he got to Iraq he claimed special forces training, diving skills, medic training—yeah, right. The army shipped him back after 24 days.
Eventually, he received an Other Than Honorable discharge—his second one. Since then, however, he repeatedly tried to enlist in National Guard units that are shipping out to Iraq. His most recent attempt was last week in North Fort Hood, Texas—the largest active duty armored post in the United States. Commanders became suspicious of Haberman’s stories, and the man they asked to check Haberman out was already intimately familiar with the con artist’s scams. According to posts on ProfessionalSoldiers.com, Haberman was “shown the front gate of North Fort Hood and told to never come back.”
So what did Haberman do? He went to the Dallas JAG office and filed a complaint against the commander for kicking him out.
By the way, Haberman posted a video of himself during parachute training on YouTube.
Lance Larabee
Lance Larabee, who has conned women into buying him houses, boats and planes, has declared bankruptcy in an effort to avoid paying the judgments against him won by one of his victims, Debbie White. When White contested the bankruptcy, Larabee filed a claim against her for invasion of privacy. Apparently Larabee didn’t like what was written about him in Lovefraud and other places. Hearings are coming soon.
James Montgomery
I was contacted recently by a woman in Australia—my ex-husband, James Montgomery, is on About My Age in Australia, “The online community for over 50s.” Montgomery claims to be a “retired academic and screenwriter.” Yeah, right. This woman got suspicious about his Ph.D., Googled him, found Lovefraud and dumped him.
I checked out my ex-husband’s listing on AboutMyAge.com. He’s posted a photo that was taken in 1997, when he was married to me and was a guest on a local radio station, which is reproduced below.
When I first met Montgomery he lied to me about his age, claiming he was “a genuine baby boomer”—49 years old—when he was really 55. I wonder what he’s claiming now. Here is a current photo, taken in March, 2008. It is not posted on AboutMyAge.com.
Okay. Applause to you! This lady reminds me soooooo much of my husband’s ex-s. She violates personal boundaries, then blames somebody else. She loves up to kids, etc, too. Until she’s got you. She lurks online finding men as well. This woman sounds like somebody you need to NOT see again. She needs to respect your position on the children. They don’t need any more instability in their lives. And if she doesn’t respect it now, she won’t later either. She sounds like she feels the ‘right’ to do what she wants for the kids. Most normal women would be shy around the kids and let the father take care of them until they are comfortable in the relationship. She’s taking far too many liberties. BEWARE!!!
alohatraveler,
You said that your ex-S was a minister. Mine was a minor celebrity (recording artist). On his site, he sold c.d.s and a book that didn’t even *exist!* Many people were refunded, but a lot just sucked up their $20 or so — they still believe that he had nothing to do with the blunder, that it was the fault of someone in his “organization,” and continue to support him. I’m gobsmacked.
It never ceases to amaze me that these people aren’t shy about putting themselves in the public eye. This should normally cause others to look at their dealings with some scrutiny, right? But somehow, it seems as though they manage to fool even their most devout followers and believers. Reading this “update” depresses me. It gives me little hope that there is real justice in the world …
It’s been quite a while since I have posted a comment, except for the one regarding Dr. Steve’s article on..”Sociopath next door? Probably not.”
I felt compelled to state my opinion on that particular subject as I have declared war on these evil subhumans. Not a war of their choosing (manipulation, deceit, cruelty, selfishness) but one of MY choosing. I will either take a passive stance with them, meaning disinterest, no contact or I will be directly confrontational.
For example, I confronted a bully, a tyrant, an intimidator about a month 1/2 ago. He was my supervisor at my place of employment. For three weeks I maintained my equanimity, my serenity in the face of his irrational, angry outbursts. I am a patient, calm woman and I logically realized his misdirected anger was HIS problem, not mine. I wasn’t the least bit afraid of him nor was I intimidated by him, which probably irritated him completely. It finally came to a head when I simply realized I had had enough of his crap after he was yelling at me that I should do my job, as if I hadn’t been working my butt off for him allready.
I resignedly said…”ok, I’ve had enough. I quit.” This man was so accustomed to terrifying his employees to bend to his will, treating them less than slaves, forcing them to succumb to his tyranny, that I believe he was surprised I could leave so damn easily. My anger was calm, controlled, rational and justified and I harbor NO guilt, NO qualms about leaving a situation that could possibly be damaging to my spirit.
Stranger than strange, is when I went to pick up my last paycheck, he behaved as if nothing had transpired between us and that he was now such a “sweet guy”. Barf! I was actually a tad bit queezy after leaving the building. I have no idea (nor do I care) if he is a PDI or not. But it strikes me as truly amazing how incredibly deluded, how reality unaware some folks are and I just shake my head in disgust.
I didn’t write my above tiny victory to gloat or brag to you all. I wrote it to remind each of you that you have tremendous personal power and you absolutley DO NOT need to deal with anyone’s bulls**t!
If I can confront a bully then so can you. But after confronting, leave. Don’t waste any more of your precious time and energy on trying to reason or enlighten those who simply don’t give a rat’s patooty about you.
Your life belongs to you. Your happiness, your serenity, your grace, your self awaraness, your strength belong to YOU and noone can take that away from any of you.
Keep the faith
Peace, love and joy always and forever….:)
Well said, Jane.
I have all too often allowed my S to cause me grief, stress and bitterness. There have been many sleepless nights due to her insults and unbelievable accusations. And I’m sure she slept just fine.
You have acquired a trait that is admirable, and I am in pursuit of your level of calm. Thanks!
My dear dear Jane,
We have missed you so much!!!! Please come post more often! Hope you are well and GOOD FOR YOU!
I had a boss like that once and she (she was a psychopath) and I had been WARNED but chose not to listen, but she “went off on” me (as she had every other employee there) after about 6 months of ever decreasing respect.
I immediately turned in my resignation, I didn’t even tell her, just put it in her box the next morning. She came into my office and said “Oxy, I think we need to talk.”
I looked at her and smiled and said “I think you said quite enough yesterday and we have nothing further to discuss.”
I worked out my notice and never spoke to her again. I think she was totally suprised that anyone would actually quiit over one of her tirades. I was then and still am as “independent as a hog walking on ice” as my farmer grandfather would have said (with people not in my family) and quitting that job and finding another was a matter of 2 days, but if I had had to live in a tent and eat out of a dumpster, I would not have worked for that woman one more day than was necessary.
YOu are SO RIGHT. No one can take away your peace UNLESS YOU ALLOW THEM. I refuse to be a slave to anyone any more, or to allow anyone to abuse me.
Jane I have had so much healing in the past few weeks and have actually moved back into my home and feel at peace here. I’m even going to celebrate Christmas this year after many years of not celebrating because I had such a “bad taste” in my mouth from the many years of turmoil and verbal guilting and abuse that I allowed my mother to associate with the holiday. I am going to do it up RIGHT this year and son C is coming home for 10 days or so between Christmas and New Years and we are going to decorate every surface of the house and yard and whoop it up!
Son D “threatened” to call my psychiatrist and tell her I had become “manic” because I am so JOYFUL about everything lately, every little thing gives me pleasure now. And I told him “Honey, save your dime, it is just that compared to how depressed I have been since the plane crash that killed your dad, you have just forgotten what I’m like when I am happy and not depressed.”
I think (hope and pray) that I have finally turned the corner in my healing from all the chaos, trauma, abuse, self abuse and stress, and starting to feel the JOY that life should be! (((hugs dear Janie))))
I’m proud of you JaneSmith. I had to sue my bosses … all anti-social personalities … destroying everyone’s careers and lives. When it was my turn … I kept turning the other check and turning the other cheek … for years, I just turned the other cheek. I got demoted twice without justification, she just did it cause she could … then (they — all the bosses) violated my civil and constitutional rights … put it in writing … so the war was on. I never in my life witness so much evil … I couldn’t even make this stuff up or even imagine how low they could go … but, no matter how low they went one day, I knew they’d go lower the next. They dumped all the evils that they did over the year on me … flooding my personnel file with viciousness and lies … had everyone stop talking with me … spinning lie after lie after lie about me … and co-worker’s bought it hook, line and sinker … go figure? Hey, who cared if I saved their jobs earlier by being their union rep????
What was the results … yup, you got it … they all aren’t allowed to work there … but, were only given a slap on the wrists. Like, next time, don’t get caught. What’s this world coming to? My personal opinion, of course, they should be serving time in prison for doing this to anyone (not only that it was me) … anyone. They just went to other famous institutions … yup, making the same high salaries … and I’m sure, destroying folks that work for them at the new places … they never change … never change. Clueless wonders … the spiritually stunted infants of the universe.
Peace. I’m glad you walked. I hope the idiot holds back his venom with the next victim that works for him.
Jane it is good to see you here again. I always liked your spunk! Good for you….! Oxy I am glad you are going to be in the xmas (mood) this year. And I have watched you heal when you have been busy holding so many hands here on LF. With your past and what you have lived with all your life you are my inspiration that I will get there too.
Heny … I never worried about you. Even though your heart got broken … you still have SPUNK.
Hey, look at the bright side … at least you have a heart to break.
Peace.
Hiya Wini Yeah I have a big heart and lot’s of compassion. And I give the best ole bear hugs and you just got one ))))hug((((
See Henry … that’s making lemonade out of lemons (LOL) … a big bear hug to you too!
I knew we’d find the positive out of all this malarky.
Peace.