True Lovefraud Stories, on Lovefraud.com, is a series of case studies illustrating how con artists and people who would probably be diagnosed as sociopaths ply their trade. Months, and sometimes years, have passed since these individuals were profiled. But according to updates we’ve heard, they’re still pulling their scams.
If you are still trying to believe that the predator you were involved with will see the light and change his or her behavior, read these stories. You’ll see that it’s not going to happen. Once a sociopath becomes an adult, he or she does not change.
Dennis SanSeverino
Since February, Trish Rynn, who lost her home and inheritance to Dennis SanSeverino, has been trying to hold him accountable. Back in 2006, SanSeverino pled guilty to theft by illegal retention, and was sentenced to five years probation. He was ordered to pay Rynn restitution of $275,000.
Well, he hasn’t been doing it, and Rynn has been trying to get SanSeverino prosecuted for violating his probation. The prosecutor’s office in Cape May County, New Jersey, wasn’t exactly interested in pursuing the case, but Rynn was persistent, and Judge Raymond Batten finally found him guilty of violating his probation. SanSeverino’s sentencing hearing was scheduled for September 26, 2008. He never showed up.
That day, SanSeverino’s latest girlfriend called the court and said SanSeverino was in the hospital. The judge didn’t buy it and issued a warrant for his arrest. But the con artist has apparently left the state, and authorities don’t seem to consider this case worth the time and expense of extradition.
Brian Ellington
Lovefraud has been hearing from all kinds of people about Brian Ellington. Apparently he’s been making the rounds of North Carolina golf courses, pretending to be a pro and betting $1,000 a hole. When he wins, he makes out. When he loses, he doesn’t pay. He also runs up bar tabs and leaves, forcing whoever had the misfortune of being the evening’s drinking buddy to foot the bill.
Then we got phone calls from someone with official connections saying that Elllington had been arrested in New York. He had a court appearance for a petit larceny charge scheduled for September 22, 2008, in the Bronx, but did not show up. A warrant was issued for his arrest. Ellington was also supposed to be in Manhattan court in August for a disorderly conduct charge, and we doubt showed up for that one either.
Phil Haberman
Lovefraud has written extensively about Phil Haberman, first profiled by the Dallas Observer as “G.I. Jerk.” Haberman married a woman before shipping off to Iraq so he could collect separation benefits from the military. When he got to Iraq he claimed special forces training, diving skills, medic training—yeah, right. The army shipped him back after 24 days.
Eventually, he received an Other Than Honorable discharge—his second one. Since then, however, he repeatedly tried to enlist in National Guard units that are shipping out to Iraq. His most recent attempt was last week in North Fort Hood, Texas—the largest active duty armored post in the United States. Commanders became suspicious of Haberman’s stories, and the man they asked to check Haberman out was already intimately familiar with the con artist’s scams. According to posts on ProfessionalSoldiers.com, Haberman was “shown the front gate of North Fort Hood and told to never come back.”
So what did Haberman do? He went to the Dallas JAG office and filed a complaint against the commander for kicking him out.
By the way, Haberman posted a video of himself during parachute training on YouTube.
Lance Larabee
Lance Larabee, who has conned women into buying him houses, boats and planes, has declared bankruptcy in an effort to avoid paying the judgments against him won by one of his victims, Debbie White. When White contested the bankruptcy, Larabee filed a claim against her for invasion of privacy. Apparently Larabee didn’t like what was written about him in Lovefraud and other places. Hearings are coming soon.
James Montgomery
I was contacted recently by a woman in Australia—my ex-husband, James Montgomery, is on About My Age in Australia, “The online community for over 50s.” Montgomery claims to be a “retired academic and screenwriter.” Yeah, right. This woman got suspicious about his Ph.D., Googled him, found Lovefraud and dumped him.
I checked out my ex-husband’s listing on AboutMyAge.com. He’s posted a photo that was taken in 1997, when he was married to me and was a guest on a local radio station, which is reproduced below.
When I first met Montgomery he lied to me about his age, claiming he was “a genuine baby boomer”—49 years old—when he was really 55. I wonder what he’s claiming now. Here is a current photo, taken in March, 2008. It is not posted on AboutMyAge.com.
Stargazer
Justgotburned,
You said you ran a background check on her. If you don’t mind sharing, what were the results? Does she have a criminal background?
Wini
James and Everyone: I don’t understand why the courts and cops understand that this is the new way to rob a bank to get their money. Why is everyone keeping this type of fraud and theft in the civil courts? Oh, yeah, cause it costs us (the victims) money instead of the state money if it went to criminal courts were it belongs.
Answered my own question.
At least these cops and courts can keep a database tracking the jerks. At least do that.
Peace.
blondie
hello everyone
i just want to thank everyone on this website. thank you donna for creating this website. this website has saved my life. if i never found this website, or if i never commented on this website, i think i just might be in that bad relationship still. whenever i needed an opinion or i was confused and feeling trapped in his lies, this website snapped me back to reality. this is the only place anyone knew or understood what was happening and what i was feeling. I learned how to do deal with my x from this place. i hope that others feel the same way i do, and i hope that others will get away from there sociopath, and this place helps you along your journey. its help me along mine and it will continue to help me.
blondie
i dont know what happen to my other post but its missing…
anyways what i wrote was that its been 4 months NC and i got and email today from the x saying ” thanks for ignoring me”. i just want others to see that they dont change. they dont ever get it. not one word about what he did to me or our relationship. no responability from him. i have every right to ignore him. why would i want to speak to someone who as a girlfriend and especially when its the OW. if this was last year im sure i would of responded back telling him why i dont want anything to do with him. but he doest make me feel guilty anymore. im not falling for his mulipulation anymore. i know its all a game and i refuse to play anymore.
Stargazer
Wow, blondie,
You really got the NC thing down. I would be so tempted to email back and say “my pleasure.” You know you can get him blocked from emailing you, though I don’t know how to do it.
BTW, your name (Blondie) reminds me of my favorite Clint Eastwood movie. Bonus points for anyone who knows which movie and why the name reminds me of it. LOL
Gemini_Fairy
blondie,
I’m convinced that mine won’t try to contact me again (or rather I’m convinced but not really – if that makes sense) but everyone I speak to keeps saying “oh they don’t quit even if they have someone else. I guarantee he will.” And when he does it will simply be as if nothing is wrong.
When mine did contact me this last time he started out telling me “no matter what I consider you my friend, and if you ever need anything, blah blah blah – it started to sound like the teacher in the Charlie Brown cartoon. Once he got done with his boo hoo I still care about you he actually said, “why don’t you let me come over.” It’s 1:00 a.m!!!! Do you not think I don’t know why you want to come over And was confused? when I told him he couldn’t.
Before that he called and said, “we should just go ahead and get married.” I think I responded that when I got back to the area we’d “jump all on that.” Yeah, that’s really going to happen.
I thank God everyday I didn’t end up getting pregnant with this fool! Believe me there were many opportunities for this to have happened.
Wini
StarG: The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly. Clint played “Blondie”. LOL. Do ya feel lucky?
hens
Hi Blondie I am comforted too see you so positive. You came to LF just shortly after I did and I remember your dispare and confusion. Time does help and also looking at reality. Do you still feel depressed? I just cant seem to shake this depression/loss thing. Been 7 months NC. I don’t think I will ever see him again. And that is good because I still don’t trust myself when it comes to his pity. I also don’t know what I would of done without LF and the peep’s here that have been so supportive. I went on a camping trip this past weekend with my kid’s and grandkids. I had a good time. But I feel so sad all the time and find myself wishing he was there with me. I am so sick of myself and his memory. But all in all I am sooo much better – guess I am just a big whiner….
Ox Drover
Dear Blondie!!!
Wahooooo! I’m glad that you are doing great and that you are NC. Good, no, GREAT! for you!!! (((hugs))) You’ve come a LOOOOOONGG WAY BABY!!!
Henry, dear sweet Henry, are you still taking your antidepresants. I think the last time I talked to you you were off them cause you “wanted to do it yourself”—that’s like a diabetic saying he doesn’t want to take insulin cause he’s gonna try real hard to regulate his blood sugar and even though he eats right and exercises it goes to 700 and he feels miserable and his health starts to decline and he feels awful, he still insists on not taking medication.
I have worked so much with depressed patients who the medication helped but they would stop it and then complain cause they were DEPRESSED and “just couldn’t shake it” and I would put them back on their medicaiton and darned as soon as they started feeling better, they QUIT cause “I don’t like to take pills” and RINSE AND REPEAT AND REPEAT AND REPEAT.
BOINK!!! BOINK!!! That’s the sound of my skillet hitting the top of your flat head brother! But it’s all in LOVE so if I fracture your thick skull, don’t complain, “this is hurting me more than it is you” NOT!!!! Hee hee ((((hugs))))
Gemini_Fairy
Ox, I too was on antidepresants for a long time. And I would do the same thing. When all of this happened and I started seeing my therapist again she actually had to refer me to a psychiatrist because she is only a LCSW. So I was seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist. He put me on Lexapro with a month’s worth of samples but I ran out when I went home for those 2 months and I wasn’t working so I couldn’t afford (w/out health insurance to keep getting it)
Since I’ve started working though I have thought about having my doc put me back on. I does help. It’s not the be all end all solution but it does help. I feel like I probably should get back on it soon. Weekends for the most part I do okay but I have a new job and more responsibility and having lost jobs in the past do not want to do anything to jeporadize this new one due to overwhelming depression. Just thinking about having to get up and go tomorrow is getting me all sad.