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Victim alerts others about con artist Brian Ellington

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November 26, 2006 //  by Donna Andersen//  21 Comments

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Eve Hawkins of Queens, New York City, first contacted Lovefraud in absolute frustration. She said her ex-boyfriend was a con artist, she brought 200 pages of evidence to her local NYPD precinct, and the cops did nothing.

I asked Eve to tell me a little more about her story. To my surprise, she sent me an 8,000-word narration: How she met Brian Ellington. How he wormed his way into living with her. The stories and lies Ellington told. How she struggled to get rid of him. How she finally succeeded.

Eve’s story captured the confusion, mixed emotions, anger and frustration known by anyone who has been targeted by a sociopath. Her story was so passionate and so well-written that I decided to publish it as a case study. Read it here:

Brian Ellington combines sex and fraud

Eve builds a website

Eve took another step. She purchased the domain name james-brian-ellington.com and built a website. She posted information that she had collected about Ellington, like his arrest record and fake resumes. Eve also purchased a few Google ads related to the lies Ellington kept trying to tell.

Within seven days of james-brian-ellington.com going live, two other women whom Ellington had scammed contacted Eve. And through one of the women, Eve found a whole group of people that Ellington had conned. Needless to say, they were angry.

Ellington, in the meantime, found out about Eve’s website, and he was angry. So he went to the police—the same NYPD precinct where Eve had filed numerous complaints—apparently to complain about the website. The cops arrested Ellington and charged him with aggravated harassment.

Ellington is supposed to appear in court sometime in the future. What are the chances he’ll show up? I don’t know.

Eve is glad that the police have taken action. “I want to thank the New York Police Department who called to let me know they are listening to me,” she says.

Harassment

The police were concerned that because of james-brian-ellington.com, Ellington could accuse Eve of harassment. So they recommended that she take the website down. Eve has removed the information that she had posted about Ellington’s history.

“I want to state that the intent of what I have personally published was to help the public protect itself,” she says. “I want to apologize if I said something that overstepped boundaries because I do respect the law and other people’s rights.”

Still, the website has been effective.

“I have had a huge response from victims that have come forward as a result of the website,” Eve says. “I consider these people to be additional victims. They tell me Brian was living on their couches and borrowed, or tried to borrow, money. They tell me he was exaggerating and lying about what happened when I kicked him out. One woman told me he stole cash from her purse, as he did with me.”

Eve has been told that Ellington was seen spending large amounts of cash. Since Ellington hasn’t worked since August 8, 2006, she wonders where he got the money. To anyone who has run across Ellington, Eve says, “Please do not give him any money and watch your credit.”

Information works

I think Eve has done a wonderful public service in exposing Ellington. And I find it frustrating that she is supposed to remove the true information that she published because Ellington might feel harassed.

Excuse me, but who is the victim here and who is the criminal?

It’s almost as bad as the Phil Haberman story—the victim tells the truth, and a judge orders her to stop talking.

Ellington is not violent, so the chances are slim that he’s going to do any jail time. That means he’ll soon be looking for someone to give him a place to live and pay his expenses. The only defense people have against someone like Ellington is information.

At least one woman Googled Brian Ellington’s name, found Eve’s website, and got out of a relationship with him before she lost a lot of money. That’s the power of information on the Internet. And in these cases, it’s the only thing that really works.

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  1. Ox Drover

    December 14, 2009 at 11:58 am

    Dear Sherry,,
    I have been discussing with a mental health professional friend the very thing you have been talking about here, about the “whistle blower” being the one that is CONSISTENTLY punished, disbelieved, and smeared.

    He and I have both been in situations at our work where we have been forced to either quit or participate in unethical lthings, or to keep our mouths shut in order not to be fired. I have, and so has he, opened our mouths and blown the whistle and had the rath of the company fall on our heads, and we have also, when we NEEDED THAT JOB TO FEED OUR FAMILIES, kept our mouths shut. I know it is a terrible thing to do EITHER blowing the whistle and get punished or fired, and still NOT ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING, or to keep your mouth shut and still NOT ACCOMPLILSH ANYTHING EXCEPT FEELING LIKE A COWARD.

    ALL evil requires is for good people to DO NOTHING, but many times even standing up gets you pounded into the ground and STILL doesn’t accomplish the stopping of the evil. sometimes it does, but you never know before hand I think. It becomes a question of if you want to be “Joan of Arc” and burned at the stake or not—what price you are willing to pay for truth—Jesus told the truth and even He was cruicified by the evil ones who wanted the truth quashed.

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  2. updates

    October 2, 2010 at 1:34 pm

    See “Ellington arrested in New York City” blog comments for all other ellington court case updates.

    2006 Harrassment and subsequent Bail jumping cases have been finalized, per New York online webcrims court website ”“ Ellington pled guilty and was sentenced to 45 days imprisonment with fines also, however in the appareance section by “pled guilty” it says RoR which is “Release on Recognicance”:

    Case #:
    2006QN064460

    Defendant: Ellington, James B
    Defendant Name: Ellington, James B
    Birth Year:1974
    NYSID:935186R
    Incident and Arrest
    Incident Date:October 8, 2006
    Summons/Ticket #: CJTN:58559225P
    Arrest Date & Time:November 16, 2006 12:30
    Arrest #:Q06662484
    Officer Agency:NYPD Command:108

    Attorney InformationDefense Attorney
    Type:Legal Aid
    Court Date:May 22, 2009 Court Part:AP1
    Address:120-46 Queens Boulevard, Kew Gardens, NY 11415
    Phone:718-286-2000 Assistant District Attorney Assigned:June 11, 2009

    Next AppearanceDate:November 29, 2010
    Court:Queens Criminal Court Part:CASHIER

    Docket Sentence Description:
    CVA Fee Imposed $25
    Imprisonment for 45 Days
    Final Order of Protection 3 Years
    Surcharge Imposed $175

    Case Details ”“ Charges
    Case Information

    Court:
    Queens Criminal Court

    Case #:
    2006QN064460

    Defendant:
    Ellington, James B Charge Detail Disposition/Sentence
    PL 240.30 1A A Misdemeanor, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Arraignment charge
    Description:
    Aggravated Harassment-2nd Deg
    PL 240.30 02 A Misdemeanor, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Arraignment charge
    Description:
    Agg Har-2nd:telephone
    PL 240.30 1B
    **TOP CHARGE** A Misdemeanor, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Arraignment charge
    Description:
    Ag Harass-2:caus Comm To Alarm
    PL 215.55 00 A Misdemeanor, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Not an arraignment charge
    Description:
    Bail Jumping 3rd Degree
    Date Added:
    09/29/2010 Pled Guilty, Imprisonment For 45 Days, Final Order Of Protection For 3 Years
    PL 240.26 01 Violation, 1 count, Not an arrest charge, Arraignment charge
    Description: Harassment 2nd- Phy Contact

    Case Information
    Court:
    Queens Criminal Court
    Case #:
    2006QN064460

    Defendant:
    Ellington, James B Date/
    Part Judge Calendar
    Section Arraignment/
    Hearing Type Court
    Reporter Outcome/
    Release Status
    11/29/2010
    CASHIER TO PAY SURCHARGE No Type

    09/29/2010
    JP1 Zaro, S JURY TRIAL No Type Wise, M
    Pled Guilty & Sentence Imposed
    RoR Continued

    09/13/2010
    JP1 Lopez, G PENDING No Type Nason,
    Case Continued (adjourned)
    RoR Continued

    07/13/2010
    JP1 Margulis, I PENDING No Type Apicella,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    RoR Continued

    06/21/2010
    JP1 Melendez, S PENDING No Type Carroll,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    RoR Continued

    04/28/2010
    AP1 Margulis, I PENDING No Type Apicella,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    RoR Continued

    03/03/2010
    AP1 Gerald, L PENDING No Type Nevins,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    RoR Continued

    01/21/2010
    AP1 O’donoghue, M PENDING No Type Driver,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    RoR Continued

    12/14/2009
    AP1 Margulis, I PENDING No Type Nason,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    RoR Continued

    10/26/2009
    AP1 Koenderman, E PENDING No Type Nevin,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    RoR Continued

    09/08/2009
    AP1 Koenderman, E PENDING No Type Stewart,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    RoR Continued

    07/08/2009
    AP1 Serita, T PENDING No Type Apicella,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    Released on Recognizance

    06/11/2009
    AP1 O’donoghue, M PENDING No Type Silberger,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    Bond $1 (Not Posted)

    05/22/2009
    AP1 Serita, T PENDING No Type Nason,
    Case Continued (adjourned) ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    Bond $1 (Not Posted)

    05/18/2009
    AP1 Raciti, R PENDING No Type Nason,
    Case Continued (adjourned), Returned On Warrant ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    Bond $1 (Not Posted)

    07/24/2008
    AP1 Margulis, I PENDING No Type O Connor,
    Arrest Warrant Ordered ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued

    06/04/2008
    AP1 Margulis, I PENDING Desk Appearance Ticket Driver,
    Case Continued (adjourned), Returned On Warrant ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued
    Released on Recognizance

    12/11/2006
    AR2A Zigman, A PENDING Not Arraigned Cavanagh,
    Arrest Warrant Ordered ”“ Temporary Order Of Protection Issued

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  3. Ox Drover

    October 2, 2010 at 1:52 pm

    Look at how much in the way of TIME and resources have been taken up by this person Ellington, and how little in the way of punishment has been accomplished and I imagine (though dont know for sure) and expect little or any reimbursement of costs or damages to either the government or the victims.

    I agree this man may not be “Ted Bundy” but he is still causing distress to countless people, therefore in my opinion a SIGNIFICANT PRISON TERM along with restitution and costs is warranted.

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  4. concerned

    March 11, 2011 at 1:07 pm

    He is back. He is going around as James Ciarlo owner of Sortprice.com. He said he is getting bought out of company so he can pursue his golf career.
    He is meeting girls on internet dating sights. He is still using his same lines that he missed placed his wallet and he lost his credit cards. He is saying he is living on the Upper East Side at 91st and First. He is also saying that he is traveling for golf and trying to get sponsored!!!
    James Ciarlo as he calls himself also has been spotted in New Jersey. He continues to say that he has a hectic traveling schedule which brings him to Connecticut, Florida, South Carolina, and most recently he said he is traveling to Arizona.

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  5. Kaymer79

    March 15, 2011 at 7:45 pm

    He is most definitely back and I had the unfortunate luck of the draw in meeting him. Luckily I was only a victim of a stolen metro card and some cash in my purse but he gave me every excuse in the book and I knew something was off about him. As soon as I couldn’t find anything about him online I was suspicious. He claimed to be a Yale graduate, Mensa member, and famed wrestler. He wanted to bring me to the Yala gala but kept saying the dates were incorrect.

    He said he lived on 91st and 1st with his roommate Vinny although when he sent me pictures around Christmas time of his tree and his pug I put two and two together that no two Italian men living in an apartment in NYC would have a fully decorated Xmass tree with wrapped presents underneath

    He told me about Sortprice.com although he was listed nowhere on their site and his name never came up anywhere. I’m glad that someone posted a blog on the Cyberfraud site because more people need to know about this guy.

    I spoke with his friend who just took him to Florida for a week to golf and stay with his family, and even he had no idea and believed James Ellington to be James Ciarlo.

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  6. one/joy_step_at_a_time

    March 15, 2011 at 7:55 pm

    Is it the price of truth we have to weigh or the price of lies?

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  7. concerned

    March 16, 2011 at 8:34 am

    Kaymer79….what did he friend say? He really had no idea?

    I was told he was living alone on 91st and 1st. Vinny was his friend in Brooklyn.

    Famed wrestler….Yale never had a wrestling team!

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  8. Kaymer79

    March 16, 2011 at 1:07 pm

    Concerned….His friend was astonished. He’s my friend on Facebook after meeting him a few times and believed him to be James Ciarlo as well. He brought him to Florida a few weeks ago to go golfing and stayed with his parents. I just hope James didn’t steal anything from the poor guys family!!

    We were going to go to his apartment one night after I kept asking why we hadn’t gone there yet and we went to a bar close by. As we started walking there he called his “roommate” and then hung up the phone and explained his roommate Vinny was entertaining a girl in the living room and he would prefer that we went to my apartment. This was the first time I ever heard of a roommate and this was the last time I hung out with him since I knew something was up. Once we got in the cab he got back on the phone and started screaming in Italian at someone. Lord knows if he even speaks Italian or if it was all him talking to himself on the phone.

    He explained why his ears were so mangled and that he was a Yale wrestler. Said he belonged to the Yale club and the infamous New York Health and Raquet club and didn’t belong to anything that wasn’t prestigious.

    I’m a research analyst for work and I knew something was up with this guy. I knew from not being able to find anything about him online he was either going by a different name or since he was “off the boat Italian” had a different name of some sorts.

    Luckily enough he only stole some cash from my wallet and my metro card but he’s obviously up to his same tricks. He is listed on datehookup.com and his username is JNYC on there. I emailed the people of the site warning them and they deleted my account. Apparently they must promote predators! I’ve made it my mission to expose this person and have written letters to Dateline, NBC, Fox News, NY Times, NY1, Daily News, and CNN.

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  9. Kaymer79

    March 16, 2011 at 1:08 pm

    http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2009/05/james-brian-ellington-caught-jailed.html

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  10. soupisgoodfood

    January 15, 2015 at 4:32 pm

    I ran into this tool while he was trying to run from a big bar tab he rang up buying girls shots. I could tell he was a liar when he bragged about his black Amex card, yellow Ferrari, penthouse unit on the water, etc…. People with black Amex cards don’t talk about them,,,,they just bust them out when it is time to pay.

    Sarasota, FL arrest record. He was arrested in Sarasota in roughly May as well for trespassing. He was bailed out on the one below FYI.

    JAMES ELLINGTON
    Booking Number: 201400016335
    Booked on: 12/19/2014 at 4:41 am
    Date of Birth: 11/03/1974
    Gender: Male
    Race: W
    CHARGE NUMBER:1

    VIOLATION CODE:784.03(1A1)

    VIOLATION DESCRIPTION:BATTERY: DOMESTIC

    REQUIRED BOND AMOUNT:$5,000.00

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    • Astonished_15

      July 9, 2015 at 3:36 pm

      I can’t even believe this guy is still out and about pulling the same stunts over and over again in different locations. His arrest record in North Carolina alone is enough to make anyone wonder how this guy isn’t in jail forever. He’s a repeat offender of domestic violence, drugs, scams, theft….etc.

      I even had Investigative Discovery call me about doing a story on this loser after a woman contacted me that had been living with him for over a year in 2013. She had no idea of his real name, claimed to be a pro golfer, lied about everything….it’s just unreal.

      This guy needs to be taken out to a field and shot.

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