“A victim of crime shall be treated with fairness, compassion and respect by the criminal justice system.” So states the Crime Victims Constitutional Amendment, added to the state of New Jersey constitution in 1991.
New Jersey also has a 14-point Crime Victims Bill of Rights (NJS 52:4B-36), which expands upon the constitutional amendment. Among its provisions, crime victims and witnesses are entitled to:
- Be treated with dignity and compassion by the criminal justice system.
- Be informed about the criminal justice process.
- Have inconveniences associated with participation in the criminal justice process minimized to the fullest extent possible.
The Bill of Rights sounds good, but it hasn’t done much for Trish Rynn, formerly of Ocean City, New Jersey. She was scammed by a seasoned con artist, Dennis SanSeverino, and now feels she is being further victimized by the New Jersey courts. It is a classic case of Legal Abuse Syndrome.
Con artist pleads guilty
Dennis SanSeverino took Rynn’s home, cleaned out her inheritance and left her with credit card debt. Rynn went to the police, and the Cape May County Prosecutor’s office, to its credit, investigated. They determined that the money SanSeverino took from Rynn added up to $318,240. Although he was originally charged with theft by deception, a second-degree crime, he pleaded down to theft by illegal retention, a third-degree crime.
On August 26, 2006, SanSeverino was sentenced to five years probation and ordered to pay restitution of $275,000. Judge Carmen Alvarez ordered him to pay $1,000 per month for six months, and then increase payment to $2,000 per month. He was barred from entering casinos and ordered to get treatment for gambling addiction.
According to the Press of Atlantic City, SanSeverino’s lawyer requested lower payments, citing his client’s lack of employment. Judge Alvarez didn’t buy it. “I find his unemployment status to also be a con,” she said. “If you violate probation, there’s no question in my mind I will incarcerate you.”
But then SanSeverino was convicted of bouncing two $25,000 checks at an Atlantic City casino and sent to jail. He was sentenced to 270 days, but only served 66 days.
Still, it was enough for the judge to temporarily reduce the monthly restitution. She ordered SanSeverino to pay $6,000 by October 2007.
By the deadline, SanSeverino had paid $5,700, Trish Rynn says. A violation of probation hearing was scheduled for that month, and Rynn, confident that Judge Alvarez would take action, did not attend.
But Judge Alvarez was no longer on the case—she’d been promoted. There was a new judge, Raymond Batten, and the hearing was postponed. And somehow, the nature of the hearing was changed from a violation of probation to a request to reduce restitution.
Lovefraud publishes case study
The victim, Trish Rynn, was understandably upset. She believed SanSeverino was hiding money. After all, a few weeks before pleading guilty in Rynn’s case, the con artist had sold two homes, valued at $865,000, for $45,000. Then, two weeks after being released from jail, he bought them back for $1 each.
SanSeverino’s violation of probation hearing was rescheduled for February 7, 2008. Three days before it, Lovefraud published the True Lovefraud Story about Dennis SanSeverino. It detailed the money the con artist took from Trish Rynn, along with his real estate scams.
After publication of Lovefraud’s story, SanSeverino’s court date was postponed until February 15, 2008. Then the hearing was moved up to February 14, 2008. Rynn not notified—she only found out when she called to verify the date. By that time, it was too late for her to arrange to take the day off from work so she could testify. Rynn requested a postponement.
Hearing moved up again
The violation of probation hearing was rescheduled for March 28, 2008, then moved up to March 26, 2008. Again, Trish Rynn was not notified, and only found out when she called to check a week before the originally scheduled date. She immediately called Cape May County Assistant Prosecutor Meghan Hoerner, who prosecuted the original case against SanSeverino. According to Rynn, Hoerner said the date might change yet again, and that it might be heard by a different judge. The prosecutor promised to call Rynn with updated information. For days, Rynn heard nothing. Then Hoerner left a message the day before the hearing, which Rynn did not receive, stating that it was on.
But Rynn had already called the Cape May County Office of Victim Witness Advocacy at 4 p.m. on March 25, and had already learned that the hearing was indeed scheduled for the next day before a new judge. Rynn immediately called the new judge’s chambers and spoke to his assistant, asking for permission to be heard on the matter. Permission was granted.
No more advocacy
For some reason, this seemed to infuriate Assistant Prosecutor Meghan Hoerner. The day of the hearing, right before Rynn was to leave for the two-hour drive to Cape May Court House, she received an irate phone call from Hoerner. Because Rynn had spoken to the judge, the assistant prosecutor said, the case would not be heard. It would be rescheduled—perhaps for April 30, 2008.
Furthermore, Rynn says Hoerner told her that she could no longer speak to the Office of Victim Witness Advocacy. She would be advised of the new court date by mail. Rynn was actually glad to hear this, because she’d never received any notification by mail.
The next day, Rynn called the Office of Victim Witness Advocacy to confirm the new hearing date. According to the its website, the services provided by office include “information on the status and disposition of the case in which you are involved.” But sure enough, the advocates refused to speak to her.
Notification did not arrive in the mail. And while the hearing date kept changing, Rynn was receiving a pittance of restitution from Dennis SanSeverino. Instead of paying $2,000 per month as originally ordered, the con artist was paying just $100—when he got around to paying at all.
Letter campaign
Disappointed and angry, Rynn sent a 12-page letter to the New Jersey Attorney General, the U.S. Attorney for New Jersey, the Cape May County Prosecutor, various New Jersey legislators, women’s advocacy organizations and media outlets. She told the entire story, including the fact that Assistant Cape May County Prosecutor Meghan Hoerner instructed the Office of Victim Witness Advocacy not to speak to her.
“The defendant, Dennis SanSeverino, has managed to play with our legal system because he can,” Rynn wrote. “And quite frankly, I no longer want to hear people within the system say that it is a ‘failed system’ and ‘it is what it is.’ That is having no integrity. Taking the loser’s way out—we need to fight for our rights! ”¦ While the prosecutor’s office gets their win and Dennis SanSeverino gets his win, the victim is the loser! That is just not acceptable to me and should be the same for all of you whom I am addressing here. For the whole of America! Our legal system has no integrity because the leaders within our system are out of integrity!”
Rynn got some responses. One northern New Jersey legislator called her and asked her why she didn’t get a lawyer. (Hello? Because she had no money!) A representative of New Jersey Senator Jeff Van Drew, who represents Cape May County, called and said the senator would send a letter to the attorney general on Rynn’s behalf. He would also look into sponsoring legislation.
Passing bad checks
In mid-April, Rynn checked blog comments related to the 2006 news story about Dennis SanSeverino’s sentencing. Much to her surprise, she found a comment from “MPM” in Sewell, New Jersey. “Dennis is a new tenant of mine and always behind in rent. Any suggestions?” MPM wrote.
Rynn posted information about SanSeverino’s upcoming violation of probation hearing. Then MPM wrote, “He also wrote a check with NSF – Fidelity Investments.”
The check had apparently been drawn on the investment account that SanSeverino had conned from Rynn. He’d wiped out the account years earlier, so it seemed that SanSeverino knowingly passed a bad check. Which is illegal.
Rynn called the Cape May County Prosecutor’s Office and asked to speak to the investigator who originally worked on the case. She wanted to inform him about the bad check. The investigator had previously told Rynn that SanSeverino was seen in the Harrah’s casino in Chester, Pennsylvania.
By going into the casino, SanSeverino violated the terms of his probation. And by passing a bad check, he committed a crime, which also violated his probation. Maybe this, Rynn thought while she waited on hold, would be enough to get SanSeverino put in jail.
The receptionist came back on the phone and said that, per instructions from Meghan Hoerner, the investigator would not speak to her.
The landlord, in the meantime, will be in court on May 1, 2008, to begin eviction proceedings against Dennis SanSeverino and the woman with whom he is living.
Nothing left to lose
So Rynn has continued to write letters. She sent them to the investigator, Judge Raymond Batten and yes, Meghan Hoerner.
“I don’t understand why they’re keeping information from me, not letting me speak to anyone and hiding court dates from me,” Rynn said to Lovefraud. “I should have a right to know. I think it’s just terrible.
“I care about what’s right, and I feel that the things I’ve pieced together make me sure something is wrong,” she continued. “I’m just going to tell it like it is and let the cards fall where they may. I have nothing to lose. I’ve lost already.”
Dennis SanSeverino’s violation of probation hearing is scheduled for Wednesday, April 30 at 1:30 p.m. in the Cape May County courthouse. At least, it is for now.
A request for comment sent via e-mail to the Cape May County Prosecutor, Robert Taylor, received no response.
I know you care, Trish, very kind of you, I am just trying to get across that he KNOWS that I am healthy and sane, but he wants no one else to know it, as I said, he would lose the power he has right now.
“you will not be able to prove it until you get another opinion by another professional.”
This is the frightening part, my love, (friendly expression I use to all females, no offense or harm intended) with me still involved, he could get at whatever professional I go for and influence them against me, like the first one, he must have been hired by the executor, it turned out really TERRIBLE, man!
“these sociopaths are good and they do try to make you look like the crazy, unstable person.”
And this is the kind of person my father innocently and unsuspectingly put into the position of being the executor to his estate, MAN, if he knew what I was going through right now, I bet he would be able to teach a bomb how to explode or teach a volcano how to erupt!
IT MOST CERTAINLY IS WAR, TRISH, AND I WANT MY STORY TO GO AS FAR AS POSSIBLE, REALLY!!!!
Anneka,
TRish in NJ gave you some good advice. See a professional and don’t let the executor know which one. That way he cannot get to that person to influence them. Be open and honest with them, tell them the entire history of this whole situation.
Also, dialoging with him/them online is not going to be productive. The best route by far is NO CONTACT. E mailing them or instant messaging or talking on the phone with a P only gives them satisfaction and you will never change their minds.
I hear the frustration and anger you are expressing. Sometimes it is difficult to function and plan quietly when it seems that “all the world is against you” and that you are backed into a corner. That is the time though, that you must keep your cool the most. Having dealt with several Ps intimately during my life, I know from experience that flying off the handle, having a temper tantrum, or becoming so angry you are “blind” is the wrong thing to do with these people. It makes you look “crazy” and then “sane”—it is called “crazymaking” and most of us fall for it at one time or another because they frustrate us so much.
No matter how true your story is, people won’t listen if you are not able to calmly tell them about it. Believe me I know this from experience, learned the hard way.
Plus, sometimes you just have to wait it out and the Ps will “shoot themselves in the foot”—
AGain, I suggest that you see a professional and be evaluated. Good luck and God Bless. Oxy
Oxdrover,
“See a professional and don’t let the executor know which one.”
Easier said than done, my friend, he is having my landline tapped, as this text indicates, from a phone call he had with someone else :- ‘Pity she doesnt get away on her own, easy to get to then.
Not too sure, but there was a stay away, but went on her own, and I found out too late to intervene.
I thought you were keeping an eye on things?
I am, but unless things are said over the land line, its difficult to find out anything at all.’
“Plus, sometimes you just have to wait it out and the Ps will “shoot themselves in the foot—””
Yeah right, my friend, I am 56 now, I have not got that much time left to dance around my handbag, if you get my meaning.
“I suggest that you see a professional and be evaluated.”
Like I said to Trish, I am scared of doing this again, he also KNOWS I am normal and sane, as this would indicate :- ‘because H is normal it doesnt look good at the moment, as he has done a lot of ground work saying that H has mental problems and because H has not been committed, then it throws it all on the head.
(And, because he has said this, he has sent people to force me to PROVE that I do indeed have mental problems.)’
Anneka9842,
Your situation is really a nightmare and I truly feel for you. But you must understand that any reaction you give him is his entertainment. He enjoys your suffering and your frantic attempts to defend yourself. He takes sick pleasure from your despair. Now is the time to think clearly and try to stay one step ahead. Think of all the horrible things he can do to you and plan how you would deal with that.
I know you are scared, but look at what you wrote- “UNLESS THINGS ARE SAID OVER THE LAND LINE, IT IS DIFFICULT TO FIND OUT ANYTHING AT ALL.” That is his weakness. He cannot keep tabs on you 24/7. You need to be sneaky and clever to save yourself. Having proof that you are completely sane is not to show him (because he is only saying it to set you off) but for your own purposes and the therapy will help you deal with this frustrating time.
Make some calls to therapists on your landline that you don’t intend to visit and really make an appointment by pay phone or someone else’s phone and find a therapist who understands psychopaths. Throw him off the trail for a while. That way even if he does eventually find out who it is the therapist will be able to see right through him.
But you need to stop defending yourself because just the frustration will make you seem unsettled. He is trying to drive you crazy with frustration and that is dangerous for you. If anyone else mentions it, laugh it off. That is the only way you can stop him from enjoying himself at your expense. Be calm and think through all of your actions. You must try to control your emotions because he will continue to provoke you in any way he can. DO NOT BUY INTO IT. He is not as powerful as you imagine but don’t put any dirty tricks past him and do not let down your guard.
Good luck and take care of yourself.
Well, it is really fixed this time, and I know that she is struggling, my source has told me.
Good, so you mean she is unable to manage now on that amount?
Thats right, and if she gets into trouble, all the better for us.
Well, I can not see how she can not manage, but she does like to spend, so it seems it might play into our hands.
Thats what i mean, the authorities will have to sort it out, we need do nothing, just sit back and wait for it to happen.
Yes, it seems our friend has no money or anything, and is not coping well.
Hmmm.
So what do you do, you know you have been waiting for this, havent you?
Yes, but I am going to sit on it for a while, at least to see what other muddle she gets into.
The amount is enough for anyone, I checked it all out, in fact, more than enough!
So all I need to do is wait, if it’s seen that she can not manage on that amount, then I am proved right, she cannot manage on her own.
Ha ha ha, the amount you give is only a bit less than my wages!
I know, and all her bills are paid as well, well, apart from her phone, that is.
Let’s hope she goes to court then.
That is what I am hoping for, then the control will be given over by them, not us.
I am thinking of not doing, and then it will be put into the hands of court.
Hmm, what happens then?
Well, they would see she was not coping, and take over, perhaps care housing
Pity she doesn’t go away again, (alone) if she did, we could really put it on and get her to flip, if she does, we could get her taken away.
(This was when I was still going into AOL chat rooms, I do not, any more)
And dont forget the chat room, she is on there again, and last time, it caused a lot of hassle.
Well, I think we can handle that, I will get someone to start her up again, so she gets put out the chat room.
Well, hopefully, no one will believe her, and I hope they think she is a trouble maker.
there are still problems in the chat, and that we will keep up, another ID was used, and it is confusing everyone, also there was one that seemed to be on her side, so it made a false sense of security.
In what way?
Well, she thinks she has a friend, then boom, it all blows up.
Then she gets all upset, but at the moment she is not reacting as expected, usually she goes ape, but its not happening not sure why.
The chat went berserk again, everyone is on her back, and she lacks credibility.
Our shadow is working overtime, changed his handle a couple of times as well, so it confuses even more, some of them think they are speaking to different people, so its easy to mislead.
There was an alias in a book I read that did that.
No news from America at all?
Nope, had no replies from that either.
Thats good, will it last?
Yes, that person on our side, almost got her to move there, and it would have been handy, well out of help there, and easy got at, no-one knowing her.
(Here, he is having another person put away, an elderly man, as far as I can gather)
what about him, I see its getting to him again, yesterday the police were called, I stood back and watched, it makes me laugh how people get wound up over simple things.
Well, keep up the pressure, there is a lot of money resting on this, get him in the nut house and I will collect a good package.
What about the family?
They are in on it, never liked the old codger anyway, did they?
Well, I shall want my cut out of it, I have been in the flat upstairs and made a right noise at night, it must be driving him mad.
I tried to cause as much hassle as I could, and to honest it seems to be working.
How, what had happened, did you hear anything?
Well, it seems like our friend is going to put himself in the home at last, thinks he is going mad, so would rather be looked after.
We should get a payout soon.
What about our friend, has he settled in?
Yes, and I have the first payment.
Good, and the other matter is well settled?
Yes, and the transfer of his items are under way.
Does he know?
Of course, it is all above board.
Thats good, no come back on that at least.
Anyway, the prob with him is not rectified, at the moment, his family are smelling a rat.
Oh, how is that, thought it was sorted?
It was the money paid, but they want a cut in the home now.
Well, that wont do
She has also been to the police, I found out the other day.
How well is the transmission, how much have you managed to hear?
Its not working any more, though thats the problem, so I dont know the outcome, I can not get an attachment now.
You mean she has a site, about what?
About her life story.
Bloody hell, that is all I need
As long as she does not cause problems with that damn website, otherwise people will not trust us, and the business will go downhill.
I know, and its all legal and above board, just our luck for it to blow up in our faces, well, keep a lid on her, and get that site down, if you can, there have been so many hits (visitors), people are starting to speak about it, and its all in her favour.
Next things, she will be selling movie rights to it!
Oh yes, I dont think, at least she hasnt the sense to write a book, imagine that, a book and a website!
Your life would be total hell.
Tell me about it, see what you can do, before someone gets to see it, that will do us harm!
Here is what someone esle emailed to me, regarding the executor :-
“Many of my friends have had dodgy phone calls we dont know who from and many have been told by some man “stuart” on the phone never to deal with you, I myself was told by this same “stuart” that he could find my parents and make things difficult for them if I bothered with you again. As well as having my kids hurt if I tried to support anyone claiming to be you.”
And this was merely because this person tried to help me get out of this situation, nice person, huh? PUKE!
Sorry for boring you all with this, dear readers.
I also have some very frightening messages, that I got through email, not long after I had moved to where I am now in the UK :-
FRIGHTENING MESSAGES BY HOTMAIL AND AMSERVE
On the 26th of June 2000, I travelled to the North, to view the house that was available, but did not live up to my expectations.
On the 29th of June 2000, I moved into the X hotel, in search of a permanent place to live in the North.
On the 25th of August 2000, I moved to the Y Hotel, to continue the negotiations for my permanent home in the North.
On the 18th of September 2000, negotiations completed, I moved into my permanent home in the North.
I was working on my website, BENEFICIARY, using my Hotmail account, on the 6th of December 2000.
The first message came into my Hotmail account on the 11th.
Hi, you took some finding, but have located you now, I will definitely be in touch.
I replied:-
Please do not take offence at this, but it has been a long time, remind me of where we met, and how, etc.
As I have said, it has been a long time, and a great deal has happened since then, so forgive me if I cannot remember you as clearly as you seem to remember me.
What drove you to look for me at all, how did you find me, and most importantly, what is it that you want from me?
Forgive all these questions, but you must understand, from my point of view, this dogged determination is a little unsettling.
Please do not take offence at this, no harm is intended.
Please reply as soon as possible.
Thank you.
This message arrived on the 12th.
We were not sure when you moved, or where to, glad we have got contact again, I hope you are the person we are looking for, I will be taking a trip soon to see you, the scrappy (The executor is/was in the scrap metal trade, like my late father was) wishes you well.
This message also arrived on the 12th.
I hope you are the right person that we are looking for, I was asked to tell you that we will be visiting shortly, the scrappy wishes you well.
I replied to one of them with this: –
I will neither confirm nor deny these allegations until I have more information. Please provide me with details of the person you are looking for, so I will be able to confirm or deny it. If you will not provide me with the aforementioned details, then please do not contact me again, or I will be obliged to take further action. Thank you.
A reply duly arrived: –
You gave me your email address last week when we were on the bus. Did you not drop all your papers and say they were scrap? We talked last night on the phone. I think I have the correct person.
I replied: –
We did NOT meet on the bus last week, I did NOT drop any papers, and we did NOT speak last night on the phone. I have no idea where you got this email address from, BUT I CAN ASSURE YOU that it was DEFINITELY NOT from me. This appears to be a case of mistaken identity, so, please do not contact me again, I can assure you that you DEFINITELY have the wrong person. If I get another email from you, I will certainly take further action in this matter. Thank you.
Another email arrived: –
Not heard for a while, the conversation was epic, you sound lovely, I love long hair, I will come up as you invited me to, weather permitting, (I did no such thing) what shall I bring up, by the way, do you remember Stewart? (the executor) He is a friend of mine and says he knows you.
You really are not a nice person, the things that you said in the chat room are not acceptable. I think and so do others, that AOL should bar you. As you copy all this down, perhaps you should copy down what you say. The lies you are telling about that poor man in Glasgow are dreadful. We know him and it is you that are the problem. I quite agree that you should be sectioned (Only the executor would know this, as he had this done to me the first time) again, to make it safe for everyone.
FROM THIS POINT, THE EMAILS ARRIVE AT MY AMSERVE ACCOUNT.
(I had never made it known that I HAD an AMSERVE email account)
I don’t know what you are up to, but I WILL NEVER EVER GIVE UP.
Still waiting for my reply from you, a lovely evening last night, enjoyed our little chat, the others are really awful to you in the chat room, I can not understand it, but I will look after you, don’t worry.
You never replied, my friend, I am getting warmer and closer, I CAN SEE ALL YOU DO, WITH MY ELECTRONIC EYE, please reply.
I still have not got any reply from you? I HAVE THE THINGS SET UP, you were out for ages today, I thought you were never coming back, look after yourself, won’t you, my dear.
I replied: –
It took an enormous amount of courage to reply to this message. Please do not contact me again, as this message has frightened me very badly. Thank you.
Well, it was nice seeing you the other day, I AM SICK OF THAT VIDEO YOU ALWAYS WATCH YOU MUST KNOW IT BY HALF NOW, ANNEKA, MUST YOU REALLY DRINK ALL THAT COFFEE AND SMOKE TOO MUCH, IT IS REALLY BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH, YOU KNOW, AND ALL THOSE CIGARETTES, FAR TOO MANY, IT IS LOVELY THAT EVERYTHING IS NOW SET UP, I FEEL REALLY CLOSE TO YOU, I enjoyed our little chat, keep speaking to me, won’t you, my dear, hope you reply soon.
(I was SO VERY BADLY FRIGHTENED, I had no idea what to do about it, I was energetically denying everything that was said, and still they kept coming, I was paralysed with fear!
I was so badly frightened, I wanted to throw the computer and everything else, straight out of the window, anything to stop those emails, but I thought of all the money I had spent on it, which I did NOT want to throw away, and looked for other ways to stop them.)
Long time, no speak, although I SEE YOU HAVE BEEN SPEAKING (typing) to our mutual friend, angel of darkness, good, isn’t he? Well, I HAVE BEEN KEEPING A VERY CLOSE EYE ON YOU although I have not been in contact for a while, Glasgow is such a lovely city, don’t you think, dear, I must ask you, WHO DID YOU SEND THAT FAX TO, I COULD NOT QUITE SEE THE ADDRESS, catch you again.
(On this particular day, I had actually sent a fax to someone, but now, I forget who I sent it to.)
(They tap my house phone, tap my mobile phone, link to my computer, all to see whom I have been telling what to, to let them know, whether I am a danger to them, or they are safe.)
I know you think they are your friends in the chat room, but they are not. It is to lead you into a false sense of security! They are ALL on my side, even your friend, who is supposed to help you. Ha ha, you can never win or lose me. By the way, I liked the skirt you had on the other day, it went well with your jumper. Byee.
(These messages continued, frightening me considerably, until I reported them to the ABUSE sections of the relevant email providers.
To be specific Hotmail and Amserve, and they soon stopped afterwards. which relieved me greatly, BUT, the treatment I had recieved in Glasgow, continued in the North
Anneka,
The messages in the chat room cannot actually harm you. I suggest that you ignore them. Just not read them, not think about them. Not repost them. Sometimes reading or rereading these messages that cannot really harm us, keep us very anxious. Your anxiety level should decrease if you ignore the messages. That alone (a decreased anxiety) should help you feel better. Being anxious all the time, and wondering if someone is watching you, always makes us (humans) feel terrible. It doesn’t matter if that anxiety is caused by something real or not, the anxiety is the thing. It is like NO CONTACT helps us by decreasing our anxiety. So go NO CONTACT with all messages, past, present and future, is my suggestion. I know it may seem difficult, but NO CONTACT with the psychopaths is the only way to start to regain yourself.
I agree with Tmassar about you finding another therapist, and Aridne’s suggestion that you make your real appointment from a pay phone is a good one. That should keep it secret from everyone except you. Good luck. A good therapist can help you.
I used to regularly get email from a blank email sender line that was abusive and swearing at me, calling me names. For years. Save the messages, Anneka but don’t reread them. Save everything to a USB drive you can remove from the computer.
I was a victim recently of similar computer exploits. And they wreak havoc on the nerves, but they cannot harm you in and of themselves. Frightening, though, I agree.
Oxdrover,
“The messages in the chat room cannot actually harm you.”
It was not for the ‘harm’ context, I put them in, I put them in as to how the executor spoke to me one-on-one, and what he had done afterwards, which led to my being driven out of AOL chat rooms, never to go back.
NO CONTACT is easier said than done, as the executor, he pays all my bills, apart from my phone bills, so he HAS to know where I am, to be able to do this, one-way NC is no good, is it?
As someone else said to me once, that he will not actually harm me physically, like kidnap me or such, otherwise this would indicate that what I have said was true all along, so the anxiety is quite low, really.
Lilorphan,
I do not think they wanted to harm me physically with the frightening messages, as I said earlier in this post, just go for the nerves, and let me do all the damage to myself, manipulative, huh? What I think of the executor, well, is not very charitable, politely and VERY diplomatically put!
Anneka:
“I do not think they wanted to harm me physically with the frightening messages, as I said earlier in this post, just go for the nerves, and let me do all the damage to myself, manipulative, huh? ”
Manipulative. Cowardly.
Typical.
You see, the conscience people like that do not have is precisely what they aim for with people like you (and me). They may not own a guilt function, but they know how to use ours against us.
So, my advice? No guilt, no worries, no anxiety. This man is only going to harm you through the periphery. He hasn’t the requisite guts to come face-to-face.
You’re not crazy, Anneka. I am sure you can get third-party corroboration on that. I had anxiety, PTSD, depression (well, still do) but according to my therapist, I am not crazy. Just the victim of someone dangerous. And while they may be able to convince you momentarily that you are crazy, if you feed into their illusion, you need only get away from them a bit to know the truth. Always go to people you trust, who know you well, who will give you their honest assessment, whenever you doubt yourself.
And document, document, document. Get that zip drive. It’s invaluable if you’re building a case against someone you think has access to your computer and phone line.
Hugs to you…