Since January, Steve Becker, a licensed clinical social worker and certified hypnotherapist, has been submitting guest columns to Lovefraud. His articles have been insightful looks at pathological personalities. I’m sure you remember them:
- Differentiating narcissists and psychopaths
- Psychopaths’ cat and mouse game (my personal favorite)
- The borderline personality as transient sociopath
- Heeding the exploiter’s earliest warnings
- It’s not weakness, but lack of clarity, that exposes us to an exploiter
- Getting inside the head of the abusive mentality
Steve has a private therapy practice based in Westfield, New Jersey, USA. He works with adults, couples, adolescents and families. He sees his fair share of sociopaths.
Clinically, Steve has been interested in the personality disorders—especially borderline, narcissistic and sociopathic—for many years. He developed a reputation earlier in his career for working effectively with aggressive, paranoid and manipulative clients at various community mental health centers. Since then, he has sought opportunities to work with, and develop his knowledge of, challenging, disordered personalities.
Steve has made presentations to clinical and lay audiences on subjects including sociopathic and narcissistic personality, rage management, and the mentality of the relationship abuser. In 2006, he was honored (as one of 10 men) by the YWHA in Elizabeth, New Jersey, for his commitment to end domestic violence.
Steve has placed clinical articles in many publications and published short stories in small magazines. He’s written an irreverent non-fiction manuscript, What’s Wrong With My Spouse?: Guidance For Partners of Impossible Spouses, which he’s hoping to publish. You can view it on his website, www.powercommunicating.com.
Steve will now be contributing to Lovefraud on a regular basis. I’m thrilled to welcome him.
JaneSmith
All right! Welcome Dr. Steve!
Yes, his articles and essays have been tremendously valuable as have Dr. Leedoms, MLs and of course, yours Donna.
The one that caused my eyeballs to widen with necessary enlightenment was..”It’s not weakness, but lack of clarity….”
Whoa, my perspective was altered in a much more beneficial, logical way which has helped me learn what I need to learn to protect myself from predators.
That it’s ok to be a loving, caring, compassionate person just be extra careful to whom I share my good spirit with. That not every person on this planet deserves to be nurtured and felt sympathy for, especially hard wired personality disordered people.
That was a truly difficult concept for me to grasp, to accept. That I shouldn’t squander my goodness to a person who doesn’t give a flying fig about me or anyone else for that matter. Only themselves.
It was almost earthshattering for me to discover the all consuming self centered interest that PDIs portray, embody. It was a really scary idea to get my head around, but I did finally after months of reorganizing my own ingrained behaviors, attitudes, thoughts and ideas.
Thank you, Steve for sharing your knowledge, your experiences with predators in an effort to educate and empower us.
hens
Dr. Steve- Thank you so much for your articles and essays. The one that most effected me (The borderline personality as a transient sociopath) this define’s my encounter so well. I realize how pitiful and screwed up he is. But there is nothing I can do but stay clear. I have been posting alot the past few day’s. I think I took a brain laxitive and I am finally flushing this out of my head. Thanks for all your help. BTW my name is Steve also. And I feel like a Dr. Steve with a degree in phycotherapy. A course I didn’t know I needed but it has changed me forever………
Donna Andersen
We have two men writing for Lovefraud, both named Steve. I’ve just introduced Steve Becker, LCSW. We also have Dr. Steve Appel. I know it’s confusing – you’ll just have to pay attention to know which Steve is writing.
Ox Drover
Maybe we should have Dr. Steve 1 and Dr. Steve TOO LOL
rperk6069
Oxy-…ROTFLMAO, Sorry.
Ox Drover
Oh, well, Perky, laughing is good for the soul! I try to do it several times per day and BAD PUNS and plays on words are some of my favorite ways to do it. (it doesn’t take much to amuse me!)
Lib
Thank you Henry for not using you name, Steve also.
hens
Your welcome Lib -just call me Henry the 8th…!!
alohatraveler
So this isn’t Dr. Steve? Maybe we can have Dr. Steve and Steve Becker, LCSW.
newworld view
you guys are too funny…taking this and running with it is a healthy sign….and henry/steve……..the eighth…………you guys are a riot