Lovefraud frequently hears from readers who have been discarded by sociopaths, but still feel like they’re in love with them, and can’t get them out of their minds. We frequently tell these readers that sociopathic relationships are very much like addictions.
Now, there’s proof. A recent study found that “the pain anguish of rejection by a romantic partner may be the result of activity in parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward and addiction cravings,” according to Science Daily.
Read Romantic rejection stimulates areas of brain involved with motivation, reward and addiction on sciencedaily.com.
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erin1972
I am really getting tired of this blog. I am going to have to stop being on here because there is someone on here who really reminds me a lot of one of my ex’s from my past who was a narcissist and emotionally unavailable. I am getting red flags popping up all over the place. I feel like there is really something wrong with this person and I do not want anymore contact. It’s not a healing place anymore. I read her posts and just get really aggravated.
ErinBrock
E72:
🙂
hens
..E72 🙁
erin1972
ErinB-I really like and appreciate you and many others on here but I am having a hard time not reacting to this person in total irritation. For awhile we were texting, emailing, and talking on the phone until my red flags started popping up all over the place. I get tired of her acting like I’m not as evolved as she is because I’m younger and haven’t been through intense therapy like she has. I’m tired of her talking down to me. I am tired of the whole drama queen mentality where she always has to be the center of attention.
Not everyone goes about their healing the same way. I don’t like people pushing their views on me. I’m tired of the playing the victim thing. What I am supposed to do with her? She continues to respond to my posts when I have no desire to hear what she has to say about my life. When she walks a mile in my shoes, let her then make comments! I can try not responding to her for awhile but then I get hormonal like I am now and just want to tell her to shut the hell up!
erin1972
Hens and ErinB–:) 🙂 🙂
ErinBrock
E72:
Rise above….issues we have no control over.
This is a problem when we take relationships outside of the blog.
We run this risk…..we connect on misery…..but we grow separately. there is so much pain involved….and we just can’t always walk this path with others on the same intimate level.
This is a prime example of; all of our journeys are different, and we can only control ourselves…..
Believe it or not…..E72….there is a lesson here for you.
Just politely request she not respond to you…..and i’m sure she can respect that, if not…..we have the power to not respond.
Breeeaaaatttth!
GettingIt
I am sick. When I used to be sick, he was so incredible toward me, caring. That is – in the first few years. Or less. Why can’t I remember the bad stuff? it’s only the good stuff I want to remember. And I miss that caring and care-giving. yeap, I am sick and want my P tonight.
Erin72, …don’t go, we’ve already had so many losses.
erin1972
GettingIT-I know how you feel and I’m sorry you’re sick. Mine took such good care of me when I was sick. We took care of each other. Mine was a doctor. He would show up with enough groceries for a week and drinks and medicine. Everything I could possibly need he brought for me. He would come over after work and let himself in with his key and bring me more stuff and lay in bed with me and hold me until I fell asleep. He didn’t even care that he could’ve gotten sick from me. We were sick together last winter. He gave it to me and we kept passing it back and forth. When he was on call and sick I would bring him what he needed and dinner and medicine. I miss him the most when I’m sick too. It is really hard. I was missing him this weekend because I was hormonal and I saw a love scene on TV. I can’t watch sex scenes on TV and movies cuz it makes me cry. I had a really bad day yesterday. I am really really sorry that you’re sick AND missing him and I hope you feel better-it sucks!
southernman429
Learning…
thank you..I have copied your response to my post and will keep it with my collection of inspiring thoughts and quotes….your message really touched me and I will take your heartfelt and beautiful advice to heart…
Blessings to you..
~Rick
Southernman
learning
Southernman Rick –
(( hugs)) to you on your continued healing journey. While I have not walked in your shoes, I have walked along the challenging path you described above. I could relate to your words and am glad you found inspiration in mine.
ps. As my 9 year old son would say … Your Myspace page Rocks! 🙂 Thanks for sharing.