Lovefraud frequently hears from readers who have been discarded by sociopaths, but still feel like they’re in love with them, and can’t get them out of their minds. We frequently tell these readers that sociopathic relationships are very much like addictions.
Now, there’s proof. A recent study found that “the pain anguish of rejection by a romantic partner may be the result of activity in parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward and addiction cravings,” according to Science Daily.
Read Romantic rejection stimulates areas of brain involved with motivation, reward and addiction on sciencedaily.com.
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ErinBrock
Fill er up baby!!!! And hang on there buckerooess!
YEEEEEHHHHAAAWWWWWWWWWWWW~
erin1972
thanks Shana!
one/joy_step_at_a_time
hens 🙂
nope, not a skillet in sight.
i cut off contact with everyone who went through that same con hens an di suspect they are the only ones who I could really talk to about it. but i won’t trust them – i don’t know what hold she has on any of them, or that they wouldn’t blat something out that exposes me.
i got it contained, and this is important and necessary but what you said is absolutely true – ‘Your spaths incessant attempts to alter your perception of reality makes it even more difficult to access and deal with. ‘ now, i can’t get at it.
the shrink doesn’t do any talk therapy. so i need to find another way. maybe i could write it all out for lf. don’t know – just know i need to say it. i kinda feel like its taking up a lot of space and distorting me. maybe the neurofeedback will help. she says she has had really good success with using it on PTSD.
i had some organic beef for the second time in a week tonight! damn, i like having enough money to buy food. i can’t tell you HOW sick i am of canned fish.
my story….makes me incredibly sad.
tobehappy
Onestep…
My g/f /neighbor just went through a divorce with a very mentally ill abusive man.
She told me last night, that she went to EDMR therapy because she had so much anxiety about dealing with him…(they have 3 kids together).
She said it worked SO well!!!
She is so calm when thinking or dealing with him.
Food for thought. ….
one/joy_step_at_a_time
tobe – i have used EMDR in the past. it really helped. i haven’t searched it out here as i had no money. but if the nuerofeedback doesn’t work i will see if htere is a practitioner here.
tobehappy
One Step….
I am volunteering at a domestic violence shelter where I went for therapy…in “group therapy” groups. My therapist asked me to help out because she felt that I have a lot to offer. It is very rewarding, and several of the women there have done the neurofeedback therapy and they loved it and said it made a world of difference. Groups also help. I was attending the groups last year and now I am “giving back”. We had a meditation workshop that really helped everyone too.
I have to say that the women in the group have really learned a lot from each other and the support is wonderful. Every one of them went through sessions of therapy at the center prior to be places in a group. ( I did also).
My therapist has been encouraging me to go back to school and finish my Master’s Degree in counselling. The things I’ve learned about pathological disorder’s have helped me to help others. Several of the women have even called me at home to talk to. It’s been a wonderful experience. I took a negative experience in my life and I am turning into a positive one.
It’s so amazing how many women, including myself, were so unaware of the red flags until it was too late. It’s so important to educate our young people today. Maybe this is my mission….it is so rewarding and has helped me heal from the damage I had from my childhood and exhusband.
Sometimes when we get out of ourselves and give to others…it helps US.
one/joy_step_at_a_time
tobe – i am really happy to hear what a positive and healing – and moving forward – experience this is for you.
i have looked around for group settings – not much here. I had tried to find one for PTSD and there aren’t any. i am not interested in what is available – namely, groups for people with mental illness. I know enough about various mental illnesses to know i couldn’t sit in a room with people with a broad spectrum of mental illnesses and heal.
i wouldn’t be comfortable in a dv group – it’s not my experience…but i don’t think there is a group for ‘lesbians who fell for kinky boys who faked lived and fake died.’ just being a lesbian in most women’s groups whe it comes to relationships, can be a challenge. not sure what Is going to fit. still looking. will keep looking.
tobehappy
ONestep….Good for you. We are NOT supposed to go through this alone. We need support. I kept seeking help and finally found this center a year ago…and I wouldn’t be where I am without the guiding light of this place. I have seen so much improvement in women who started when I did too. The place is awesome..and there is always someone there to help.
Make some calls and you will find the help you need. There are many places that work on a sliding scale. Good Luck in finding one! Don’t give up!
hens
onestep your story would make a great episode on the twilight zone……
ErinBrock
Pull up a chair and pour the coffee……NO CREAM PLEASE….sugar only.