Lovefraud frequently hears from readers who have been discarded by sociopaths, but still feel like they’re in love with them, and can’t get them out of their minds. We frequently tell these readers that sociopathic relationships are very much like addictions.
Now, there’s proof. A recent study found that “the pain anguish of rejection by a romantic partner may be the result of activity in parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward and addiction cravings,” according to Science Daily.
Read Romantic rejection stimulates areas of brain involved with motivation, reward and addiction on sciencedaily.com.
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rattlesnakebrain
my psychocrap got carted off to prison 4 weeks ago after he smashed his way into my house,i cant say i miss him,but i miss the chance to take revenge,im soooo angry,mostly with him but a little bit at myself as this is my 2nd psychocrap,i KNEW what he was ,but ignored it!
what is really scary is i seem to share so many of his traits,except i love and care about those close to me,anyone else feel this need to hurt??
Ox Drover
Dear Brain,
Welcome to Lovefraud! Read and read and learn and learn, about them and about yourself…yes, many of us have been victimized more than once (me!) because I didn’t learn the first time what caused the problem….now I know. Knowledge is power! Take back your power.
This is a wonderful site to give you insight and support. Glad you are here. Welcome! God Bless.
bulletproof
paralyzed82….. I know. I was torn apart by jealousy too. I kept thinking I was just wrong for him…. he needed a prettier, more entertaining, happier female than me…I just didn’t quite make the grade…stupid me…I wish I was prettier….blah blah blah
he had a girlfriend within a week (I fully believe now…. he had her in reserve just in case) He was so proud of her he wanted to send me a photo of her….this is how cruel my P was to me…he thought nothing of it after promising me fidelity whateevvver….he made a laughing stock of me, and had a scoop of MY money, and had a car I loaned him money for…never to get it back…..degrading, humiliating, sickening…No it wasnt happy ever after with her, he attempted to tell me about it but I blocked him…next I heard he was dating anything and everything he could get his hands on…but none of them stayed…he tried to MARRY one of em because she had her own business and that’s what he was after…her money…he does not have a heart…so don’t think he is going to end up happy ever after…how could he??? the way he treated you is an indication of what type of man he really is.
Stay confused…it IS so really confusing…and you may or may not be able to work it through…you need to make a huge effort to take control…on your own terms, in your own unique way….x
paralyzed82
thank you, Bulletproof…
I am sure I will get there in time..for now, I am just living. I can’t eat, can’t sleep..and just seem to have no motivation. Everything is an effort, to shower, get dressed, return a friends phone call..I am so angry with ymself..that I can let someone have this much power and control over me that I can’t function..but I just have no desire. I just want to cry, remuniate and repeat.
bulletproof
rattlesnake….yes of course…need to get revenge…always a topic here…just keep sharing what you are thinking…get it OUT so that it is not going back in and poisoning YOU…you need to get him out of you…and find a way that hits the spot for you…welcome
Ox Drover
Dear Paralyzed,
Of course you feel that way! IT would not be “normal” if you didn’t feel depressed (all the symptoms you mentioned are symptoms of depression) and down. I can’t remember how long you have been out of the relationship, but give it TIME….it will not get better FAST. I wish I could tell you it would.
Google “Elizabeth Kubler-Ross” and her explaination of the grief process, because that is what we are all going through at first. GRIEF at the “loss” of what we think is a relationship. (It is a half relationship, WE loved, but they didn’t)
It is an up and down, roller coaster, ride to healing, but that is the normal course of healing. IT WILL get better. (((Hugs)))) and God bless.
rattlesnakebrain
locking the f…ers up is a good place for them and us.im pleased that it only took 18 months before i saw thru him as opposed to 7 years last time.
therapy helps i go 2x a week.
think he choose the wrong victim this time.
i want him to bleed
paralyzed82
thanks, OxDriver…
yes, I think I am very much depressed..and I will definately google Elizabeth…
It has only been 11 days or so since I have had contact with him..he had told me that there were no other women in his life, I was the only woman in his life and that he is not stable to be a bf to anyone right now. He told me to give him time and space. He told me that I was his best friend but just does not love me as in “in love with me” but expects me to house him, and give him money..uggggh I really hate this feeling that I have right now. I feel so helpless.
Ox Drover
Dear Brain,
Glad you are going to therapy, just make sure your therapist understands about psychopaths and why this “break up” is worse than a “normal” one—-some professionals don’t understand at all. Unfortunately.
There are wonderful articles in the archives…read as many as you can absorb. You’re on the right road, so just keep on walking toward the light.
Glad you were able to put his butt in prison—unfortunately, most of them are not in prison, and even if they do go, they get out. ((((Hugs)))) and God bless.
Ox Drover
Dear paralyzed,
If you are still supporting him, CUT HIM OFF, kick him out! You are not required or expected to support anyone except yourself. Write that 500 times and turn in at the end of the day! LOL
Do not give him a “second chance” or fall for the pity play, tell him to leave or call the cops! No grace period, GET THE FARK OUT OF MY HOUSE! NOW!!!!
Good luck and God bless! (((Hugs))))