Lovefraud frequently hears from readers who have been discarded by sociopaths, but still feel like they’re in love with them, and can’t get them out of their minds. We frequently tell these readers that sociopathic relationships are very much like addictions.
Now, there’s proof. A recent study found that “the pain anguish of rejection by a romantic partner may be the result of activity in parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward and addiction cravings,” according to Science Daily.
Read Romantic rejection stimulates areas of brain involved with motivation, reward and addiction on sciencedaily.com.
Link submitted by a Lovefraud reader.
Henry, Henry, Henry … I thought we were your huckleberries?
You’re just too cute for your own self there Henry.
Hi ya’ll-just got home from work and I’m on call all night and have to be in again at 07:00.
Oxy-I am with you about the computer thing and it kept me awake last night. I am going to have to talk to some of my cop friends on my social network page to get opinions. My biggest problem in all this is that I’m very worried about how this could affect me getting my police job back. I WILL NOT lose that. I know that as a future LEO it would be natural for me to report it cuz that’s my career. At the same time, they make a big deal out of people having legal issues going on and getting hired. The future cop in me is screaming at me to report it but the coworker who was violated tells everyone at work all her business and I doubt it would phase her. She would probably say “who cares” if she found out.
Hi E1972, hope you get a good nights sleep tonight!
I’m glad you have some cop friends to talk to…
and get their opinions!!!! sweet dreams!
Hopefully you’re already asleep! :0
Hi shabby-I’m still awake and thank you. I just hope this beeper doesn’t go off. I cannot take going back down there tonight. I am SO unhappy with this job right now.
THey have sunk to a new low. We get a monthly bonus for taking all this call work because it seriously intereferes with your life. I only end up getting half the money after taxes are taken out. Usually on the second payperiod of the month we get two checks-one for our regular salary and the other for the bonus. This pay period they changed it without telling anyone and put the bonus on the regular paycheck with the salary. It kicked me into a higher tax bracket and now Uncle Sam took my ENTIRE bonus!!
That money was supposed to be untouched and put in savings until I can get my police job back after the 1st of the year. I was planning to save it until I start the academy so that I would have a cushion to take this huge paycut for the job. I’m so mad but the government takes ENOUGH of my money so they can give stimulus checks to people who don’t even work and pay for programs that I don’t support! Nancy Pelosi is NOT getting any more of my money to spend willy nilly as she chooses!!!
E1972, Unbelievable!!!! The entire bonus, that sucks!!! I don’t suppose it would do any good to ask them to switch it back the other way in the future, what would be the incentive to take the call work??? None!!! Zip!! Nada!!!
Dear E72,
Well, you will either get it back with your tax refund, OR it will keep you from having to pay extra, though, so it isn’t “lost” after all, even though you don’t have it in your hands right now, if that is any consolation. I hope that gives you some satisfaction at best. (((hugs))))
addicted to the sociopaths… I was addicted to a sociopath for 16 years. I could write a book but all your stories here are so similar to mine. Every word he spoke was a lie and I started blocking his words from going into my brain. What I want to tell you is that if you look at your spaths picture you will see the evil blank eyes. I have LF to thank for the knowledge that no contact is key to my success. Have any of you told your ex that you know he is a sociopath that you need to delete from your life? Or would that be a mistake to do? Thanks and Just curious, Sue
Frost, the knowledge we are learning about the sociopath is information that should empower the victim(s) only. I don’t see the point in empowering “them” with the knowledge we learn(ed) that uncovers what their true self (or non self) is all about! My belief is “you never tell an ash hole, they are an ash hole! Why? Because they are an ash hole!
What they don’t know what we are learning, won’t come back and hurt us. Better safe, than sorry.
Peace.
and that is why I am here… your answer rocks. I forgot the spath cant be helped and will only use information to serve himself. Thanks Wini
Dear Sue,
I totally agree with Wini. The reason they can’t be “helped” is that they think they are just FINE so no matter what you tell them, it doesn’t mean anything to them. The ONLY opinion that counts to them is theirs.
NC is the only thing that they do “understand” and most of the time they do NOT like it, because it means that they no longer control you, YOU CONTROL YOU. And you deny them access to your mind, heart, etc. Even if they don’t want you, they still want to control you. After all, they deserve anything they want. Ask them if you don’t believe me. Without contact they can’t suck you back in, they can’t pull your strings.
Plus, being NC is giving ourselves absolute control of OUR SELF. That is important too because in the past we have RE-acted to them. Now we refuse to RESPOND to them. WE are in charge of US. That is a powerful feeling when you think about it!
We are taking back our power, our control, our LIVES! WE ARE POWERFUL because we ARE and we CAN BE and we WILL BE!!!!
Keep on reading articles here, look over the books in the bookstore and LEARN all you can about the psychopaths, and also about yourself! Wini is right, Knowledge is power and the more we know the stronger we become. Be kind and good to yourself and relax inside your head. Healing takes time but it is a wonderful journey! Take your time and enjoy the scenery!!! (((Hugs)))))