10 Reasons why sociopaths really are losers

Pimp con man 200x300If you’re struggling to get over an encounter with a sociopath whether a romantic relationship or some other involvement keep this in mind: They are losers.

They are not worth any emotional energy that you are spending on them, or any pain that you feel. Here’s 10 reasons why:

 1 Sociopaths cannot love the way you do

The root of serious personality disorders antisocial, narcissistic, borderline and psychopathy is an impaired ability to love. These people cannot feel empathy like you do. They are not interested in caregiving — a critical component of real love. People diagnosed as antisocials or  psychopaths are not capable of love at all.

2. Sociopaths cannot be trusted

What do sociopaths really want in life? Power and control. Their objective is always to win — whatever that may look like at the moment. So they always have an ulterior motive, and for that reason, can never be trusted.

3. Sociopaths are empty inside

They have no real passion. Oh, they may have temporary obsessions, but they do not care deeply about any person, thing, place or ideal. Without any real depth, they are caricatures of human beings, cardboard cut-outs, creatures without substance.

4. Sociopaths have no real friends

They have minions. They have co-conspirators. They have dupes. But because of items 1, 2 and 3 above, sociopaths do not have friends. They really are alone in the world. It’s sad.

5. Sociopaths have no real family

Yes, they have parents, spouses, children and relatives (possibly including you), but no one involved will feel a sense of family. The sociopath will just take advantage of relatives, and any relatives who are not themselves disordered will feel abused.

6. Sociopaths’ schemes fall apart

They’re always coming up with get-rich-quick schemes, grandiose plans that depend on other people’s money. Sometimes the plans never get off the ground. Sometimes they get started, and then sputter to a halt. Sooner or later, sociopathic schemes usually fail.

7. Sociopaths have financial problems

Even when they have a job or profession, they often have financial problems. They get fired. They lose contracts. They get sued. But often when there’s a money crisis, other people pay, not them.

8. Sociopaths have legal problems

Many sociopaths are criminals. In fact the definitions of antisocial personality disorder and psychopathy refer to criminal behavior. But even those who aren’t arrested for crimes are frequently involved lawsuits, divorces and child custody battles. None of this really bothers the sociopaths, but it will bother you.

9. Sociopaths crash and burn

Sociopaths may race along for awhile, living on the edge — maybe even for years. But at some point, their unconscionable behavior tends to catch up with them. Their financial empires collapse. They end up estranged from everyone in their lives. They may finally be arrested. Sooner or later, for many sociopaths, it all falls apart.

10. Sociopaths tend to die earlier

Promiscuous sex, drugs, crime, violence — this is how many sociopaths live. Whether it’s health problems, accidents from risky behavior or angering the wrong person, many sociopaths end up dead. And those who don’t may suffer a lonely old age. If anyone takes care of them, it’s because of a sense of duty, although I don’t think it’s warranted.

If you’re struggling to break the bonds you feel with a sociopath, refer to this list. Really, they are not worth the aggravation.

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I came here looking for some advice about my physically abusive and very likely sociopath ex gf. There’s a lot of horror stories on here. But one thing strikes me, and there doesn’t appear to be an iota of empathy or compassion for these people. And yes they are people. It’s probably not possible, but if there was a way I’d love for my ex to be able to get better, although I wouldn’t go within a mile of her after the things she’s done. Nobody would willingly choose to be like that. Well, Hitler maybe. It’s not her fault her wiring is all fucked up. Your particular sociopaths had a reason for being bastards, what’s your excuse for being shitty people?

I’m super confused by your misguided take on this, evilwayz. If you are using this site to educate and empower yourself regarding your entanglement with a sociopath, then it is bizarre (to me) that you are insulting those who have reached out and shared their experiences. Re-read the stories. Each and every person who has shared with you and countless others have endured extensive abuse and exploitation which is consistently underpinned and perpetuated by the victim’s love and empathy for the sociopath. The fact that we are not shitty people is their hook.

evilwayz People are targets for psychopaths because they have hyperempathy. Therapist Sandra Brown explains this in her book ‘Women Who Love Psychopaths- Inside the Relationship of Inevitable Harm’. People who are involved with psychopaths are advised to go No Contact.

This post by this ‘evilwayz’ does not sound real nor plausible. At all.

This person is merely trolling and projecting.

This does not work here.

(Don’t dignify this crap with any more responses. That is what this person wants).

Bev, I agree with you 100%.

I like number 9.

I have to disagree with Orion,
(oops his comment was 3 months ago, sorry I’m new to blogging I should’ve replied directly to his comment)
But, how I feel also applies to evilwayz.

I was constantly experiencing number 6 with my N.
We had a successful business that was making more than we needed to run it, we could have set ourselves up for the rest of our lives, but there was never enough for him. He used it as his own personal bank account, spent each months income before it came in, borrowed to cover debts then blamed the business for not making enough. He’d come up with schemes behind my back to make more money and borrow that money from less than reputable people at rediculous interest rates to set those schemes up (7). In fact the twisted mess he created, and still does, also incorporates 8. Just because he’s never been caught means nothing, he’s still a criminal (8). He’s had to start again so many times, establishing new dupes to strip of their money (me being one, and I’d been with him for 17 years, and that was 17 years too long! I only just finally broke free of the addiction, fear and manipulation). I’m currently taking him to court. I have walked away discarded & devastated so many times, having to start from scratch, finding a job & somewhere to live, only to be hoovered back. This time I refuse to walk away. I’m the only one in his entire life that’s fought back. I may end up with nothing, I accept that. He’s arrogance has left too many trails, he can’t escape the inevitable, & when we go to trial the minimum result for him will be that he ends up stripped of all his precious possessions, along with being banned from ever running a business again, or his worst nightmare will come true, he’ll end up in jail. Either way, this time it will be his life that falls apart (9).

I wanted to add this & thought I shouldn’t. I changed my mind, it’s what my guts telling me.

What I’ve experienced won’t matter to you Orion, I know that, you are obvious. It’s obvious that you aren’t here to share, care or heal.

It’s obvious what you are.

I like ‘Sociopaths crash and burn’.

mine died of a heroine overdose, pretty sure he’s burning in hell now

They cannot love.

I still like they crash and burn.

angelofdarkness Jerry Sandusky’s schemes definitely did fall apart when he was convicted.

@Sunnygal Don’t know who that is. American celebrity?

Angel, if you’re not familiar with the Penn State child sex abuse scandal, Wikipedia has a whole article on this malefactor. Just click it:

Jerry Sandusky

In a nutshell, it says:

Gerald Arthur “Jerry” Sandusky (born January 26, 1944) is an American convicted serial rapist, child molester, and retired college football coach.

Boy, how’s that for an anticlimax at the end of that sentence!

Sandra Brown says some psychopaths are financially successful and then there is the evil twin the parasite.

Many are arrested for crimes.


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