If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.
1. Charisma and charm. They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting.
2. Enormous ego. They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.
3. Overly attentive. They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and friends.
4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.
5. Blame others. Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.
6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth.
7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.
8. Move fast. They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.
9. Pity play. They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.
10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.
For more on this topic, see Donna Andersen’s book, Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath.
Stargazer
Milo, you gave that Erol dude money? *face palm* Or are you just goofing with us? You know me, I take everything literally. LOL
If you did give him money, you need to call the credit card company and have them watch out for miscellaneous charges. Also, in general, if you send someone money on the internet with a credit card, ALWAYS make sure in the browser, it says: https. The “s” is very important. It means it’s a secure site. If anyone wants to go back and click on the donation page, they can see if it says “https”. If it doesn’t, then Milo, I’d recommend canceling your credit card and having another one reissued.
Though I think he was definitely disordered, it bothers me to hear him being called an “it”. Seems unnecessarily cruel and derogatory to me in this case.
MiLo
Oh Star ~ I was just goofing with Henry. I never let go of my money. Thanks for thinking of me and the info was helpful. I am always worried when I do credit card anything on the internet, I just picture my information floating around in cyber space.
Sorry, I was guilty of calling him an “it” also and that was cruel and unnecessary. I think there were a lot of mental issues going on with him and that isn’t something that should ever be made fun of. Thank you for keeping me grounded to that sort of thing. You indeed have a kind spirit.
Stargazer
Milo, you don’t need to apologize to me for anything. We all have our ways of doing things. I’m SO glad you were just kidding about the money!
MiLo
Star ~ I actually was more making a mental note to myself, I need to be more compassionate. I’ve lost that along the way sometimes and I was glad you spoke up. That is not the way I do things.
MoonDancer
Stargazer is one of the most compassionate people on the blog, she is good to everybody.
Stargazer
Awww Henry. You just made me cry a little. It takes a compassionate person to know one. There are actually a few people here who think I’m a sociopath.
MoonDancer
I have a few that think I am one as well, sometimes I think I might be but my heart breaks to often to be one.
Star I dont always agree with you but have always thot you were a compassionate good person.
Stargazer
I admit I have an inner spath that I can access when I have to. 🙂
Libragirl72
I am so mad and hurt right now! I just spent 12 hours playing nurse to 30 senior citizens and was looking forward to my nightly call from ‘him’, when the phone rang as I was getting my dinner together:
Spath:What’d you do today?
Me: I’m just getting in from working a 12 hour shift. The girl on call has a virus so I got stuck working a lot longer than I wanted to.
Spath: Oh. Well, they (his job) want me to come in early Tues. to do some classes. Can you pick me up?
Me: Wow. Tues? Idk. .Tues is kinda bad..what time do you think it will be? (I was caught off guard because he was supposed to be gone for 7 days)
Spath: If you don’t come get me, ill have no way home. Fine. Bye.
And, he hung up in the middle of this discussion. I had not even definitely said NO that I couldn’t Pick him up. I was merely discussing my thoughts out loud.
Spath text: You better never need shit
Me: Why???? Because I’m trying to talk to you about this and you hung up after 3 seconds. Totally unfair. Call me back.
Spath text: Nope. F*** this
And, he hasn’t called me back. I hate this emotional BS. I deserved a conversation. So sick of the games he plays.
Libragirl72
Oh, and I forgot the best part.
Spath text: Go keep up with your new man
Me: Stop that BS
You all know as well as I do, we as partners, tend to be very loyal so of course there is no other man! Makes my blood boil!