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New Jersey sex trafficking victim recovers her life

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To say that the 38-year-old woman, identified as "M.S." in Atlantic County court documents, had a hard life is a profound understatement. Her father was murdered by a serial killer. Her abusive mother abandoned her. A boyfriend got her hooked on heroin. Then another man promised to help her get her son back, but forced her into prostitution. M.S. eventually escaped, and helped put the trafficker in prison. Under a New Jersey law to help victims of sex trafficking, she just had her criminal record expunged. It's an unbelievable story, and evidence that no matter how bad things are, recovery is possible. Atlantic County sex charges expunged for human-trafficking victim, on …

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BOOK REVIEW: The Wise Lesbian’s Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships

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Exploiters are everywhere. Personality disordered individuals can be found in all demographic groups male, female, rich, poor, all races, all religions, all nationalities and all sexual orientations. Amber Ault, Ph.D. is s clinical sociologist and a psychotherapist, and also a member of the Lovefraud Continuing Education team. She's written a book called The Wise Lesbian's Guide to Getting Free from Crazy-Making Relationships and Getting On with Your Life. Reading the book, I was struck by how much exploitative behavior is the same, no matter what community is involved. There are some dimensions to the experience of becoming involved with a sociopath that are specific to the gay community, …

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Let’s Talk Financials with a Sociopath – Part 3 of 5

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Part of a Now 5 Week Series: Week 1:  Running a Business with a Sociopath Week 2:  The Downfall of a Business with a Sociopath Week 3: Preparing for Divorce Week 4: Divorce and Aftermath Part A Week 5:  Divorce and Aftermath Part B Preparing for a Divorce  Out of Denial Now this is where it really gets ugly.  I am going to try and attempt to only highlight the business details of the story, not sure if it's fortunate or not, but I think I will have enough juice to make a full short story of this. I went to the doctor on a Tuesday and had spath watch the little one.  On my way home, I decided it would be nice to stop by the office to bring some candy to my office manager, the new admin …

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Advice for Protecting Elderly Relatives from Sociopaths and Gold Diggers

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Editor's Note: Yesterday, Lovefraud posted a story from a reader whom we'll call "Maura." She describes how a female sociopath latched on to her recently widowed father, took over his life, and tried to hasten his demise. Read the story. Following are tips that Maura and her family learned the hard way. Our Advice On How to Protect An Elderly Relative This is our advice based on our experience to best protect an elderly relative should they marry a sociopath or a gold digger: 1. Immediately hire a private investigator to do a background check on  the new spouse. Verify marriage status, divorce and marriage history, career history, credit history, bankruptcy, ancestry, court records, pre …

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Psychiatrist explains how prison employee may have been “groomed” to help inmates escape

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In an interview on CNN today, Forensic Psychiatrist Dr. Michael Welner spoke of the female prison employee, Joyce Mitchell, who is alleged to have helped the two New York inmates escape. Lovefraud readers might find healing in what he had to say. He said that there may not be any particular vulnerability in a victim of what he terms “emotional hacking.” He states the greatest risk factors are “access and time.” “We need to appreciate the vulnerability with prison employees the way we do our children with pedophiles,”  Welner says. He points out that, “We all see what we need to see in other people.” Prison workers need to regard the humanity of inmates, he says, and this regard makes them v …

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A Female Sociopath’s Euthanasia Mission

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Editor's Note: This story was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call "Maura." To me dying in old age should be a serene peaceful experience. A time when one is surrounded and supported by loving family members and friends. However, when a sociopath spouse is entered into the mix those normal expectations can be thrown straight out the window. The sociopath will hijack the situation and you will be constantly blindsided. The sociopath will be relentlessness in preventing family and friends from being at the bedside. Instead of focusing your time and energy on the patient, it will be continually diverted to dealing with the sociopath's latest havoc. Grieving, widowed dad meets and ma …

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Tom Guida, aka Tom Gatto – fake psychologist, fake Special Forces, fake brain cancer patient – is charged with bigamy

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By Donna Andersen Thomas A. Guida, 52, of Toms River, New Jersey, arrived in court on May 29, 2015 to face a charge of bigamy filed by one of his wives. Mrs. Guida signed a complaint against him on February 18, 2015, after receiving Facebook messages about another woman he is married to, a woman he was engaged to, and a woman he was cheating with. Each woman believed she was in an exclusive relationship with Tom Guida, planning a future with a true American hero. They were all wrong. Tom told all the women that he was a Ph.D. psychotherapist who specialized in traumatic stress and bereavement counseling, going into dangerous situations as a first responder. In reality, he is not licensed for …

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I was played and my whole marriage was a giant lie

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Editor's note: This Spath Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name Devin. I believe my soon to be ex is a sociopath. I am wife number four, and still the problem is me. I have learned so much about narcissists since the big discard at a Chik-Fil-A almost two years ago.Yeah, I was THAT important. Told I would be divorced while whoever he was with was hiding in the bathroom. So glad I don't live like that anymore! I am going to speak about Christian sociopaths. He was a bible theology major and an ordained minister that I met at church. How could I lose? I thought I hit the jackpot. He was kind, attentive, loving. etc. Thought he loved the Lord. When we started dating, …

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Let’s Talk Financials with a Sociopath: The Downfall (Part 2 of 4)

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Part of a 4 Week Series: Week 1:  Running a Business with a Sociopath Week 2:  The Downfall of a Business with a Sociopath Week 3: Preparing for Divorce Week 4:  Divorce and Aftermath The Downfall of a Business with a Sociopath In 2009 we decided to buy another house to give us more space to store our tools, equipment, etc because we had grown out of our office and storage space.  I was still running the business out of our home to try and save money.  Also in a strange way I knew that as soon as we moved the business to an external location outside of our home, I would lose all accountability with the sociopath and he would go rampant with himself.  He was and had been using gas lighting tac …

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Why I Wrote “God Has Failed Me”

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By K.M. Lessing I see many books and horror stories written by women who were the victims of psychopaths. They go on and on detailing all the pain and suffering they endured. And they leave out one vital detail: his name. So he goes on to the next victim and the next and the next. I ask you: why must we be so careful to protect men who are predators? Why must we take every precaution to make sure these dangerous men stay safe—safe to con the next woman, safe to destroy the next mind, safe to play his sadistic games”¦until the end of his life? When I wrote my books, I decided NO WAY. I decided I would not protect the man who destroyed me emotionally. So I published his REAL name and REAL pict …

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