Archive for May, 2018

By being open to new ideas, I found a way to calm my overprotective brain

By Eleanor Cowan

As a 10-year-old kid in a large, rigid Roman Catholic family, I had it all figured out. I knew which way was up. There were no unknowns in my understanding. My future happiness was guaranteed if only I could do as required. Still, my stability teetered back and forth, depending on my ability to conform.

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Donna Andersen makes the cover of ‘Chat It’s Fate’

If you’ve read my book, Love Fraud — How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, you know that my experience with a sociopath has an important spiritual dimension.

Through my journey, I learned that I’d known my ex-husband, James Montgomery, during multiple lifetimes over multiple centuries, and every time he was evil. This person beat me, raped me, and lead me to be killed.

Now, my story is being featured in the UK publication, Chat it’s fate.  In fact, I’m on the cover with the headline:

BETRAYED by my dream man for CENTURIES
But it was my destiny

You gotta love the British tabloids.

School shootings: Understanding patterns is great, but doesn’t prevent murder

Dimitrios Pagourtzis confessed to the shooting in the Santa Fe high school. (Galveston County Sheriff’s Office)

Another school shooting — in Santa Fe, Texas. Ten dead — eight students and two teachers — and 13 wounded.

This one wasn’t like the Parkland, Florida shooting, where everyone knew that the perpetrator, Nikolas Cruz, had serious psychological problems. No, this time, when 17-year-old Dimitrios Pagourtzis opened fire, people were shocked.

There was only one mention of a possible motive mentioned so far. One of the students killed was Shana Fisher, 16. Shana’s mother, Sadie Rodriguez, said that for four months, Pagourtzis kept making advances on her, and she kept refusing. According to the Los Angeles Times,

Posted in: Cases, Donna Andersen

A sociopath claims, ‘We are evolution’s next step’

Do sociopaths know what they are? Many, many Lovefraud readers ask me this question. The short answer is that some of them do and some of them don’t.

The man who sent me the following email certainly has insight into his own personality:

Parental Alienation: What you need to know and how to fight back

Battling Parental Alienation: What to do when your ex convinces your children to hate you
Wednesday, May 30, 2018
8-9 pm ET • $25

Susan Shofer always had a great relationship with her two children. But as she was going through her divorce, one of her children started to hate her — for no reason at all.

At first, Susan was totally confused. “My child didn’t want to be with me,” she says. “And the reasons were miniscule.” But after doing research, she realized that her kids were being subjected to parental alienation.

Martin Larney kills his girlfriend over the outfit she was wearing

Martin Larney (Phoenix Sheriff’s Office)

Martin Larney, 22, of Arizona didn’t like the outfit his girlfriend, Alina Duwyenie, also 22, was wearing. So he shot her in the left eye. At the hospital, the young woman was pronounced dead.

Larney told three different stories about the incident, finally admitting he shot his girlfriend. It wasn’t his first domestic violence incident.

Jealous boyfriend ‘fatally shoots his girlfriend in the EYE after becoming upset over the outfit she was wearing,’ on DailyMail.co.uk.


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Book Review: ‘Miracle in the Madness:’ All real therapy is release from the past

The Miracle in the Madness — Grateful to be the son of a murderer, by Travis Vining

Review by Donna Andersen

The following article refers to spiritual concepts. Please read Lovefraud’s statement on Spiritual Recovery.

Travis Vining is the son of a sociopathic serial killer. His father, John Bruce Vining, killed four people, and coerced Travis, as a young man, into helping him escape prosecution.

How does anyone cope with that?

What do we do when sociopaths experience no consequences?

Lovefraud received the following email from a reader who posts as “Salvation2012.”

Thank you for helping me decide when I needed to cut my losses during my divorce. I did cut my “losses,” yet the total I received tallied up to a number similar, just not in all cash. Because I settled in his eyes, he told everyone I was just proving how I was the guilty one and didn’t want to risk being exposed. To the end he will deny permanently injuring me and bleeding me of money, and cheating on me (which I only later found out about the extent).

Mary Ann Glynn, LCSW, to host free call-in support group 5/20/18 at 5 pm EST

  Experience the support of people who know!  Join our free support group Sunday, May 20, 2018 at 5 pm EST.  Go to  www.destructiverelationshipshelp.com and use the Contact Form at the bottom of the home page to state your interest in joining.  Do this every time even if you have joined us before!  We will reply to you with instructions to join the conference call.  It is anonymous and no personal information is displayed or shared.

Share your struggles, questions, get feedback and clarity from people who get it!  Hope to meet you there!

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New Yorker story paints NY Attorney General Eric Schneiderman as a complete psychopath (although they don’t say it)

All the signs are there, if you know what to look for. Physical, sexual and emotional abuse. Entitlement. Threats. Alcohol abuse. Hypocrisy. Unbelievable hubris.

New York Attorney General Eric Schneiderman cast himself as a champion of women’s rights. He filed a civil right lawsuit against Harvey Weinstein’s former company — that’s what he’s talking about in the above video. He was also leading an investigation into why the Manhattan district attorney failed to prosecute Weinstein for harassment and assault.

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