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Husband Liar Sociopath

Contempt and double standards = sociopath red flags

March 8, 2018 //  by O.N.Ward//  3 Comments

Subtle signs of a sociopath Last week, I was on a long walk when I passed an older couple walking on the sidewalk in the opposite direction. I nodded as we passed, and I honestly don’t recall receiving any acknowledgement. They clearly seemed “together,” yet the way they were walking signaled something was very wrong. Briefly, I had a sense of knowing. “I bet he’s a sociopath," I thought. You see, although they were on a walk “together” he was walking about ten feet in front of her, and had been ever since I spotted them walking toward me. That simple act communicates a lot—none of it good, as it signals an underlying lack of respect. Why are so few of us warned about sociopaths? …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath, Seduced by a sociopath

The Atlantic tells the story of serial con man Derek Alldred and his multiple romance scams

March 7, 2018 //  by Donna Andersen//  Leave a Comment

For several years, Lovefraud posted articles about Derek Alldred, a con man who scammed women in Minnesota, Texas and other states. He posed as a war hero, physician, investment banker and more, scamming about a dozen women out of more than $1 million. The creep is finally in jail. And The Atlantic has written a comprehensive story of his exploits — and how his victims banded together to stop him. The perfect man who wasn't, on TheAtlantic.com. My comments on the article: Not once did the author mention any personality disorder. She made the statement that "America loves a con man." Because Alldred impersonated a Navy SEAL, he was investigated by NCIS. That's the first time I …

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Category: Media sociopaths

How could such a wonderful young man turn into an evil sociopath?

March 5, 2018 //  by Donna Andersen//  1 Comment

Editors note: Here's a letter Lovefraud received from a reader whom we'll call "Charlotte18." Donna Andersen's response follows the letter. About a year ago, my husband was arrested for kidnapping a couple of friends of ours. Since then, I have been discovering so many other nefarious things he was doing behind my back, such as stealing money for a living, having relations with other men, committing tax fraud, and the list goes on. As I look back on our relationship, nearly every one of the items you listed on your checklist ring true for our relationship, but I was very blind to them before his arrest, except for the gaslighting. I called him out on that about three months before his …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

Husband Liar Sociopath

Gaslight–how the movie mirrors real life

March 1, 2018 //  by O.N.Ward//  1 Comment

  Gaslight Last weekend I watched the classic movie, Gaslight. For those of us who have been in a relationship with a sociopath, it is a great reminder that we weren’t imagining things and how good these puppeteers are at what they do. We were not paranoid, or too sensitive, or unable to take a joke, or fill in the blank. We were being purposely manipulated and deceived by someone who never loved us, has no ethical rudder; and, at our expense, was using us for their personal gain. To weaken us in order to achieve those goals, the sociopath has many tools that go beyond gaslighting—making us question our own reality. Ironically, the flickering of gas lights that Paula obs …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath, Seduced by a sociopath

Sociopath exerts control by holding important people and events hostage

February 28, 2018 //  by Eleanor Cowan//  1 Comment

By Eleanor Cowan One winter’s day, busy preparing to drive to a free art lesson for my children and their young friends, my disagreement with my husband took an unwanted turn. I’d contested Stan’s view of God’s endless compassionate mercy and boundless clemency. “If that’s so true,” I asked, “What’s hell for?” My husband was a covert pedophile, although I didn't know it at the time. Molesting our young daughter and ridiculing our son at every opportunity, while I was at safely at work, Stan never took responsibility for an addiction he knew was morally wrong. Even though he’d molested his own siblings as a teenager, he still felt entitled to become a seminarian as a young man. Aft …

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Category: Recovery from a sociopath

To recover from the sociopath, and protect yourself from another one, work on relieving your emotional tension

February 26, 2018 //  by Donna Andersen//  4 Comments

[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/rJNFeHHGGN4"] Over the weekend Terry, my husband, and I watched The Zookeeper's Wife, a movie is set in Warsaw, Poland, during World War II. It tells the true story of how after animals at the Warsaw Zoo were bombed and shot, the couple that ran the zoo used the property to hide Jews from the Nazis until they could be transported to safety. It's a good movie, but as you can imagine, it is tense and emotional. My reaction to the film, plus the normal stress of daily life, made it difficult for me to sleep. Perhaps the connection I felt to the movie was a distant memory — if you've read my book, Love Fraud, you may remember that I describe how I learned a …

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Category: Recovery from a sociopath

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Red flags that a gold digger may have targeted your elderly parent or friend

February 24, 2018 //  by Donna Andersen//  3 Comments

Many sociopaths (although not all of them) target romantic partners to swindle them out of money. Lovefraud's research shows that most sociopaths continue their manipulative behavior as long as they live. That means senior sociopaths may target other seniors. They may proclaim their love, in order to access the victim's money, home or pension. Jean Mignolet, a private investigator in Florida, where lots of seniors live, recently posted an article about spotting the warning signs of a gold digger. Some are: Ambiguity — the con artist glosses over important information about temselves Significant age difference — especially they met online Moving too fast —rushing important life d …

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Category: Media sociopaths

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Lovefraud reader tries online dating, spots warning signs, dumps the guy

February 23, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  7 Comments

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Marjory18." When I got involved with a bad person last year I wrote in to you with my story. I have been committed to reading stories, articles etc on your Lovefraud site. All I can say is thank goodness for your site and the info you provide. I had another online date recently Signs were there.  My mama raised me right (was told to me before) Super charming Tons of compliments Lots of sexual talk (on the first date?) We seemed to have a lot in common (really? that much) Heartfelt and deep conversations (on his part) That he studied psychology (was told that before - is that …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Husband Liar Sociopath

Are you “too sensitive,” or is your partner a sociopath?

February 22, 2018 //  by O.N.Ward//  11 Comments

You're too sensitive! As I think back about my life and my unwitting marriage to a sociopath, a phrase haunts and repeats like an old-time broken record, “You’re too sensitive.” For decades, I believed that hearing this phrase should trigger self-reflection and attempts at self-improvement. If I’m “too sensitive,” the underlying assumption is that I should work to become “less sensitive.” I believed this because this is what I’d been taught as a child, and it was reinforced through my adult life by two people I loved and respected at the time—my father and my now ex-husband. Yet, now I believe that hearing this phrase repeatedly by key people in one’s life should trigger another type of …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath, Seduced by a sociopath

letter to lovefraud

How one guy’s recent girlfriends meets all of the 10 Red Flags of Love Fraud

February 21, 2018 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  1 Comment

Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Trevor18." I came across your work after I spent about two months in the craziest relationship I've ever experienced. The relationship and how it abruptly ended left me feeling confused and then I was compelled to seek answers. I just didn't know what to do. Then I stumbled upon Cluster B personality disorders and eventually I found your list of 10 signs of dating a sociopath. 1: Charisma/Charm I first met this girl at her daughter's birthday party in May of 2017. After a brief introduction, she approached me frequently during the party and it felt extremely easy to talk to her. She seemed to be …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

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