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I would rather be homeless than spend another day feeling soul-less

September 1, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  74 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024: Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call “Chelsea.”Wow, my eyes have been opened! My soul is trying to heal from the wounds I suffered being with what I now know without a doubt is a genuine SP man!My story begins on August 2005 when I walked into the restaurant and met who I thought was the most charming and compassionate man ever. I was with one of my best friends, and we began to chat when two fellows approached us and asked if we would like a drink. It seem harmless to us at the time, and we accepted their offer and began chatting with them. The first man seemed intoxicated and was acting very loud and immature. He was fli …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Media sociopaths, Seduced by a sociopath

Sociopaths and sexually explicit photos

August 26, 2024 //  by Donna Andersen//  6 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. My sociopathic ex-husband, James Montgomery, had a collection of photos of naked women. The photos were not of me.I discovered the photos one day while he wasn't home and I was looking for a phone number. I opened his desk drawer, and there they were — no faces, just pictures of certain body parts.Stunned, I threw the photos in the trash. When Montgomery came home, I confronted him."I found your photos. Who are these women?" I demanded.Montgomery was nonchalant. "They're from my past. Nothing for you to worry about.""Why do you have them?" I demanded."I look at them from time to time. It helps me stay faithful to you. Where are they?""I threw them away."At this Montgomery b …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

LETTERS TO LOVEFRAUD: Final words to the sociopath

August 25, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  43 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: Lovefraud received this e-mail from a reader who we'll call “Judith.”I hope you read this, you know who you are.I have remained silent for too long. I never used my voice to express how I felt about your actions toward me. I stayed quiet while you stalked and harassed me when I chose to cut all ties with you. I was too worried about what would happen if I spoke up. During that time, I thought no reaction from me would be best and it was. I've since changed my mind and I have determined that there is a difference between "reacting" and using my voice to heal myself.In the last few years, I've done well. I never went back or got caught up in your drama, despite …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales, Recovery from a sociopath

Spath Tales

Even though we break up, we continue to see each other

August 18, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  Leave a Comment

When I was 45 years old and fresh out of a divorce, I started an almost 3-year long distance relationship with a man that is 18 years younger than me. It was supposed to just be fun and it was until it wasn't. We met on airplane, both of us going to work. He is an officer on a tugboat and I an administrator of a private independent school. We had 30 days of getting to know each other over text, phone calls and FaceTime while he was on the boat. Once off the boat we decided to meet and we met up every time he got home the entire course of this relationship. The first year was a situationship. He led me to believe there was no one else, yet we had not defined the relationship. Three …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

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10 facts about your romance with a sociopath that you must believe, even though you don’t want to

August 12, 2024 //  by Donna Andersen//  3 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. You're shattered. You thought you finally met your soul mate, the person you were waiting for all your life. This charming, charismatic and attentive romantic partner swept you off your feet in a whirlwind romance. It was good — no, it was fabulous — until it wasn't. Now you know you had a romance with a sociopath. What does this mean? Perhaps you were subjected to the "devalue and discard" routine. Or you discovered that your partner wasn't the person he or she claimed to be. However it happened, you are heartbroken. I talk to a lot of people, both men and women, who are, or were, romantically involved with sociopaths. They're devastated, of course. But what is truly min …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

Spath Tales

My journey through NPD abuse and the fight for my children 

August 11, 2024 //  by Lovefraud Reader//  Leave a Comment

For over 15 years, I endured profound abuse at the hands of my ex-husband. His manipulation and control were pervasive, leaving me and our children in a state of constant fear and instability. When he finally left, he did so in a manner that ensured our suffering would continue. He abandoned us in a broken-down trailer, neglecting to pay rent for six months and placing a lien on our only car. With no money and no means to improve our situation, I was left with $20 in cash and the daunting task of figuring out how to survive. He took everything of value, including our tax money and all our savings, and told me to "figure it out." This was not just a financial blow but a calculated move …

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Category: Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Dan Jones explains how to protect yourself from Dark Triad manipulators

August 5, 2024 //  by Donna Andersen//  2 Comments

“The ends justify the means” — this is the basic philosophy Machiavellianism, and I heard the statement multiple times from my psychopathic ex-husband. Machiavellianism, psychopathy and narcissism are the three personality disorders of the Dark Triad, and my colleague, Dan Jones, recently gave a TEDx talk on how to spot and deal with them. Dan is a psychology researcher and associate professor of management at the University of Nevada, Reno. He specializes in the Dark Triad, particularly Machiavellianism. This is a personality trait characterized by manipulativeness, deceitfulness, high levels of self-interest, according to Psychology Today.Niccolo MachiavelliThe trait is named for …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

A mother asks: ‘What is my responsibility toward my sociopathic adult son?’

August 4, 2024 //  by Donna Andersen//  13 Comments

Updated for 2024. Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call, "Margaret Louise." She has a sociopathic adult son, and asks about her responsibilities regarding him.Please point me in the direction for good advice about recovering from heartache caused by my adult son, who is a sociopath. And, help me realize my responsibilities as his parent.Joshua is 33 years old. He has 3 children by 3 different women. While he is in the relationship with the women, I am blacklisted from contact with my grandchildren. As the relationships fall apart, and the mothers realize they’ve been duped, I can begin to have that cherished relationship with my grandchildren and fortunately w …

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Category: For parents of sociopaths

Does he sound like a full-blown narcissist and/or sociopath? Or maybe some form of borderline personality disorder?

July 29, 2024 //  by Donna Andersen//  5 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following letter from a reader whom we'll call "bonnie2017." Donna Andersen responds to her questions at the end of the letter. Names have been changed.Following my most recent life-shattering break-up 4 weeks ago, I happened upon your website, lovefraud.com, and found it extremely helpful and insightful! I first wanted to thank you for all the invaluable information you provide. I also wanted to tell you my sad story about my almost-baby-daddy and get your feedback. Maybe it can help others too.From January through May, I had been unknowingly dating what I thought was a narcissist (but recently realized he may actually …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath, Letters to Lovefraud and Spath Tales

Socipathic eyes

Can therapy help a psychopath? 3 key factors

July 22, 2024 //  by Donna Andersen//  15 Comments

UPDATED FOR 2024. The behavior of some people in your life leaves you shocked and mystified. They tell stories that don't add up, in fact, they flat out lie. They are charming one minute and hateful the next. They hurt you, seemingly on purpose, and then act like nothing happened.You come to the conclusion that something is wrong with them. They need help. They should go to therapy.The behavior I described above is typical of psychopathy and other personality disorders. So can therapy help a psychopath?I once posted a link to an extensive article published by The Atlantic called, When Your Child Is a Psychopath, by Barbara Bradley Hagerty. I invite you to read this article, to provide …

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Category: Explaining the sociopath

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