Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story by a reader whom we'll call, "Cindy21." She was with a man who manipulated and swindled her for 10 years, and she is embarrassed about falling for his lies. My story runs the course of 10 years. It involves two cancers, a motor vehicle accident, MS and much heartache. He stole my home and had me finance a business that I was 95% owner to 5% and when my daughter was critically ill and I had no money he threw me out. He said if I didn't sign a contract for $60,000 to buy me out of a home I had over $100,000 and a business that at the time was grossing 300,000, that as he put "If you don't do it you get nothing b*tch." Over the …
At 18, she saw but didn’t understand the warning signs of a sociopath
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call, "Larissa21."Â She met the socioath at 18; she saw but didn't understand the warning signs of a sociopath. I met the love of my life or so I thought the summer of 1994, my mother was suffering from breast cancer and she wanted to bring me on a trip for my senior year graduation present. She asked if I wanted to go to Ireland but I knew she wanted to see my brother in California at the time so we went - my mother was a year in battling cancer (an unknown source that only 3 percent of the population gets). She was given a year to live. On the summer night of July 5th I phoned my best friend to …
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Abused immigrant: He lures her to the U.S. and then beats her
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call "Mariana20" about her experience as an abused immigrant. English is not her first language. I met George online he 20 years older than me. He travelled to the Brazil and met me. He is a businessman and smart guy, I was in love with him. He made a lot promises. I work with him and he took care of me. We met in Brazil he bought a promise ring, and invited me to live in United States with him. I accepted. We get married After 4 months I married him because I was without green card. The day about the wedding he said for me to sign a prenup and a lot humiliation and same I signed. He didn’t marry me. He w …
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Anxious after encountering the narcissistic ex
Editor's note: Following is an email exchange that I had with a Lovefraud reader whom we'll call, "Susana21." She describes encountering the narcissistic ex, and how it affected her. Susana 21 writes: After a long and difficult relationship, I finally ended things and, even though my logic had been screaming at me to do it years sooner, it took my heart a few more years and MUCH pain before it finally caught up. I was doing No Contact and was finally starting to feel better. Finally. !! And then ... A few weeks ago, totally by coincidence, I was leaving a store and a car pulled up beside me. My narcissist. If the situation was reversed, I would have totally ignored him and kept …
Why I wrote ‘Involved with a Cad for 7 Years in the Twilight Zone’
By Darlene Nolin I wrote my new book, Involved with a Cad for 7 Years in the Twilight Zone, so that I could gain some peace while going through my journey of healing and recovering after marriage fraud and abuse. It enabled me to move forward with my life in a more positive direction. I wanted to shine a bright light on a very dark chapter in my life, instead of sweeping it under the rug. My story is an eye-opening cautionary tale exposing the devastating consequences of predatory foreign nationals who initiate internet relationships for the purpose of obtaining a green card through marriage to an American citizen. It was an ill-fated relationship marked by indifference, adversity, …
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Sociopath reveals her disorder in her email address
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "William20." He writes about the shocking and flagrant way in which a sociopath reveals her disorder, although he didn't realize it for a long time. Statements in brackets [ ] are editor's notes. I joined Lovefraud about three years ago, although I was aware of you before that, when my relationship with a covert narcissist I was engaged to for over two years ended horribly (at least for me). I thought I had recovered and in time "re-discovered" a lost love and a person who I considered to be a good friend for more than 19 years. We married last December and after I completed a full rehab and upgrade …
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My sociopathic husband wants to marry a rich widow
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader whom we'll call Elizabeth20, who writes that her sociopathic husband wants to marry a rich widow. Married to a sociopath for 9 years, split up four times and reconciled within seven months each time. Subjected to emotional, psychological, physical and financial abuse. Most recently I was manipulated into allowing another woman in his life who has a life threatening illness ( which is actually true ) because they got together during out split up, then she had a brain seizure while with him that made her completely dependent on him. We arranged to meet and talk, and agreed that he carry on living with her and being her …
The sociopath’s lies got worse and I thought it was my problem
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a Middle Eastern man, whom we'll call "Amon20," who got involved with a disordered woman. He writes about the sociopath's lies and how they affected him. This is my story. I work in China as an English interpreter. I was on vacation to visit my family in 2018 and when I was going back to China I met her in Abu Dhabi. At that time I was still lost and needed help because my Chinese wasn't good so I added her and we started talking to each other regularly we had chemistry and she was really charming. But then after I decided to move to her city and be together and we both stayed together, a lot of things really appeared — her p …
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Her husband was a sociopath, and her whole marriage was a lie
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following story from a reader who posts as Gigi2020, who says her whole marriage was a lie. Donna Andersen responds at the end of her story. Letter from Gigi20 I just recently learned that my ex husband lied to me about what I'm guessing is everything, our whole marriage was a lie. I am having a hard time comprehending that he would be able to live his charade for 8 years. I caught him in small lies our whole marriage but I would brush them off. When he drank, which was most of our relationship, but the last year and a half, the red flags were all over the place. However he had told me that he was in an explosion in Iraq, which caused a brain injury …
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I missed the red flags of a sociopath
Editor's note: Here's a letter Lovefraud received from a reader whom we'll call Irene20. She missed the red flags of a sociopath. I met my "soul mate" on a dating website called Zoosk. The first date I went out with him I found him physically attractive but he was distracted and I felt he was rude so I shortened the date and left. He then asked me out to lunch and I thought, I'll give him another chance, and that was a much better experience. It wasn't until the third date that we really connected. The third date he was charming, attentive, complimentary, and romantic. I had a little too much to drink by accident because I had gone on the date with a headache and it went straight to my …