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Abusers and their 5-step strategy to get women to drop charges

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A new study reveals the five-step strategy men who are charged with felony domestic violence use to get their female victims to recant their stories. Researcher Amy Bonomi, associate professor of human development and family science at Ohio State University, and her team, listened to recorded phone calls between incarcerated men and their female victims. The analysis of these conversations may fundamentally change how victim advocates and prosecutors work with domestic violence victims to prosecute abusers, according to the researchers. Jailhouse phone calls reveal why domestic violence victims recant, from Science Daily. "Meet me at the hill where we used to park": interpersonal …

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Our son acts just like his sociopath father; maybe even worse

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Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Good Mom.” The father of my son was a spath. He is now deceased. He killed himself. He was a drug and alcohol addict and he was very abusive. I was beaten regularly. I was a possession. He owned me and he owned everything that was mine. He lied as easily as he breathed. I went through a very difficult break up with him when my son was 3 years old. I did not know until after his death that he was a spath. We have a son who is now 37 years old, and I do believe this is hereditary because he is also a spath and acts exactly the same as his father, maybe even worse. I had never known anyone who beh …

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I discovered after 15 years of marriage, my husband was a con man

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Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “SanityOK.” He was the president of a youth football league and VP at a company that I discovered he had been stealing from for 30 years. His boss completely trusted him, as well as everyone that knew him or thought they did. My children, his step children, thought that he walked on water. He was subtly controlling in the beginning and played mind games. He would tell me things like, "we already talked about that." I couldn't remember if we did or didn't and began to question my sanity. I became severely depressed after six years and was hospitalized. I thought I should be happy, because everyone els …

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Canadian man admits 37 years of lies to family, friends and four ex-wives

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In 1977, Ronald Stan, a 32-year-old, cheating-on-his-wife, father- of-two plumber from Canada burns down his pig barn, fakes his death and moves to the US where he starts a new life in New Orleans as Jeff Walton. After 37 years of living a lie, three American wives, and a son named Jeff Jr., Jeff Walton is coming clean to his lies and deceit. He says he initially ran from his life in Canada so his wife could pay off their debts with the insurance money from his death. (Upon hearing Stan was not dead, she returned all of the insurance money.) “It's been almost 40 years that I've lived this lie. And actually I've been a real good boy, except for the philandering. I paid my taxes, I did e …

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Advice for breaking up with narcissists

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Narcissists believe other people are on Earth to serve their needs, so they don't believe in other people's boundaries. According to a recent article on Huffington Post, this continues even after you end a romantic relationship with a narcissist. The author suggests how to deal with the issue. Setting boundaries with a narcissist, on HuffingtonPost.com. Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader. …

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I am now the enemy, and I’ve never witnessed such coldness from the person I used to call my wife

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Editor's Note: This Spath tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who uses the name "Wiserfromit." I believe I was married to a sociopath for over ten years. She was an old date from high school and had recently run into my friend and gotten my email address. We started talking via email for a couple months (we lived about eight hour's  drive from each other). We agreed to meet near her and on our first meeting, she said I love you. I went along with it because it felt too good to be true. We went looking for rings soon after and got engaged about five months after our initial contact. I had proposed to her when she was visiting me in my town and the next day, she was on the phone …

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Cyber stalking made easy with smartphones and spyware

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Editor's Note: This article is a MUST READ for anyone who is being stalked or who needs to keep their location a secret. Because of the latest in smart phone technology, husbands, wives, lovers and exes don't need to leave the comfort of their homes, or hire a private detective, to be able to know their victim's every move. All they have to do is secretly monitor their victim's smart phone, tablet or computer. Stalkers now have software such as MSpy, which is easy to install. All that's needed is a few minutes alone with a victim's smart phone to download the app, activate it, and delete any visible trace of it. The cyber stalker then has the ability to listen in on every conversation, …

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Mary Ann Glynn: Book Review of ‘The Psychopath Inside’

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The Psychopath Inside: A Neuroscientist's Personal Journey into the Dark Side of the Brain — by James Fallon Review by Mary Ann Glynn I first came across James Fallon's research on a show about psychopathy and the brain on the Science Channel. I was fascinated by what he found out by mistake about his own brain, which has added an interesting and significant spin to the discussion of nature and nurture in psychopathy. For thirty-five years James Fallon has been a neuroscientist educator and researcher, and has engineered major breakthroughs in stem cell research. His research lab led to the creation of three biotech companies, one of which won a national award from peers. His main areas of s …

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Mark Manson reveals why ‘Love is Not Enough’

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Mark Manson is an author and entrepreneur who posts on his website hundreds of articles about psychology and modern culture. ”˜Love is Not Enough' is a straightforward look at love through Mark Manson's eyes. Manson compares John Lennon's notion that “all you need is love” with Nine Inch Nails' Trent Reznor's idea that “love is not enough.” Manson sides with Reznor and warns that there are three harsh truths about love: love does not equal compatibility, love does not solve your relationship problems, and love is not always worth sacrificing yourself. Manson summarizes that love is a wonderful experience. It's one of the greatest experiences life has to offer. And it is something ever …

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Blame the victim, again

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Editor's Note: This SPATH tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name “Sisyphus Unchained.” He was handsome; he was charming; he had an incredible zest for life.  But more importantly he was manipulative, deceitful and dangerous. In 2007 I met a man with whom I thought I shared interests: educational/community development projects in Southern Africa. He portrayed himself as the founder of a South African-based charitable project focused on the needs of orphaned/disadvantaged youths in the townships of Johannesburg (which much later, once I investigated further, all turned out to be non-existent). Over the course of the next four years he skillfully interspersed his r …

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