Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People, by Jackson Mackenzie Review by Donna Andersen I admit I've been remiss. Jackson Mackenzie's book, Psychopath Free, came out in 2015, and I just finished reading it. I think I need about 48 hours in the day. Anyway, if you've been romantically involved with a psychopath or other disordered individual, Psychopath Free will ring true for you. Jackson does an excellent job of describing the cycle of an involvement with a psychopath, from the glorious beginning when you're feeling high on all the attention, to the confusion of the mind games in the middle, to the utter …
Webinar preview: How to Navigate a Court Proceeding when the Opposing Party Is a Sociopath
Personality disordered individuals lie, blame and exaggerate in life — and do the same in court. By anticipating what your opponent will do, you will not be blindsided; you'll be prepared. Here's how to overcome their tactics and prove your case. About this course In your dealings with a personality-disordered individual, you've learned that this person lies, blames and exaggerates. In court, despite swearing an oath to tell the truth, he or she will continue to lie, blame and exaggerate. How do you protect yourself? How do you make your case? In this webinar, you'll learn how the traits and tactics of disordered individuals typically play out in court. This will enable you to a …
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Are you changing in ways you don’t like? Maybe your partner’s a sociopath
Sociopaths are fueled by our reactions to them—so sociopaths trigger our emotions. What are the signs this is happening? Looking back on my unwitting marriage to a man I now believe is a sociopath, I realize that some of the warning signs that I was in a relationship with a sociopath were changes in my own behavior. My book, Husband, Liar, Sociopath chronicles that marriage and the painful lessons learned. My book, Narcissists, Sociopaths & Wolves includes a summary of some of the warning signs of being in a relationship with a sociopath. It took me way too long to understand this, but since sociopaths are fueled by our emotional reactions to them, they trigger our emotions on pur …
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Fill in the blank: ‘Detaching from the abuser in my life feels like _____’
By Eleanor Cowan One early evening at the end of the second year in my support group for Parents of Sexually Abused Children, we were invited to participate in a new activity together. Our lead Social Worker, Aidan, also an artist and storyteller, suggested that we complete two unfinished sentences, each in our own words. The first was, “Detaching from the abuser(s) in my life feels like _____. The second was, “Once I let go, I found myself _____. I’d like to share the responses I heard that evening with Lovefraud readers. Aidan, also a former victim of physical predation both in her childhood and in her adult life, began: “Finally detaching from my abuser dissolved tiny sha …
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8 reasons why we can’t see what’s wrong with the sociopath
"I could smell the smoke, but I could never find the fire." That's how one Lovefraud reader explained her experience with a sociopath. She sensed that something was terribly wrong, but could never figure out what it was. Other Lovefraud readers described the same situation this way, "I knew something was off, but I couldn't put my finger on it." Why is this? Why can't we see what later turns out to be massive lying, exploitation and betrayal? Following are eight reasons why we may suspect that something about the sociopath isn't right, but we don't identify it. We don't know sociopaths exist. No one tells us that 12% of women and 16% of men — 47 million people in the U.S. — a …
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Do sociopaths actually know what they are?
I receive a lot of email from readers, and over the years many have asked some variation of the question: Do sociopaths know what they are? Do they realize that something is wrong with them? The answer varies with the individual sociopath, because they aren't all the same. Generally, though, I believe sociopaths know that they are different from the rest of the human race. However, most are not bothered by their difference. They view themselves as superior. It's easy to see where this attitude comes from. Because sociopathy is highly genetic, and is influenced by the early childhood environment, sociopaths usually never were anything but sociopaths. They never experienced a true …
Find yourself explaining common courtesy and common use of language? Maybe he’s a sociopath!
Confusion over common courtesy, typical use of language, and purposeful misrepresentations If you find yourself in conversations that come down to common courtesy, common understanding of language, or purposeful misrepresentations (especially if the language used creates a misunderstanding but is not an outright lie), get out, and get out fast. Sociopaths are masters of: doublespeak word salad playing games with semantics planting distracting misinterpretations of events purposefully misleading. The result is that you get tied up in knots just trying to agree upon the basic facts or “normal” human behavior. This is a warning sign! Most people want to communicate effe …
The sociopath came on strong and romantic — it was all a fraud
Editor's note: Lovefraud received the following email from a reader whom we'll call "Wilma18." The sociopath was engaged to my daughter. She is a very trusting and caring person. She was living in a town that was not close to family or friends and met this sociopath on a dating website. He lied to her from the beginning about past relationships. He came on strong and romantic. She doesn't fall for men quickly, but he was patient and after six months she was in love with him (his scam). There were signs that something wasn't exactly right but they happened so few and far between and when she happened to mention them to friends and family, she wasn't mentioning them to the same …
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After the sociopath, consumed by obsession
The illusion is vaporized. One way or another, you have discovered that your partner, family member, friend or colleague is a sociopath. Maybe you unearthed one lie too many. Or maybe the mask slipped and the person unceremoniously dumped you. However it happened, you've learned that he or she has been lying to you all along. And now you're obsessed. You want to know the truth. You want to know where the sociopath really was, who the sociopath was really with, what happened to the money. With your new awareness of his or her lying personality, you recall multiple incidents that left you scratching your head, and now look at them in an entirely different light, trying to figure out what …
Psychopaths can consider another’s perspective — if they want to
Psychopaths can understand what their victims are thinking, but they just don't care. New research cited in The Atlantic has looked into the psychopathic "theory of mind" — the human skill through which we consider the perspective of someone else. It turns out most of us have the ability to do this automatically. Psychopaths, however, do it when it will help them achieve their goals — and otherwise switch the ability off. How psychopaths see the world, on TheAtlantic.com. Link supplied by a Lovefraud reader. …
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