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I continued to choose him over everyone and everything that ever mattered to me

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Editor's note: Lovefraud received this story from a reader whom we'll call "Ellie." This is the story of how I allowed myself to become emotionally dismantled by the man to whom I chose to give my heart. I loved him unconditionally. I accepted and forgave him without judgment. I empathized with stories of his childhood, when he felt unseen, unloved and insecure. I nurtured him through times of deep depression, drug abuse and alcoholism. I made excuse after excuse by rationalizing his behavior and convincing myself that I knew he could be more than what he was. I believed he could be the man I saw him to be, the man he wished he could be ”¦ I held on to hope that it would be ok, and that th …

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My Unwitting Relationship With A Sociopath Corroded Who “I” Was

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Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 37B: “It's Like Deja  Vu All Over Again.” (Yogi Berra) Soon after, I required minor surgery. As I had with Jessica's testing, I involved Paul when setting a date for the procedure to ensure he would be available to help the kids and me. I was forced to reschedule my procedure two times, because Paul's work demands kept trumping my health needs. Two days before the surgery, he called …

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‘Sextortion Queen’ tricks men into performing sex acts on Skype, then blackmails them

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Maria Caparas-Regalachuelo of the Philippines, aka the "Sextortion Queen," boasts that it only takes 30 minutes to convince men to get naked and perform sex acts via Skype. Then she posts the videos to YouTube and threatens to send them to the victims' families, unless they pay up. In an exclusive interview with the Daily Mail, she details exactly how the scam works. She has a crew of "chatters," mostly young girls and transgender men, who troll the Internet looking for targets. When they find a target, they play a pre-recorded video of an Asian woman performing a striptease, and then send a string of racy text messages. The whole process is tightly scripted. Caparas is now in prison in th …

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Girl, 15, charged with killing her father to protect her mother from abuse

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Johnathan Meadows lay sleeping in the early hours of July 28, 2016, when his 14-year-old daughter, Bresha, allegedly shot him in the head with his own .45 caliber gun. "Now mommy, you're free," Bresha said to her mother, Brandi. Brandi had endured years of abuse from Johnathan, she said. Her husband would get drunk and menace the family with a gun. "I wasn't strong enough to leave," she told Fox8, calling her daughter a "hero." Supporters pack courtroom where teen girl, 15, is charged with killing her father to protect her mother after 'years of abuse,' on DailyMail.co.uk.   …

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Being Criticized, Undermined, And Dismissed – The New Normal Once Hooked By A Sociopath

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Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 37A: “It's Like Deja Vu All Over Again.” (Yogi Berra) After the first seven years of my doomed marriage, Paul and I had “bottomed out,” and I almost left. Seven years later, our marriage was back on life support. By then, Jessica was twelve and Daniel almost nine. I was miserable. Nothing I did was ever right. If I made breakfast for Paul, he said he was too busy to eat breakfast to …

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If you are being stalked, here’s advice from a woman who’s lived it

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January is National Stalking Awareness Month. Vicki Kuper of Iowa was stalked for years by her former romantic partner, Mike Bonert, and has successfully held him accountable so far. Vicki went to the authorities and got a No Contact order which wasn't easy. Bonert proceeded to violate it 24 times. Vicki then was able to have Bonert prosecuted, which also wasn't easy. He was convicted and sentenced to 11 years in prison, then an additional 10 years for his fifth stalking charge. He appealed his conviction, but still served four and a half years. The Iowa Court of Appeals recently affirmed Bonert's stalking conviction. Bonert is already out on parole, but he must wear a GPS ankle bracelet …

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17-year-old girl allegedly lures teenagers to a robbery that turns into murder

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Sheahonni Davis, 17, of Syracuse, New York, allegedly lured two teenage brothers to a meeting last Tuesday. Davis and two friends, Toriano Newson and Curtis Paige III, planned to rob the boys, according to authorities. The robbery went bad and the boys, Daniel Diaz-Marrero and Ismael Diaz Marrero, were shot dead. Girl, 17, lured two teenage brothers to a daylight robbery where they were shot dead, say prosecutors, on DailyMail.co.uk.   …

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Is it parental alienation, or protecting children from sociopaths?

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Editor's note: The Lovefraud reader "tootrusting" posted the following as a comment on yesterday's article, Horrifying saga of multiple predators, sexually abused children and murder. She asked an important question. Donna, have you heard about the young 12-year-old girl in Georgia, who took her own life, and streamed it live for all to see? This tragedy occurred December 30, 2016, and I just learned of it yesterday. It seems she had to grow up very young in life, and just could not take it anymore. This story has rocked me, and my heart breaks for the life this young soul endured. It appears many people, whom she should've been able to count on, repeatedly let her down. Mom, Dad, …

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Horrifying saga of multiple predators, sexually abused children and murder

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After all these years of running Lovefraud, at times I am still shocked by some people's level of depravity. Sara Packer, of Bucks County, Pennsylvania, worked as an adoption supervisor and, along with her husband, David Packer, fostered 30 children. In 2004, Sara and David Packer adopted Grace Packer and her brother when Grace was three years old. David Packer was later convicted of sexually abusing Grace and a learning-disabled foster child. He went to prison. Sara Packer took up with a new boyfriend Jacob Sullivan. Grace Packer disappeared in July 2016. She was 14 years old. Now authorities say Sullivan beat, raped and murdered Grace, while Sara Packer watched. There's more. This sto …

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Sociopaths Triangulate To Keep You Off-balance And Doubting Yourself

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Every week, a chapter of my book, "Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned" (available via Amazon.com, just click on the title or book cover) will be published here on Lovefraud. To read prior chapters, please see the links at the bottom of the post. Chapter 36: One Big, Happy Extended Family Two years after starting A-M-P Consulting Solutions, we were stable enough financially to do something we had not done in years—go on a family vacation. I was excited about getting away, just Paul, Jessica, Daniel, and me. My enthusiasm was short-lived, however. Paul and Anne-Marie realized if they conducted business while on “vacation,” they co …

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