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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Hindsight is 20/20; his love was a fraud (Part 2 – Absolute power)

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Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "Lil' Bit." This is a three-part letter. Read Part 1 — The Imbalance. This is Part 2 — Absolute Power. Kindhearted people too often are preyed upon by Narcissists  I have known many Narcissists in my lifetime. I had not yet been schooled on the psychology of narcissism though, but looking back now, obviously my education had begun, I just had not realized yet what it was that I was seeing. I chuckle still as I recall X exclaim that he could relate well with all my exes, evil men, drug addicts, pedophiles, violent men and thieves, who like him, once they realized they could not be who they …

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LETTER TO LOVEFRAUD: Hindsight is 20/20; his love was a fraud (Part 1 – The imbalance)

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Editor's Note: This letter to Lovefraud was submitted by the Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "Lil' Bit." This is a three-part letter. This is Part 1 — The Imbalance. I have never been ashamed of surviving what others are capable of, in fact once I fight back the bitterness and anger I fill with pride that it wasn't in my heart to even fathom their true intent. Inasmuch as it hurts to breathe the stagnant air of the world's disease, too many, looking out for themselves at any cost, I would rather endure the hell I have, losing all that others covet in their attempts to emulate what they can only pretend to be. I prefer it be that I don't have it in my heart to see such things e …

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Not all sociopaths are charming and polished

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Editor's Note: This SPATH Tale was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we'll call “Leslie Ann.” The names in this story have been changed. I met Matt. I was tired of dating and definitely tired of dating jerks. Matt was stable, not as good looking as the men I had dated before, in fact he seemed a little awkward. He was very kind and polite. I was ready to get married and settle down. He said he had been divorced for 8 years and that his wife has lived in another bedroom for their 18 year marriage and was cold to him but that they had a peaceful marriage. He was starved for love and was so wanting to find his soul mate. He had dreamed of finding woman who looked like me. I'm pet …

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International bigamist con man Will Jordan pleads guilty to theft by deception

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MT. HOLLY, NEW JERSEY William Allen Jordan, 49, of Cherry Hill, New Jersey, pleaded guilty to theft by deception Monday, admitting that he pretended to be an official from the U.K. to convince a woman to give him money. In a plea bargain, Jordan admitted that he took $4,383 from Mischele Lewis, 36, of Florence Township, New Jersey. Jordan accepted a sentence of three years in a New Jersey state prison. He was ordered to pay Mischele restitution of $4,383. He agreed to have no contact with Mischele or her family. He waived his right to appeal the case. Sentencing was set for February 6, 2015. Fake identity When Jordan and Mischele met online in January 2013, he told her, in a …

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Brad Robinson: Are you being tracked while in your vehicle?

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By Brad Robinson, Private Investigator Increasingly, we are contacted by clients who are convinced that their sociopath is tracking or monitoring them even when they are alone in their vehicle. Sometimes this is merely the imagination of someone who (often with good reason) has become frightened and a bit paranoid. Often we are able to determine that their ex (or a friend or relative he has co-opted or a private investigator he has hired) is physically surveilling our client. Increasingly, however, our investigation reveals that our client has become the victim of technical surveillance, i.e., a device has been secretly installed on/in their vehicle. GPS = Global Positioning System By …

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Letter to the next target

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A Lovefraud reader who goes by the name "new_day" knows the next target her sociopathic ex has lined up. New_day and the sociopath divorced when their son was one year old. He then left the next girlfriend before their baby's first birthday. He just proposed to the current girlfriend. It really bothers new_day to sit back and watch. She wants to warn the woman, but doesn't dare, because then she will be back in the drama. Here's what new_day would like to say to her ex-husband's next target: Do you catch yourself wondering why he tells those little white lies; I mean about things that aren't even worth lying about? Or why he is so secretive about things that aren't even worth lying ab …

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‘The Stir’ posts about warning signs of a secret life

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Donna Andersen was recently interviewed for an article on "The Stir," part of Cafemom.com. They include: Your gut is telling you something's wrong He disappears or travels a lot He has unreasonable boundaries He lies and keeps secrets The author, Kiri Blakeley, did a great job.You'll want to read the story: 10 scary signs your man is living a secret life, on TheStir.Cafemom.com. …

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‘Gone Girl’ and a missed opportunity

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[youtube_sc url=http://youtu.be/Ym3LB0lOJ0o] I went to see Gone Girl this weekend, spurred by reports from several Lovefraud readers that the film reminded them of the psychopaths in their lives. In my opinion, the story was a realistic portrayal of psychopathic behavior until it descended into psychopathic cliché. Here's the official synopsis on GoneGirlMovie.com: GONE GIRL — directed by David Fincher and based upon the global bestseller by Gillian Flynn — unearths the secrets at the heart of a modern marriage. On the occasion of his fifth wedding anniversary, Nick Dunne (Ben Affleck) reports that his beautiful wife, Amy (Rosamund Pike), has gone missing. Under pressure from the pol …

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Will Jordan offered plea deal of three years in prison

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Will Jordan, of Cherry Hill, New Jersey, was back in court yesterday after being charged with scamming Mischele Lewis of Florence Township. During plea negotiations, Jordan offered to spend a year in the county jail, followed by five years of probation. That deal was rejected by both the victim and the Burlington County, New Jersey, prosecutor. Instead, the prosecutor offered three years in state prison and a lifetime No Contact order. If Jordan rejects this deal, the case will go to trial. Love fraudster accused of scamming Florence woman gets new plea offer, on BurlingtonCountyTimes.com.   …

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Advice for breaking up with narcissists

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Narcissists believe other people are on Earth to serve their needs, so they don't believe in other people's boundaries. According to a recent article on Huffington Post, this continues even after you end a romantic relationship with a narcissist. The author suggests how to deal with the issue. Setting boundaries with a narcissist, on HuffingtonPost.com. Story suggested by a Lovefraud reader. …

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