[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/ctHtmbXsvP8"] When was the last time you dressed up and took yourself out on a date? Why not? You keep going out on dates trying to get to know other people, how about you get to know yourself too? I know it sounds crazy to go on a date by yourself, but trust me, I had to do it myself and it works! I don’t of course ask myself, hey where are you from, what achievements or failures did you have in life, I don’t even bother asking what the hell happened any more, because no one seems to have a clue including myself. Instead, I follow all the protocols for a date, that is, no phone, no computer, nothing to be busy with, just sit out there and get to know you …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 16: VISUALISE
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/faoQf9DozPI"] When we visualise, we normally form a mental image of something. If you have ever paid attention to the kind of mental pictures while browsing the lovefraud pages, since you first came across to this site, you have probably been petrified. You probably considered yourself a well-educated, well-rounded person, with great empathy, affection, attention and care for all, but you probably felt like a zebra chased by a lion, a fish caught by a bear or a rabbit tortured by a fox. It’s impossible for anyone to understand a predator and a prey relationship unless they have been a victim too. When you feel like you’re in a war, all the scenes of the bl …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 15: DREAM
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/GGcPkJwCUgs"] Have you ever wondered where your childhood toys are? The toys you used to play with, imagine with and dream with, what happened to them? That little racing car, the noisy steam train, that beautiful doll… Your mind is probably travelling 30, 40, 50 years back wondering about your lost toys. Well, I have lost my childhood toys too, I just don’t know where they are. But let’s think for a second, what else has gone missing with those toys… Imagination. Why don’t we dream and imagine the same way we used to when playing with our childhood toys? Dreaming is absolutely necessary for our healing and recovery. Dreams are what will fill up that bl …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 14: WORK OUT
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/F4iQS00wMgc"] If you were to tell people you are going for a run a few decades ago, they would wonder who is chasing you. Times have changed... Now working out is considered part of our healthy lifestyle. It seems like the industrial and modern hi-tech revolutions have transformed our lifestyle choices. We could spend the entire day operating fancy devices and machines without much physical activity. In the past sessions we have learned the advantage of waking up early at 5am to start your day with You first, to allocate enough time for yourself to observe your thoughts, feelings and emotions, letting them pass. In the future sessions we will learn how …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 13: GET OUT
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/Q37vFT5ebFQ"] How would you feel or rather what would you do if I were to sneak behind you right now and dump a bucket full of ice cold water over your head? I don’t know about you, but I am guessing I would get a black eye! Why wouldn’t you like a fresh cold water showering all over you, cleansing and invigorating your entire body, what’s wrong with that? I am guessing your answer is, that it is simply discomforting, it is a very awkward thing to do and it just makes you feel cold, your clothes wet, messes up the area you are in right now and so on. In other words, it throws you off, it takes you out of your comfort zone. Friends, let me share with you …
10 lessons from the mistakes we made with sociopaths
Many years ago, I attended a workshop presented by Patricia Sun, a pioneer of the self-awareness movement. One of the things she talked about was shifting our views about making mistakes. We tend to fear making mistakes, and when we do make mistakes, we berate ourselves. But in reality, mistakes are a part of life. There are no instruction manuals for most of the choices we make. Life, therefore, is a series of decisions made mostly by trial and error. We never progress in a straight line towards out goals. We have false starts and detours, but with time and persistence, we get to where we want to go. Patricia Sun talked about viewing mistakes as opportunities to make course corrections. …
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Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 12: BPOSITIVE
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/IIMesvnR6Xw"] Gone are the times when apples and blackberries were simply fruits and hard drive was a difficult journey. Times are changing friends…There is something about bananas though that has always caught my attention. They always seem to smile at me. Does this ever happen to you? If not, I will tell you a secret - every time you buy a banana or just before savouring one, pause for a moment and hold it sideways. Without any exaggeration, it flashes cartoon eyes, smiles wide and winks at you. If you want to check it for yourself, please try it out and share your comments here. Be positive! Do you know how far can you go simply by being positive? W …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 11: BGRATEFUL
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/O9o_065nFwY"] Friends when is the last time you felt gratitude for having two eyes to see and two ears to hear? I know there are so many things we don’t take a notice of, but think about people who dream to have what you have, dream to be where you are and dream to have food on their table and fresh running water every day. How grateful would they feel to be in your place? Think of people in the war zones watching their homes burn in flames, wishing for peace, shelter and company. How grateful would they be to be in your place? I know it is very challenging to feel grateful when you are traumatised, but think how it could help you on this self-love and r …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 10: WAKE UP
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/1Rx9c_yzIqU"] How do you wake up when you feel traumatised? Your answer is likely to be one of these two - you either cannot fall asleep in the first place, still thinking what the hell happened, or you snooze and keep snoozing, because there doesn’t seem to be any compelling reason to wake up… Some people don’t sleep because of insomnia, some others can’t sleep because of an internet connection but you probably can’t wake up because you are addicted to escaping the reality. All those thoughts, feelings and emotions still keep boiling inside you for the person or people near and dear to your heart that you lost, the valuable connections that you have bu …
Self-Love and Healing Journey Day 9: HOLD ON
[youtube_sc url="https://youtu.be/1CWpqSU3PRA"] If you are like me, you have probably figured out pretty quick that it hurts to let go, but at times it hurts even more to hold on. This practice is not really an understanding of holding on to people or things that matter for us, but rather an interpretation of holding on to the precious sparkling diamond inside us. Throughout this practice together we will find the charcoal that has been inhibiting deep inside us and polish it to make it a precious stone that will receive everyone’s admiration. Drawing parallels with the natural formation of the diamonds underneath the Earth’s surface and sufferings of the lovefraud readers, this pra …