On and off for the past four years, I’ve been mentioning my upcoming book about my experience with a sociopath, James Montgomery, and my recovery from the ordeal. Well, the book, Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan, is at the printer, and will be available in about a month.
In writing the book, I had five goals:
- Drawing attention to the problem of sociopaths.
- Showing how sociopaths weave their web of lies to trap people.
- Exposing the impotence of social institutions in dealing with these predators.
- Explaining why, from a spiritual perspective, we fall into these relationships.
- Offering hope that we can, even after these devastating encounters, recover and flourish.
I’ve launched a new blog specifically for this book. It’s called, simply, Love Fraud ”¦ the book.
I invite all Lovefraud readers to visit the new blog. You’ll find more information about the book. You’ll be able to read the introduction and a chapter. I even have a photo gallery. And, there are reviews. I’ve asked some Lovefraud authors and members to read advance copies of the book and write their impressions. Two are posted.
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My family, of course, has known for a long time that I’ve been working on the book. Two years ago, my young nephew, then eight years old, asked me, “Can I have the first one?”
Of course, I said yes. Then I thought, how will he know which is the first one?
The solution is autographed and numbered first edition copies, which we’re making available to all Lovefraud readers in a special pre-order offer. If you reserve your book now, while it’s at the printer, when they arrive, I will autograph and number it, in the order in which purchases are received. (We’re up to number 5.)
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Different discussion
I’ll keep posting articles on Love Fraud ”¦ the book. As you all have a chance to read the book, you may have questions, which I’ll do my best to answer.
I expect that the blog will take our discussion of entanglements with sociopaths into a new direction. As painful as it was, I learned that the entire experience was an opportunity for spiritual growth. Although we’ve touched on the topic here on the Lovefraud Blog, it will be even more prominent on the new blog.
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Between this website and the new book that’s coming out,
there’s MORE than enough material for an hour-long segment of “Oprah”.
I am thinking there is strength in numbers…….So, if we all e-mail Oprah at the same time, telling her about Donna’s new book, this website, and give a brief explanation why this topic is so important and why the public needs to be educated about socios, I believe we could get someone’s attention and hopefully have some sort of impact.
The goal is to get Donna on Oprah, of course. 🙂
This is how PETA gets things done. They form a group, and do something that causes a huge impact.
And then they get PRESS from it. Voila!!
As victims of socios, I think we need to form some sort of group of our own, and start making ourselves known.
I believe the effect could be profound.
So, I guess I am suggesting that we designate a specific time…..preferably in concert with the official release of Donna’s book….and each of us simultaneously shoots off an e-mail to Oprah in hopes of getting the subject of personality disorders into the mainstream media.
Let’s face it, the “experts” that have been speaking about sociopathy in some of these televised criminal cases have not been doing that great of a job.
This is just one idea that I’ve been thinking of.
Let’s brainstorm….exposure in the media is KEY to educating the public and promoting awareness about sociopaths.
~If anyone is interested in e-mailing Oprah with me, let’s designate a specific date and time, and we’ll all do it at the same time.
We want to create a tsunami-effect.
I’ve emailed Oprah, 20/20, Discovery ID, and other programs and networks. Hopefully, some programming director will recognize the urgency of this subject and give Donna, and others, the attention it commands.
It’s the discussion of the GENERAL population that is imperative, not the classic convicted criminal study. They’re out there, in frigging groups and herds, and sociopathy is escalating at an exponential rate, I believe.
GET THE WORD OUT………and, USE the word, “sociopathy,” in discussion with friends and family. If people want to give us the hairy eyeball when we utter the word, they’re allowed to! But, when they run up on a spath, themselves, they will have the luxury of recollection and say, “You know, I remember Buttons describing exactly the same thing…”
Rosa, yes, I am interested in emailing Oprah with you,
it’s a great idea! I have to leave the house in a few minutes,
will be gone all day, sorry if I miss the brainstorm session,
I’ll try to come up with some ideas that might get some press!
E1972, I really admire you for being so independent
and going out and doing all those fun things by yourself!
I’ve got to get out there too!!
Rosa, Buttons and Shabby, I’m sure Oprah’s staff already reads this site. As do the other networks.
Wini, Oprah (and, others) rarely read or check out websites, themselves – they have a handsomely paid Staff to do it for them and program directors who decide what’s to be done, if anything.
Even before I found this site, I contacted a number of networks and programs with regard to the spath son and his perpetration of “Stolen Valor.” I even sent a hefty package of physical evidence to the POW Network…….nothing.
I’m sure that Donna’s agent is working on the promotion aspects, and it is hoped that “sociopathy” will be given the attention that’s needed, rather than a 15-minute Q&A session. 😀
Silvermoon-thanks for that. I am glad to know that people outside the gulf states are interested in what’s going on. The big deal now is that the President is attempting to make a moratorium on any offshore drilling in the gulf. Nevermind the massive amounts of Louisiana/Mississippi/Alabama jobs lost because tons and tons of people work out on the rigs. It is their livelihood and then comes the commercial fisherman. They are losing their livelihoods down here. It also affects the restaurant industry real bad and that is a large part of our economy in Southeast Louisiana. There is much much less seafood to be found and the prices are shooting up. The locals are still willing to pay the prices because they want to save the restaurants and the fisherman. People in Southeast Louisiana stick together. It will start to get harder once the gas prices skyrocket. We all pay enough for it already. I thank God I have started to cycle and live in a cycle friendly city.
I don’t want to start a political argument here but people need to keep their eyes open and watch what happens in this administration. The President is losing support in Southeast Louisiana. Two courts have struck down his moratorium. He needs to back off. I believe that he wants the gas prices to skyrocket. I believe that he wants full on governmental control of this business here. It makes me think of a word that starts with “S” and has nine letters in it but is NOT the word sociopath-think about it! I have read some articles calling the President a malignant narcissist, like my ex and the two are very similar.
We need to realize that this has far reaching affects. The CDC is now looking at the human health problems that this will bring about for those of us in the region breathing this stuff in, as well as the clean-up workers-bless their hearts. People have shown up in ERs in NOLA with respiratory problems. When I go outside on hot humid days, I can smell it burning and sometimes it’s overwhelming.
Obama blamed Bush for everything. This oil spill is his Katrina and it really sucks that it has to affect us-just like the big storm. People are angry with his administration the same way they were mad at how the Bush administration and our local state/city government handled that storm. Wake up everyone—DEFEND NEW ORLEANS and peace out!!!!
Ido think there are power in numbers…..and certainly the squeeky wheele get’s the grease!
But what I’ve found is people will talk…..but not follow through.
One person can make a small difference…..BUT…..lot’s of people sending a bomb….get’s noticed!
Press likes ‘organization’, that is what is also required to get attention.
I don’t think peeps like a one woman screamer…..but lot’s of women…..well, that’s just scarey!
🙂
I’m in…..I got MY voice!!!!
ErinBrock, that is an understatement. Folks do just that … talk a good game, but never wanting to walk the walk. That’s because the evil ones ensure folks get what they want (to a point) so they are aware of what they DON’T want to loose. That’s why Jesus said, the humble (meaning those that go with the least of the worldly trappings will inherit the world). To give all you have is to get ALL that God wants for us. Jesus told us NOT to pay attention to the ways of the world … don’t focus on the trappings of possessions of the world.
I remember when my bosses first went after me … slowly … little by little not making big waves YET …until they wanted to lower the boom. A former supervisor of mine saw me at the coffee truck in morning break and said to me “congratulations Wini”. I looked at him perplexed and said “congratulations for what”? He said “for buying your own house”! I said “blank, I bought my house years ago”! He just smiled. Looking at his statement in hindsight, he was telling me “pay attention to what you have Wini … because if you don’t like what your bosses are doing to you … you will loose that house”.
That’s how they play you. Take from you what you worked for. They don’t care what it is … it can be your children, your family, your spouse or significant other, your way of life, your home, your vehicle, your money, your career … they will go after it. This is why most people are deaf, dumb and blind when it comes to witnessing evil that befalls another.
Jesus told us the only things we needed were to love our neighbors, sandals on our feet, a cloak over our back, food in our stomachs (which includes water) and reading, comprehending and abiding in His truth. The rest is man made evils that will warp your soul.
Peace.
I definitely think organization is the key to having a voice and being heard about whatever your cause may be.
But, it’s a very difficult task to accomplish without getting behind some politician or political group.
And that’s the LAST thing I want to do!
Politicians are part of the problem that needs to be addressed.
It’s a vicious circle……I’m frustrated.
Erin1972,
I think that you’re right, not being thrilled about the current President and his administration along with Congress. Big egos. They seem to think that the government (taxpayers money) can pay for everything, not understanding economics at all. They have an easy time spending other people’s money since it’s accessible, but there isn’t a sufficient amount of money to fund everything, spending what they don’t have, a vicious cycle. I am unimpressed by our government at this time.